Purity rings

Im really considering getting a purity ring but I dont know if I would regret it later on. Cause I feel like that would be even more of a sin and a dissappointment if I were to change my mind after getting one. What should I do? Is it really a sin to have pre-marital sex?

A purity ring would be more to give you a focus, but that could also be done by your morality and philosophy. It doesn't even have to be based on religion.

Going against your promise wouldn't make it any more or any less of a sin. It would however make you more of a hypocrite.

Ah the old age question. It depends on your religious beliefs and how much you practice your religion.

I can't tell you what to do, but I can give you some examples.

Let's start with an easy one. Jamie Lynn Spears. She goes to church, and has premarital sex. Then she had an accident and got pregnant. I don't really bother to follow her story that much, but she's either married or engaged to her boyfriend right now.

Anyway, some people choose to stay virgins until their honeymoon night. That's fine if it's their choice. They have every right to do so.

But let's look at the other spectrum if someone does choose to stay virgins until marriage. Their new sex life can be very good, or it can be very bad due to inexperience and HEAPS of over-expectations. This could sometimes ruin a marriage. I read in another advice column lately that an overweight woman found out that her husband thought she was physically unattractive and didn't want to have sex with her. Why were they married then? Well, they didn't have sex before they married, and while she was waiting to have frequent sex with her husband after marriage, he wasn't attracted to her body, but still loves her on the inside. Thus, even though both people can be attracted to each other personalities before marriage, sex is an important role in a relationship as well.

I think the most important thing that couples have to do is communicate for a relationship to work.

***I feel like that would be even more of a sin and a dissappointment if I were to change my mind after getting one. what should I do?***

Well it isn't MORE of a sin... Purity rings were made up, they're not a real part of Christianity.

um ya probly
and I have 1 there
not that bad well
and im only 12
but there good
because
then your true.love.waits

I guess I meant to myself I would few it as a bigger sin than before because I was going against my original belief

bimjob---wonderful answer

***I guess I meant to myself I would few it as a bigger sin than before because I was going against my original belief***

Well, from a religious (christian) perspective, keep in mind: ''A sin is a sin is a sin...''

No sin is greater than another.

I'm going to have to disagree with you on this one, captain.

all sins are not equal. murder, for instance, is a lot different from telling a little white lie. yes, they are both sins, but one is quite more serious than the other, and also deserves harsher consequence.

this purity ring is a good idea to remind yourself to keep yourself pure...but it's not a doctrine or principle of christianity. it's just something some christians do. but it's a great idea and if it works for you, then great. if not...you let not only yourself down, but your god. you made promises to both yourself AND him...of course.

***I'm going to have to disagree with you on this one, captain***

I wasn't gining MY opinion, I was just referencing the bible. And it says that all sins are equal; therefor just as forgivable...

I disagree that all sins are equal, but I do believe that all sins are equally forgiven.

and I had a purity ring, the people above me are right- it's to keep focus on staying pure.
it doesn't make it any more of a sin.

you can repent and be forgiven for any sin, but going through the repentance process for stealing will be a lot different from going through the process after you've murdered.

all sins are equal in that they are all times one has disobeyed a commandment.

***I disagree that all sins are equal, but I do believe that all sins are equally forgiven.***

Well, would it not make sense, that because these sins are just as equally & willingly forgiven by God (prerequisites met); then... in his eyes, they are just as equally severe? (Catholicism excluded)

Anyway, since the sin in question/thread topic isn't considered as severe as murder from a MORAL standpoint, this discussion is purely academic anyway.

well, actually I know it says all sins are equal in the bible, but I believe murder is worse than a lie, so it's easier just to think there all equally forgiven.
maybe in God's eyes there all equal.
but in society deff not.

Agreed... and I commend you on your ability to view your religious texts with an open and rational mind.

if you are in love with someone and youve been together a couple years and your like 18ish but you dont want to get married till your in your early 20's should you have to keep having a non sexual relationship even though you are in love and been together a long time ? I don't personally think so and I don't see how its a sin.

I personally think its a sin if you go around having sex with random people just for the sex but if you actually are in love and have deep feelings for someone I think its different.