How can I tell my mom I was raped?

this happened when I had just turned 7 and happened abroad when I went to visti family. the rapist is a family member my mums brother. im am now 15 and havnt been able to tell anyone especially my mum. my mum isnt one of then people you can 'talk' to becos I know she will tell someone else and ill end up gettin pity and if I do tell her then the last connection she has with her father willl be lost all because of me and also I think I have left it too late to tell her maybe she wont believe me now. I've been back abroad a few times after the rape and have faced him too im not afraid of him anymore but I havnt confronted him directly. hes all free with me talks to me as if nothin ever happeened between us or maybe hes forgottten or somethin. he was only 14 at the time I doubt he can remeber and if he does then hes doin a darn good job of hidin it. I've kept this insyd me for ages not havin the courage to tell anyone becos I think partially it was own fault I dont want to report him or anythin because he doesnt even live in this country and at the end of the day family is family and forgiv and foget which I cant do neither of forgive or forget. I just need to know if I've lft it too late to tell anyone. I dont want to see anyone eg councillors because I find it hard to talk to people face to face or on the phone and also I may be going back abroad in a few months too I just want to know how I should face him. how should I act around him you get me? please help me here

Well honey, its is very hard to face that kind of problem. You have to listen to your heart. Like you said family is family. You are a part of your mother she will love you forever. You said you have not been able to tell anyone. Well today you took the first step of being a survior. You told us. I am proud of you. It will hurt when you go back in your thoughts to think of it. But keep fighting it to make you stronger. It is not too late. I never told my parents they found out somehow, 3 years after I was molested. There is a new movie out called Georgia's Rule. It invovles this kinda sutiation with 3 generations. if you feel you can not talk to family or friends, it is important to resolve how you feel comfortable. I became stronger, by getting invovled with the community. I want to help prevent this from happening to anyone else. lets talk. Reply anytime I will respond as soon as I can. If you need anything. Remember it is not your fault you were only a child. Remeber you are beautiful, and can have the world in whatever way you want

Im very sorry you had to go through something like that,and I know in your mind your not sure how your mother is going to take it .But sweetheart I will be real and honest with you and I know your still hurting over what this person has done `but you have to get this weight off your shoulders the longer you keep it in the worse your going to feel and you can`t put it on the back burner and try to forget about it , because that person that hurt you could hurt another child, you should find a quit place and sit your mother down and tell her exactly what happend , don`t be afraid you`ve got over the hard part by telling us the one thing that is hurting you so deeply and that took a lot of courage, I hope and pray that I helped you a little. Sweetheart if you feel you can`t talk to your mother talk to your teachers or school counsler and keep talking until you are heard. None of what happend to you is your fault don`t forget that. your a little angel that just grew some big wings, because you`ve decided to talk to someone,God bless you and I`ll keep you in my prayers.

I just cnt tell my mum. whenever something happens in my life that involves reputation or guys then I always get the blame. im from a family that dont allowed relationships outside of marriage and if im seeing havin any kind of indecent relationship with guys I can end up getting kicked out of my own home. im not trying to offend my mum but thats how it is in my family. kind of strict. I dont know how my mum will react to what happened and how she will accept it was her own flesh and blood who did it. it'll break her heart and I dont want to see my mum get hurt what so ever and as I said before I dont think he even remembers what he did or is really really hiding it. I mean he had just turned 14 at the time. im not even going to think asbout forgiving him. there is no way that is going to happen. I just dont know how to face him and tll him that I know what he did and im not going to let it go and say something like he has to pay because he really has to pay for what he did

well I think you should tell your mom or someone that you know that can help you even if it is hard it might be easire to face the raptics but sorry thtas the best advice I could give

heya hunni! I too was raped when I was very young (5 years old!) and also am now 15. the police found out although I'd never told anyone but it had turned out that the person who raped me (my ex-best friends dad) had also been doing the same to my ex-best friends cousin who had told her mum who had gone to police. so I have never really talked to my mum about it or anyone else for that fact and I also find it really hard to tell people about it even on msn and stuff it still makes me cry fior hours (even writing this) and up until about 6months ago I only got about 2 hours sleep most nights because I would have these graphical images of it in my head everytime I closed my eyes. I felt I was a retard and was stupid because I'd gotten raped and still sometimes do but you've just gotta remember that it's not your fault! I really urge you to talk to your mum about it because you can't carry on meeting the guy who raped you. everytime I go past the prison the dad was put in or my ex-best friends house I get the images come back and can't breathe until they go away and I think I would probably faint if I met the guy so I can understand how hard it is for you! so seriously tell your mum and im sure she will believe you as it's not really something most mums would take a chance on as it is a very serious issue! if you tell her you can avoid meeting him which I think is a very good idea if you are anything like me!
good luck hunni and if you ever need someone to talk to whos been through the same thing im always here ok!
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its hard but its never too late sweetie. im so sorry to hear that its not fair it happend to you. If I was you I would look at my mom and say ' mom I've been scared to tell you, but I cant keep it in any longer, and tell her' she wont be mad if she thinks its a joke tell her your serious and you thought hat your own mother would understand you she will believe you shel help you shel comfort you It is the best thing to do. <3

It is not your fault. Talk to your mom. It is happening everyday. Talk to someone. This needs to stop. You should not have to carry this heavy burden. You did not chose to have an indecent relationship. He broke the trust and took that from you. I am so sorry you are going through this. You are a victim, you need some pity as a child. the last 7 years have not been a natural childhood for you, because of this. You deserve to have all your dreams come true. You only get one chance in this world, it is your world. No one can decide how you live. Just stay strong. When the time is right you will make your choice. Until then, you can talk to us about anything

Regardless of the situation...If you have been raped and you still feel like you should tell someone...then tell someone...even if it isnt your mother...sometimes forgiving is hard...but remember its for your benefit...you will never forget...but talking to someone will ease the pain...
I've been raped...and I took my time to tell people...I was 7 and it was a family friend...I told my mother when I was 18...but I had come to terms with it before that...just make sure you are comfortable in telling her...if not...wait untill you sort yourself out...thats the most important thing.

I went through the same thing, except it wasn't a family member, and I didnt tell my mom for a year and a half.. and I wouldn't have told her, but my best friend did because she was worried about me. You have to tell someone because you need the proper counselling to get all your emotions out, and to learn how to deal with the 'pitty' (Even though its not really pitty, people will just want to help you)
And, whether he remembers or not (Which he probably does), it doesnt matter. What he did was wrong and you deserve to get through it. If you do not get the proper councelling now, it can affect you later on in life, with relationships, work, when you decide to have kids. Please get some help and tell your mom. If you do not feel comfortable telling your mom, then tell someone you do feel comfortable with. Good luck

GET SOME OF your FRIENDS AND GO KICK HIS RAPIST A** OR REPORT IT BECAUSE HE MIGHT DO THAT TO SOME OTHER LITTLE GIRL

Hya drlin< omg babe!! thats bad!! the wanka shunt get away wid it, first of all ya want to tell ya mom straight away!! and he will go to prison, hes sick!
if it woz me I wuda killed him chick!! hes a sick man and he dunt deserve 2 be ere but if he can do it once he can do it again, so youu need to sort it!! tell ya mom babe, dont let him get away wid it!!! love ya babeeyy. x x x x x x x x x

you dont have to tell your mom just TELL SOMEONE you will feal beter and be able to get help the same thing happened to my mom IT WAS HER STEP DAD but think if he did it to you he will probably do it to someone else and its not ok to just sit back and let him get away with it even if its easier to.

and you have to remember not to be embarrassed about it ITS NOT your FAULT! IT COULD HAPPEN TO ANYONE

Well first of all, you need to tell our mother. I was raped at a party and my mother was dating the guys father. He was my age and I didn't want to ruin my mothers happyness so I kept it to mysellf for 2yrs. Those were the worst 2yrs of my life and I regreted every min. of not telling someone. I'm not going to lie. At first your mom will act diffrently. Not because she blames you but because she feels bad she was unable to protect her little girl. Please it will hurt at first but in the end, it makes all the diffrence.
P.S. When I finnaly told my mom I wrote a letter gave it to her and whent for a walk for 15min. To give her time to soke it all in. when I came back she was crying but wasn't mad. She just kept hugging me over and over again. if your afraid to talk to her just write a letter and come to 'talk' to her on you're own time.

I know it may be hard to talk to your mother about this, but this is something that she NEEDS to know. trust me, its going to take a lot of courage to tell her. but youve gotta. and just remember.. its never too late.

ill keep you in my heart in prayers. everything will fall into place, I promise<3
and also, talk to God about it...

Hey, You should tell your mom. If you tell your mom, she could help you through this tough time. Report that guy, because if you dont, he could do it to another innocent little girl. And he might even go farther with her and kill her. you were one of the lucky ones. You got to live. Now you should do your part, and turn him in. you might save a life...

Thats pretty gud advide from wonderpetsrule, you need 2 tel sme1, this person deserves 2 die, you are a human being and he thought just because you are young you wouldnt tel! wel you should prove him wrong and get his but in jail!

YEH YOU NEED TO F|_|CKING TELL SOMEONE
YOU BEEN HURT AND YOU HAVNT TOLD, HOWDYOU KNOW HE WONT DO IT AGAIN
YOUR MUM WILL BELIEVE YOU, IF NOT SHES NOT A GOOD ENOUGH MUM.
THEIR THERE TO GOVE THE BENIFET OF THE DUBT EVEN OVER HER BROTHER
IF ALL ELSE FAILS, THE POLICE WILL BELIEVE YOU AND TAKE SERIES ACTION

what happend to you happend to me I was also 7 and my cusin was 18 or 17 I am now 11 and he is 23 and he wants me still to do the sex to him?? what should I do I cant face him when he gets near me he wants to touch my legs and also I havent told any one about this?? please help me???

shawty96 - Honey, you need to tell your parents. You can't be around that man and you need to tell someone that. Please. Stay AWAY FROM HIM. If he starts to touch you excuse yourself to go to the bathroom or something and then grab a phone and call the POLICE. This is a very serious situation and you could get really hurt.

anoymus1 - You also need to tell someone. Even if it isn't your mother. I understand that is hard. I finally told my parents when I was molested but it was awkward. I was also 9 and I didn't really understand my emotions. YOu do need to tell someone so you can sort out emotions even if you don't think it is that serious. I truly doubt he has forgotton what he did so I think you should make sure that he doesn't do it again. Nobody wants that and trust me this pain will feel 10 times worse if another girl got taken advantage of before you said anything. Please tell someone!

you need to tell someone. I kmow how nhard it will be because I was raped by my uncle so you have to tell someone