What if I'm in love with someone who has a girlfriend?

hiya,

im 14 and there is this lad in my class who im in love with

he has a girlfriend that makes me feel worse

my mates know I love him and when ever im near him they push me into him for a joke

but the other day told him I loved him and he just grinned

and after I told him he hugged me - he flirts with me - and he is realy sweet with me

as well as all that when him and his best mate go past me his mate pushes him into me

one of my friends who knows him real well thinks he does like me

but I don't know why I mean I look like that ( dp )

he is still with his girlfriend but he still flirts and I flirt back I don't know what to do

please help I cant stop luvin him

but it is killing me when I know he is with hs girlfriend

Well,not to offend you,or anything but,going up to a guy,and telling him that you love him,is something you don't see much,but I indeed,personally thought that you had much confidence to go up to this boy,and tell him your true feelings.That takes,a lot of guts,and good for you!

On the other hand,despite that this guy,does have a girlfriend already,it seems as if he's easily falling for you,but believe me,there's nothing wrong with that.He gives you,most of the signs that he likes you;well the obvious signs - hugging,flirting.Those are the total givaways,showing that he does have feelings for you.

So,in my personal opinion,it seems,well,obvious that this guy is crushing on you also,so that's something you shouldn't worry about.I think this guy,is afraid to tell his girlfriend that he,most likely has true feelings for you,but won't admit.

In the meantime,I'm not,personally saying to wait around for this guy,and hope that he will finally admit his feelings,but keep an eye on him.Don't spend all your time,worrying and praying for him.He will come,somehow.Don't worry.I think you got a change with him.

Hope I helped,and good luck!

Sincerely,
Danielle

thanks

it took a lot of guts for me to tell him , bt im lad it did

a lot of people think we are going to end up togther

and me and him made a deal that if were both single when were 25 we get togther

he jumped at the idea lol

but wots worse is people say don't wait for him to show you his true feelings

but whenever I try a realationship with anyone else I always end up think about him

and I go back to being madly in love and wating for him

its all a rite mess

Just one thing If you were his girlfriend how would you feel if someone was doing the same thing as you are.

Just a simple observation but I know from experieance it is not nice if your boyfriend goes with another woman, How do you think she would feel, My advice is to leave them to it, later if he decides to split from his current partner then go for it, but dont let you be the reason why they split

I'm in a similar predicament

and I believe, despite how painful it is to say it, that it wouldn't be fair to his current girlfriend if you guys keep doing what you're doing. Just think, what if you guys do start going out one day, and this happens with another girl, who's to say that he won't do that same thing to you as he might do to his current girlfriend.

I'm not saying to forget about him, I just think that you should wait for him to clear it out with his girlfriend, before going any further. You'll be getting truckloads of sh*t if you don't, especially with the teens in our generation. If he really does like you, then he'll be a man and tell his girlfriend. If it's not meant to be, then it's not. =(

Besides, your only 14, lots of time left to meet that special someone. I wish you the best of luck in your situation. You can always talk to me if it gets too hard. Hope I helped! =] <3

you are too young to even think about love! you have a little crush, and plus if he's 14 give him about a week with his so called girlfriend. they will run out of things to talk about. then it is your time for your 2 weeks with him.

slap happy omg you are so wrong
I know what a crush is
I've had my share
and he and her are still togther
hes not a user hes a good guy
and yes it is love it comes quicker to some people

I'm in the same situation as you.

First off, I read some of the other peoples' advice, and I agree with them. Go with what they say.

He sounds very sweet, from the way you put it. If there are rumors that he likes you too, but he's still with his girlfriend, it doesn't sound like he's very serious about either of you. You might just be the 'second girl.' Protect your reputation.

But on the other hand, he might just be trying to figure out his true feelings for both of you, and he's taking his time.

The guy I like is with his girlfriend, and he sends out mixed signals, such as putting his arm around me, smiling at me, actually TALKING to me, making eye contact, saying "Hi" with my NAME included (because most guys just nod their head), waving, and so forth. It feels like he's trying to find out if he likes me or not too (and I'm not only saying this to brag, just because I like him). That may be the same type of predicament YOUR crush is trying to solve.

Give him some time.

But try to contain yourself - don't go extreme with the flirting - his girlfriend might take it the wrong way. If you were his girlfriend, and you found out some girl liked him, and he was flirting back, how would you feel? But don't exactly give up either. He might break up with his girlfriend (if you're a teen, you should be aware that teen 'relationships', hookups, etc. are VERY fickle) and then that's where you can safely come in!

And by telling him you love him, that was a bold thing you did.

Good luck to both of us.