Please, i'm in desprite need for advice! >.<

OK, here it is, I'm don't have much luck in the Guy/BoyFriend department...
Just in January(2009) I met this guy online we hit it off pretty well, we met in person, everything is great.. I supposabley(excuse my spelling) thought that I was in love with...

him, but I think I was in love with the fact that I was being treated so nicely and how we acted towards each other... But I noticed that when he broke up with me, I wasn't sad, I was just whatever about the whole thing.. But I had an ex whom I knew for a solid fact that I was in deeply in love with him, but we broke up a year ago, and well every girl he dated I was so complete jealous of, and when he told me that he had sex for the first I was completely shattered.. I honestly thought that when we had made our promise to be each others first we were going to keep it no matter what... Not to mention how I reacted when I found out the he fell in love and proposed to someone not that long ago... Back in November, I had met this guy online, Jose, we've been talking online ever since... I liked him, and he flirted... Well, we had stopped talk for a couple of weeks, he IMs me on AIM apologizing and everything.. So I did, and everything as all cool and stuff.. And well, I guess we started flirting again, and I started liking him again... Yesterday was the first time I ever seen in person, and I don't what happened to me.. I was acting so different.. And apparently to him it was cute, because after I walked into a wall, he told me to just relax, that everyone gets nervous, even him... And well, he kissed me for the first time... I don't how to explain it, but it was just an amazing kiss, that literally swept me off my feet, every kiss did... Well, just to make a long story short, the whole day with was simply perfect, he was such a complete gentleman, he opened doors for me and everything, he didn't try anything on me at all..
What I'm trying to look for advice is.. well.. How do I know this guy is the REAL thing? And is it just the fact that I've never been treated this way, makes me think he might be that one special guy who's different from the others?

Well, let me say that I've dated a lot long distance. The first serious relationship I had long distance almost lasted 3 years! You don't really know if anybody is the real thing right off. I thought I was so so so in love with my boyfriend at that time and I thought everything he told me was true. He'd treat me special and do all these things for me. Even though, he ended up playing me and this other chic for a whole year! I was stupid and kept thinking he would change but he never did he kept cheating. So, that leaves me to explain this first point. SOME guys are willing to be the nicest and do what it takes to get into your pants. Some guys aren't like that and are legit when they are treating you really good! I guess the best way is to look into their eyes or pay attention to them..cause a lot of people will do certain things when they're not telling the truth! One of the easiest signs is when they will NOT look into your eyes when you ask them something or when serious things are being talked about. Another is if they out of the blue start acting really cold towards you. (In other words not like them at all!) If that happens there is something going on!!! Everytime my ex would do that I found out not too long after he was cheating or cheated! I don't know how old you are, but if you and your boyfriend are old enough to watxh xxx kind of movies. That is another thing if a guy has to watch porn when he has a girlfriend or wife, he does not love her enough or is not attracted to her enough to be satisfied with her in bed. If a guy truly loves you and IS TELLING THE TRUTH about how beautiful/sexy/hot/cute/pretty you are he WOULD NEVER need porn EVER. DO NOT believe any excuse for porn or anythign like that. If a guy truly loves you he will see you as the most beautiful girl in the world and no other girl will ever cross his mind. If he truly loves you he will never check out another girl whether in your presence or not with you. Another way to tell is if your boyfriend is not really rich and has a low paying job but still sends msot of his check on you. HE LOVES YOU! IF a guy barely makes any money and is spending most of it on you, then it would make no sense to him at all to spend such money on somebody he doesnt love or care for. I'm not saying go lurking around him like a ninja lolz..just keep an eye out for those things. Don't stay in a relationship with a guy who treats you wrong you will only be hurt worse in
the end! Hope this helped a little.

Girl, it's not the real thing. You sayed for yourself, you fall easy in love. That's totally fine, but that also mean, that you're not mature enough for a long time relationship. Probably as the boy you are with. So what to do? Relax and enjoy! Have fun!

hmmm...just try to fall a little less hard for people and your feelings might change for them. Maybe you could test your feelings for him and seeing how things turn out...its really hard to find the real thing anyways...

xxxooo : ) hope I helped

My advise is, give it time, get to know the person - the real person beneath the gentleman he seems to be ... do not have higher expectations of him because you may or may not be disappointed. This might not be the real thing or it could be, who knows?

Love is an emotional roller-coaster. There's ups and downs. But this, just might be you trying to find someone that cares for you as you for him. So give it time. Some things might surprise you along the way.

always look beneath the smile, not just the surface.

xxox -
hope I helped! smile