Possessiveness and control

I have had relationships in the past were I was actually pretty content to live in a bubble with that person, not really bothering with friends (perhaps because it was awkward with my partners not liking them or something). I really need my independence now, but I have a man in my life who is very jealous and just can't cope with the fact I don't have much time for him. This is because I work freelance and I have many interests, including being alone sometimes just so I can recharge. He could accommodate this fact by keeping in touch by e-mail or phone when I am busy, but he just kicks off. We only really get on when it suits him. I guess I am a very independent person with a career, interests and male and female friends. Do I need to reconcile myself to the fact that he will never change and he just isn't right for me as a lover? Or am I hard work for any man?

I don't think you're hard work for any man, but just really busy. If he can't atleast call you and just brushes the whole thing off, then he's probably not right. If you want a change in him, why not just try talking to him about it and telling him how you feel.
Hope I helped some!