Potential other woman

What if you meet a guy and you both feel as though youv'e fallen in love with each other (within a months time) or at least thats what it feels like. You've spent time with this individual without having sex, so you know it's not solely based on sex. But the fact is you are married (but separted for 2yrs) and he has a girlfriend he has been with on and off since high school ( and he is 39) but they don't have any kids together. You see this individual 3-5 days a week if not more and you're starting to really like him, and you know as soon as you can afford it you will get a divorce.

being the other woman in a relationship is never a good idea, it hurts everyone in the relationship. if you really feel for him and you really like him. you will respect his relationship with his girlfriend, or wait for him to not be in a relationship. you don't seem to know much about his relationship with her as it is, and would you really want to cause anyone harm? or hurt him? if he really loves the girl hes with, an affair would really hurt him. even if he is in a state where hes considering an affair, he might just regret everything he does with you later on.

I'm sorry but I beg to differ as far as him being hurt. for instance he told me the street name where he and his girlfriend reside, and I've been to his mother's house (several times). Don't get me wrong I'm not trying to justify the situation, but sometimes things like what I mentioned above would lead any woman to believe he and his girlfriends relationship may coming to an end. Because it seems to me he's not trying to hide the fact that he's doing something. There's been times where she would call for him to come home and he will stay all night with me.

well he could just be looking for something that he feels is missing in his relationship with her, or trying to make sure shes the one. but either way its not really your place to get in the middle of his problems with her, and having an affair with him, would put you smack dab in the middle of it. you really should consider how she would feel, and how you would feel if you where in her shoes. also you should realize that if he can cheat once, he can cheat again. so even if you 2 end up together as a result he might just do it to you later on. sorry if I sound harsh, but it has come from personal experience.

I understand what you are saying. The thing is how do I cut it off now? I already have feelings for him. At the same time I'm married, been separated for almost two years. And I really don't know if my husband and I are going to reconcile. At this point it doesn't look like it. But I do feel bad for his girlfriend (I mean guilty), because I do know what it feels like to be cheated on, my husband has done it to me several times and had babies along with it. I do plan on asking this guy are we ever going to be together but I already did and he said yes. But he could be lying. I don't know, but I'm open for advice.