Should we have sex?

My boyfriend and I have been going out for 15 days now ,
I love him and he loves me ,
but last night he revealed to me he wants to have sex ,
I want to , but im frightened of what could happen ,
we could both just fall out over it because we have a lot of arguments,
I dont know weather to and rreallly need some advice.

Jazz . x

I would be a little cautious of the sex part! 15 days isnt necceserily a long time! if you love him in such a way and you tell him your not ready or you dont want to wreck the relationship then he shud undastand how you feel becos he loves u!

I hope I have helped u

From aussie_ell

Dear jazzeyy1707,

I wouldn't have sex with him, right now because you have only been going out with this guy for only 15 days. Give it time, and despite how much your boyfriend wants sex, don't give in to him. If I were you, I would try to work out these arguements you have with your boyfriend. I don't know why your boyfriend wants sex at such an early stage of the relationship, and I am not sure if he just wants sex, thinking it's going to solve your arguements you have with him a lot.

Sex is more of a physical thing, that deals with love and trust. Once again, give it time, and focus on trying to work out these non-stop arguements you have with him, because I think that's what the most important part of this situation is. Your boyfriend has to understand that. If he loves you, then he'll agree and try to work this out with you - the arguements.

Sincerely, Danielle

Your only 13. I know you think its love, but its not. 15 days is hardly enough time to get to know someone. If you bring sex into the picture so soon into this relationship, it will not have good consequences. Especially, since you two are arguing so much. That is a good reason to NOT!

Heres are some things to consider:
*Any line, any pressure for you to become sexually involved is not an expression of love.
*You might know of somebody who had sex last week because they were ‘in love’ – in fact, ‘madly in love’, and this week, well its over. Is that love?
*Many teenagers are so love-starved at home they trade their virginity for hopes of finding love. Girls particularly, seek love through sex, only to realize they had sex without love.
*Boys brag about their female exploits. They may promise to keep your confidence while you are going steady, but after you break up, the entire school will know that you are an easy mark. You will receive attention from the boys who only want your body.
* If your NO! makes him or her go, then you weren’t really loved as a person but only as a sex object, so even in losing, you win.
*There have been many who have regretted having had pre-marital sex, but no-one regrets having waited.
* Pre-marital sex is short-term ecstasy and long-term misery.
*Virginity is to be given to the most important person in your life, the person you committed yourself to stay with forever in marriage.

True love waits. If a boy or girl truly loves you, they will want the best for you. They will not want you to suffer fear of disease, unwanted pregnancy and the psychological difficulties of premarital sex. They will want to experience love with you only in the very best place of all - the love nest of marriage.
If you date and you don't have sex, you can forget about that relationship when you stop dating. But if you have sex with those you date and then break up, the nature of sexual involvement creates strong, often unpleasant memories for your whole life.

**13 year olds don't understand that in order for sex to be a good thing, you need two people who are mature enough to really love and trust each other. When you don't have that, sex is bad and leaves the girl feeling like she's been used.**

Any guy who truly cares about you, would never push you into sex. Sex is a huge deal, no matter what some people say.

its up to you.. if ya want to sleep wiv um then sleep wiv um.. but ad test um.. and make him wait.. if he doesnt wait for sex and finishes it then hes not worth itt.. but if he does wait and considers ya feelings then hes a decent 1 :]