How can i deal with my racist mother?

I'm Mexican-American woman who is dating an African-American man... I currently live with my mother who is racist and is constantly yelling at me for being with this man... I don't want to break up with him because he is my everything...I couldn't live...

without him... I tried telling her the stuff she says is racist but she just denies it... The things she says not only affects me but also affects him...What should I do now??

your mother should be supportive and respect your decision. but you shouldn't let her live your life. you deserve to have something going good for you in your life. i have been in a relationship like that except it delt with religion. i would probably talk to her and explain, if that doesn't work i still wouldn't let something like that ruin your relationship.

you need to tell you mother to back off and get over herself! its not the colour of the man its how he treats you, and if he is perfect to you and treats you good thats all that should matter! if she cant support you just pull away from her and threaten that she is risking losing you over this.

She should really just back off and let you live your own life. You get to decide who you want to date not her, maybe its because she thinks something bad will happen to you dating any guy.

you only hve one mother. lovers come, lovers go but mother is the one you will not replace. be a person with character, develop yourself. have self-respect and confidance. it is not true to say you 'need' a lover to exist. an infant needs care to exist. a child still cannot develop properly without care. a teenager is still developing. a young adult hasnt formed all their opinions. take time and invest in yourself. dont punish your mother. one day you may be blessed with a child of your own. this what you are going thru is normal to rebel and assert your independance, however, youre not thinking this thru. if you insist on destroying your relationship with your parent you may come to regret your actions trust me time is on your side slow down and stay on track xo

i have a problem like this with my father. i am gay and my dad doesnt care about that. what he does care about is my girlfriend. she is mixed and he absolutely hates her. he has threatened to send me to my mother who used to beat me just because of her. talk to her. tell her how you feel about him and you want her to understand. dont break up with him if you love him. your mother should see how much you care about him and understand. let her know that you arent going to break up with him just because she is racist.

parents dont have to be supportive and respect your decisions that is not correct. they have given you your life. they put alot of effort in and continue to take responsibility for you. they have earned the right to look at this from their point of view even if that says you dont like their opinion. they have your interests in mind. they deserve alot more credit here and should not be punished for your choice of social group. no form of discrimination is acceptable that is true. but dont shove it up their nose that they havent come to a happy place with your decisions. you owe them more than that. i would say there is more to this than simple racism going on here. i say you are delighting in upsetting them with your choices and that is a relationship issue. show respect to them and adapt and respond to this with sensitivity. show maturity and dignity. dont insist on doing as you wish as tho you are an island. you are tied and linked to your parents so show them that what they think counts with you. you may find if you give alittle youll get alittle back.