Problem with saying no!

Okay for the longest time my boyfriend has asked me to give him head and I kept saying no. Now last night I decided that I wanted to give him head but it would make me feel better if he would eat my p*ssy and so I asked him if he would and told him I would give him head after. He said no, so I asked him why not? It wasn't because he didn't want to eat my p*ssy, he said no inspite the fact that I said no to him so many times before. I assured him that I wanted to give him head but would feel better if we both got something out of it. So I talked him into it but then this morning when we woke up he threw it in my face and made me feel bad. He said he felt I was being controlling and wouldn't take no for an answer and I said well no because of your reason for saying no, it wasn't because you didn't want to it was just inspite, so that now today you could throw it in my face. This made me so upset and then he comes back in the room to have sex with me and I said no I'm upset right now. Can you believe this? What do you guys think about this situation was I wrong or is he and how do I deal with this?

hes totaly wrong!, if you dont want to give him head then dont!! but just be sure to let him know no eating p*ssy no head :P x

You should sit down and agree that how to satisfy each other's sexual needs.

He takes everything I do and uses it as an aspect to say I'm controlling. I don't know what to do? He thinks me asking him to eat my p*ssy in return for giving him head is controlling. Do you think it's controlling to say I'll give you head if you eat my p*ssy or is that not just a compromise, and then knowing his reason's for saying no and not taking that for a reason, because to me how else will we get passed it if he's just going to say no inspite of everything.

I'm so frusterated and I don't know what to do, I feel like I have watch what I do and say because he's going to use everything agaisnt me to prove that he's right and that I'm controlling.

I think that it is a compromise, as with any situation where both of you have different issues. If he is going to be controlling about an intimate situation like that then you should talk to him and see if there are any other situations or relationships that he has had in the past where there have been control issues. Maybe this stems from one of those. Just let him now how you feel and that you feel like you have to walk on eggshells...hope that I don't take that out of context

Why are you staying with him if all he does is cause drama? Relationships are suppose to be fun, and make you feel better about yourself, not make you feel disrepected. Thats exactly how hes treating you. He doesnt respect you as a person, but only sees you as an object. Relationships are give, and take, by both parties, not take, and take like hes doing. We teach people how we want to be treated. Why would you want anything less, then to be treated with dignity, and respect? This guy has issues. Talking obviously isnt his forte!