Confused on what he wants

ok so this guy I know.. we were kinda seeing each other but online.. (we no each other from school) well we met up when I was visiting and we shared a few kisses.. well then he tells me he has a girlfriend but that he wants to be with me. The next day I...

tried to talk to him and he said that his girlfriend had found out about the kisses. and she was leaving him and he didnt think we should talk anymore. so I said ok. Then about 3 months later he text me in the early hours of the morning sayin I miss you... then I get a text later on in the day saying I love you so I told him we needed to talk. so we did and I told him I needed time to figure out if I was in love with him..

Now this week, he is saying im a b*itch and I shouldnt try and worm my way into his relationship..

im soo confused as to what he wants because he will text me again next week saying he loves me and hes sorry for the way he spoke to me... he is always doing it.

Please I dont want any snide comments, I just need advice..

please help!

dear magictink,
It seams that you really fell for this guy, using the words 'I Love You' usually has strong feelings behind it.
This guy is a total jerk for not telling you about his girlfriend, although how serious can you get through cyber conversations.. (I dont know I havent tried.)
it seams he likes to call on you when hes board, with this other girl. was there any conflict between the two when he messaged you?.. persionly I think internet isnt a very good way to start a relationship.. seeing he goes to your school.
I dont think this guy is the one for you you seam like you can do a lot better.
but if you are convinced that you love him, or like him. then give it all you got hun. and have no regrets.
but my personal sujestion would be let him be a stuck up guy. and when he has problems I wouldnt give him the option to come running to you.. you give him the time and day.. where and when. becasue no guy is worth your tears, hunny YOU have to law down the law.
sorry if this didnt help. but I put my 2 cents in.
good luck

My feelings are this guy is acting very irresponsible, he blames you for his actions and tries to put it on you that because of you his relationship broke up, even if you did know that he had a girlfriend and still kissed that’s not your fault, its his for not being loyal to his own partner. So please don’t take that nonsense off him.
He is not with his girlfriend anymore and he is coming to you as he doesn’t want to be alone. So when you said you need time (which is the sensible and right thing to do) he accused you of causing problems in his life … its NOT you its HIM!
When he says he loves you … well he doesn’t know the meaning of love then … you don’t love someone and then say things that he said to you … so you are right and PLEASE stick with your ways of taking time to realise if he is one you can fall in love with. Don’t let him pressurise you into being with him. If he texts again and says sorry MAKE HIM REALISE you will not accept him calling you a B!TCH … its not on. Don’t be soft to him or else he wont realise and that will happen again.
All the best! IF you need further advice e-mail me!

Okay I think the advice I give will be helpful in this instance, so here it goes... You are dealing with someone who is extremely indecisive and almost impervious to the immediate impacts of his words (hence a week leter he apologises and thinks all is okay). If I were you, I would distance myself from him and look for another guy. Mood swings like this may seem minor now, but they can be indicative of serious personality issues which are already existent or are yet to come.

You need someone who is in touch with his own emotions and who understands his expression. This person does not love you if you ask me. Saying I love you is a deep thing and he seems to be using it as a means for your forgiveness. My advice is to talk to him and explain to him that you can't be with someone who can't make up his mind and who will be emotionally on and off with you. Explain to him that when he has a better grip/ understanding of his feelings and of himself/ you, then perhaps there will be a chance of things progressing.

If you let him know that you do care about him, but he needs time to think over his feelings, this could be the start of a positive process for you and for him. Be as empathetic as you can and if you need firther help, you always have us net-people, lol. Communication is the best way of resolving any issue and in this case you need to explain to him in plain-English, what your issues are (concerning him) and any other such things.

Hope that helps !!!

Thank you all soo much for your help.

its greatly appreciated

ti

Thank you all soo much for your help.

its greatly appreciated

ti

Any time !