Keep the baby or not?

well im like 99.9% sure im pregnant
thursday im going to the doctor to get all checked out
if you were 14 and in the 9th grade and pregnant would you keep it?
or aboration?
or adopation?
what would you do?
I don't know what im going to do.
I mean I dont just want to kill my own child
and I cant just give away my kid
but then again I cant be the girl who got pregnant at 14 and screwed up her hole life
that would mean no collage and I don't know what I would do during school
and omg I just dont no what to do
so give me your insight on this
please and thanks
=]

USE PROTECTION !!! thats what you should have done in the first place if you are so botherd about your career paths !!!

decision is up to you...also have a nice chat with mommey and daddy see what they have to say...

good luck,

next time USE PROTECTION or try finishing your sex education at school before you go sleeping with people at such a young age !!!

whats got in to young people now adays !!!

Uh firstly. it should be your choice and your choice ONLY!

It does have to be your choice, but talk to your parents if possible. You are going to need support. This is a life changing decision no matter how it goes.

If you don't go for abortion, then the bravest thing that you can ever do will be to give up the baby for adoption. That way the child will be brought up by a couple that is fully ready to have one, but can't have one themselves. The baby will be welcomed and loved. And the new parents will be financially and emotionally prepared, two things that you have a ways to go before your ready.

I really feel for you. Take care of yourself, and
Good Luck!!

WOW! well...dont abort! abortion is just wrong. and I guess if you arent responisble enough to take care of your baby you should put it for adoption. talk to the baby daddy. hold on do you know who the baby daddy is? && im very sorry to hear that your pregnant. pray to god that your not.

WOW! well...dont abort! abortion is just wrong. and I guess if you arent responisble enough to take care of your baby you should put it for adoption. talk to the baby daddy. hold on do you know who the baby daddy is? && im very sorry to hear that your pregnant. pray to god that your not.

I'm not going to tell you that you made a mistake I am 15 and first got pregnant when I was 14 and in the 9th grade I kept my kid but I have a lot of help from my school and friends if you feel that you cant take a care of a baby go through with the pregnancy and then just give it up for adoption its been hard with my little boy but it is also the happiest my boyfriend is behind me 100% you may not have a stable relationship so you do what you think is best for you and your child don't let anyone else get in the way of your opinions good luck if you need to talk I'm here

Honey the decision is yours I was 16 and in the 10th grade when I got pregnant I kept my son who is now 1 and I am 18 now at first I thought the same thing that he would ruin my life and really hes made it bettter I love him to death and he the cutest...im not down with the abortion but pleasse make a great decision and things will be ok...and I have been with my sons father the whole time and we are very happy so I hope the childs father is still around...

don't abort it. you made the mistake, not the child. it's going to be hard, but I would put it up for adoption. especially considering the fact that you're only 14. I really think that in this case, adoption is the most responsible thing you can do. what kind of life would you be able to give the baby? honestly, probably not much of one.

honestly, I was in this situation myself. message me if you want to talk about it more.

you dont have to leave school just cause your pregnant im 15 I got pregnant for my first time at 13 I kept the baby and stayed in school and 1yr later I had twins kept them and im still in school with 3 kids so im sure you could find someway to manage just one.if you keep the baby you just have to find a way to put the baby in daycare or see if your parents or a close relative would watch the baby so you could stay in school.or possiably get homeschooled.

if you want to talk funmail me.

if you have the baby you wont have a life for the next 18 years...
guys dont want girls with kids...
you need to live a life first and be a normal 14 year old ...there will be so much you will miss out on...and can you cope with a baby...

if you put it up 4 adoption then in years to c*m the child may want to c*m and find u ...but you could have a new life ...with a family...and it could effect them...

but I you have an abotion then ...u will feel bad but you will have the life that you need...and if you do it now then it wouldnt be a baby yet it would be a fetus... so it wont be in to much pain... you need to think of your future...xxx wb

danipower15 that whole guys dont like girls with kids is sooo not true.
and you shouldnt make your decision because of a guy anyways

my baby wouldnt have a dad but my mom is totaly there for me, I really dont no what to do. thanks for all your opions. ill no today if I am or not. I think I am. but I may not be. if I am I want to keep it. but that one person has a good point no guy wants a girl with a baby. and I wouldnt be able to party anymore or have any fun. I just really dont no. I deff no I cant kill it. =( thats mean. sighs who nos. =(

honey, this is your baby. if I was you id keep it before you layed down and opened your legs you should of thought about the consequences. just because your in high school that dont mean nothing there are girls in every high school with a kid if they can do it you can to. get a baby sitter. your life aint over you'll still be able to have SOME fun but your most priority will be your kid and school. your college isnt over by the time your in college your child will be in school his or her self.

baby_doll_7 hope I helped <3

I just took my pregency test and it was negitive yay =]

I won't lie, ababy at 14 will be very tough, it sounds like you are moreworried about what kids at school will say, they will be tough too. but, stop being selfesh, this isn't just about you anymore. Having a baby won't RUIN your life. But it will make you grow up much faster. Sometimes having an abortion is harder than having a baby. You can learn to cope and raise your child (with help for now). There are plenty of women in college that are moms too. It's time to 'man up', Take responsibility. If you sincerely cannot handle it, find a family to adopt your baby. They will even let you pick them out. There are good, loving people in the world whocan not have kids and you could help them complete there family. It is much more humane than killing your child. That nightmare will live with you forever. Tell your parents, you need some support right now other than a chat room. Good luck

wow thats hard being in that situation I know a lot of friend in that problem I think (and don't think im being mean) that its your fault for making the mistake and you baby shouldn't suffer with being adopted or have to die because you screwd up I think you should keep it and raise it and learn from your mistake.
By the way USE PERTECTION

well a lot of my aunts got pregent at 14 and kept their chid and life was hard but
they say but they never regreat their decison on keeping the baby.

Personally I would keep the baby because it was my fault for not using protection and knowing the concequnces.

Godd luck!

Sillygirl, hopefully you have learned a serious lesson and will never again have unprotected sex until you are married and ready to raise a family ( - at about the age of 25-28 years old).
Good Luck!!

'but then again I cant be the girl who got pregnant at 14 and screwed up her hole life'

So now that you gone and messed up your own life, you think to do the same for the baby?
Don't abort him/her..That's just, well it's murder.

I'm a single mother of two boys and a highschool drop out, yet now I'm in med school.
Talk to your parents, and to the father and his parents.
All in all, it is up to you and the dad.
If you dont have a support system, if you wont be able to feed cloth it and all that stuff. Then adoption.
You cant have your cake and eat it to.
You're not betty crocker.
And you made the choice to ha ve sex. You thought you were ready and grown up enough to take that step. Now follow it through.

congratulations...wooo

Ok so the thing is it is your choice but your decision shouldn't just be about you.You need to think about the baby and what will be best for the baby.Like others have said,use protection so you can at least know that you are trying to prevent any unplanned surprises.

um I think your too young. wait until your 20 until you have a baby please. your life is just going to get screwed up with a baby at 14. your going to be too busy with the baby to do anything. but it was your choice, and now you have to follow through. abortion is against gods rules. and adoption is a choice but it will be hard for you to watch your baby go with another family. my brother is adopted and his mom couldnt take care of him thats why she gave him up, it was hard but she got over it. you chose to have sex so you pretty much chose to have a baby. I say keep it, see what happens. but I can guarentee you, you will get negative out of this.

um I think your too young. wait until your 20 until you have a baby please. your life is just going to get screwed up with a baby at 14. your going to be too busy with the baby to do anything. but it was your choice, and now you have to follow through. abortion is against gods rules. and adoption is a choice but it will be hard for you to watch your baby go with another family. my brother is adopted and his mom couldnt take care of him thats why she gave him up, it was hard but she got over it. you chose to have sex so you pretty much chose to have a baby. I say keep it, see what happens. but I can guarentee you, you will get negative out of this.

um I think your too young. wait until your 20 until you have a baby please. your life is just going to get screwed up with a baby at 14. your going to be too busy with the baby to do anything. but it was your choice, and now you have to follow through. abortion is against gods rules. and adoption is a choice but it will be hard for you to watch your baby go with another family. my brother is adopted and his mom couldnt take care of him thats why she gave him up, it was hard but she got over it. you chose to have sex so you pretty much chose to have a baby. I say keep it, see what happens. but I can guarentee you, you will get negative out of this.

I'm 16teen and gona have a baby and giving up a baby should not even be in the ? thats not sumthing anybody should do

dont get a abortion

I'm 14, found out yesterday I'm pregnant. I have no idea either. I'm in the same boat as you. when you know let me know??

Nobody can tell you what to do. You are 14 years old and have a lot of life ahead of you. A baby can be a big step in your life. You fristly need to sit down with the father and see what his place in the babys life will be. And where are you going to get the money to be able to pay for the babys needs and wants. If you dont think you can handle the baby then you may want to consider an abortion or adoption. Even tho I do not believe in abortions, you may. A child is a precious thing that many people that cant have babys would love to adopt. So maybe consider that. Fun Mail me if you want to. we can talk more about it. Good Luck tho.

thats right nobody can tell you what to do, but if you cannot support a child at 14 then you should give your child to a loving family that wants an open adoption so you can see your child anytime you like.
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