Rape.

If your friend was raped a few weeks ago and you had already talked to them about it and everything.

But then they tell you they had a nightmare and that the can't forgive themselves and that it's all they can think about and stuff..

What would you...

say to them?
What can you say to them that would help?
Or just make them smile?
Anythingg??

dont dwell on it, say im here for you and its not your fault, I will help you go to the school counsler if needed, and leave it at that, constanly reminding her of what happened isnt cool, and make sure shes always got friends around, tell her jokes

You need to tell your friend to report it to the police that she was raped - this is serious and needs to be dealt with. Of course shes going to have nightmares about it, rape is a very horrible thing to go through. Shes going to need some professional help to get rid of those nightmares. You need to take her to tell an adult, it is the first step in helping her so please do it. Its for the best and absolutely needs to be done right away. Don't let this person getting away with raping someone, they need to be punished. If she doesn't want to tell an adult then you need to step up and tell an adult for her. She may not be happy right away but she will thank you later.

She wants to talk about it.
She is asking me stuff and yeah.
I want to help her.
I don't want to ignore it.
She doesn't want to ignore it.
You can't just ignore these things.
you should talk them out sometimes.
It helps..to just talk.

rape isnt something that a person can deal with by themselves
they need to get help, and talk to someone about it
get it all off there chest and tell someone how they feel
...the most important thing she needs to do is report this
its not her fault it happened
but if she reports it it might just stop that sick persson from doing it to another girl
so if she remembers his face, anything about him or not, get her to report it
just keep saying its not her fault but she needs to get it all off her chest to begin feeling better
then make sure shes not alone all the time, so hang out with her and go do something fun together...like the movies

if she wants to talk about it let her know you are there for, and its sooo not her fault... I know how it feels, I was raped when I was a little kid. and the last thing she needs to think is its her fault...

best of luck to her.

The best thing you can do is be there for her. Support whatever decision she makes, but, please, encourage to talk to a counselor, even on a hotline. It would help her so much. She's very lucky to have a friend like you! Best wishes to both of you.

Her mother already knows.
She went to the hospital and everything.
I just want to make sure I am helping the best I can.
So it is reported.

I'd tell her that this isn't a movie, and to get over it. So you got raped? Very serious, yes. Going into lock down on yourself is also serious. I'm not a girl so maybe I don't understand fully, but I've been through worse things.

Unless you were murdered I really don't think there is something worse.

Rape may not seem violent but it's one of the most violent crimes.

You can ease her mind by letting her know the fact she had a rape test kit done at the hospital ups her chances of convictiing the person once he's caught.

The best way you can help her is to be supportive. Be there for her to talk. Go with her to counseling and wait outside for her. Hug her.
Small gestures here and there help, like bringing her lunch one day or just giving her a random trinket. They all seem like minor things but they will let her know that you're there for her. Thats really important.

xox
Sika