Please help me with my girlfriend...

Hi my name is ricky. I have been going out with a girl for almost 3 years. In the first 6 months that we were together I had cheated on her with another girl. We have continued to be together because we love each other dearly and have worked through the hard times. My question is that I have tried to make her secrue with the situation and other people, but she have never really gotten over it!! She says that what I am doing is not helping and I need to figure out another way. What do I do now. Where do I go from here??
Thank you for all your help

In my opinion I would never help another guy after he cheated on his girlfriend whom he "loved" but I see that your desperate.

NEVER cheat on her again! Try to talk to her on the phone for about an hour a day at least so she knows where your at. It sucks to never have anything to say on the phone so look up some news on the internet where you can strike a conversation and make it seem interesting.

Take her out on dates, preferably the movies about comedy, unless she likes horror then take her to see that. Comedy and Horror are the two biggest movie categories that most women like, they might say they like romantic movies, but most romantic movies are a mix of comedy and romantic, rarely horror/romantic. (Like Hitch, it's a comedy/romantic)

Now, visit her house regularly and watch what she likes on T.V., be intimate with her as usual if you are. If she ever brings up the conversation about you cheating on her, just tell her calmly. "I know I cheated on you (IF she knows you cheated on her) and I am sorry, we've been together for more than 3 years and I have soiled our love a while back, please let us forget about that and move on? I will never cheat, lie, or keep secrets from you like I always have done."

Try making a statement similar to that, mine is kinda lame but some girls relate to it because of the feeling of security and love. It also depends on HOW you say it. Say it full of sorrow and make yourself almost cry, as in choke on your words once or twice. Girls see non-verbal actions way more than verbal actions compared to us guys. Always keep that in mind because she can tell what your thinking just by looking at you.

Good luck, don't cheat ever again.

- Gothik