Personal questions..fingering, hair issues, and hymen? help girls!

Hello you guys(:

Im 14, and I have a couple of questions..

first off, I really am curious of if my hymen is broken, yes its a bit awkward of a question but I honestly would like to know. I cant check myself counting I got acrylics and that might...

hurt a bit...but I do have a story. Last summer I put in my first tampon..and yea, it took a couple of tries and I got so annoyed that I couldnt get it. Eventually I got it in! And I was so happy that it didnt hurt one bit. Now I didnt exactly know how to take it out perfectly..and well, it expanded a lot when it was time to take out. Oh gosh..it hurt..pitifully..my mom had to help my get it out. She yanked and yanked...it hurt terribly..and she said it was because of my hymen. It didnt break yet. Now I dont know if that issue with my mom broke it...but I do know that hurt...very much..and I havent put a tampon in since. I had to sit in the bathtub for a while too cause it hurt down there a bit.

Now I just want to know how I can tell my hymen is broken without fingering myself or anything like that...or going in to get it looked at. Is there anything I can look for?

Another thing ladies...the issue of fingering..ahh yes something we all are a bit curious about. especially when we have a boyfriend..which I do(: 15 year old 6 foot 3 football player gentleman...and well...goodness ladies I really truly love him...its been 5 months...and well...the issue of fingering has come up...he has asked before...and I hesitate..nerves ya know? He then feels terrible and apologizes and doesnt want to pressure me into anything...and said he can wait as much as I want to until I say Im ready. Ladies he's an absolute sweetheart..but I do want to be fingered..but gosh...the awkwardness...nerves...my hymen...it just gets me nervous. I honestly need to know if it hurts..but answer my hymen question first from the paragraph above(:

And lastly..the hair down there...I have narually very dark dark brown hair...so the follicles under my skin are dark...veyr dark, even if I shave! And oh my goodness its itchy after the next days..help? Should I shave and then bleach? Just so the follicles arent as dark...will that work? And what lotions should I use to make it not so itchy down there..and soft...if my boyfriend is going to go down there to finger me...I really want to look spotless in those areas...just give me tips please

gosh that was a long story..but I have questions ladies..that need to be answered..my mom isnt really there for me in stuff like this. Its far too awkward, and she will get worried. So please help me as much as you can darlings! Thank you!

- Rose

when boys get to that point they don't care about a few stubbles. BTW why would you bleach - he's not gunna be examining down there. stop franticing - if it happens it happens.
take it one step at a time babee.

lol I have to say, about your hymen , I suggest you chill out, lol I never noticed when mine broke , or when it broke :S just wasnt an issue. that pain was probablyfrom you tensing up or something

and if your dude is such a sweetheart, im sure he wont mind abit, he'll probably just be happy as hell to get at you.

The whole hymen issue, dont stress it. The first couple times I put my tampon in I panicked because it was hard to get out, hurt a little bit, etc. But you learn to accept its a normal thing and you eventually get use to it if you're hymen is larger than most, or it eventually quits being sensitive. Also, you could've put it in wrong.

As for your partner, do what you feel comfortable with. I was extremely nervous when I first started getting more physical than making out. I was worried about his thoughs, my appearance, nerves, etc. All I have to say is relax. My boyfriend use to laugh and tease with me because I was always so nervous lol. If he's a sweetheart like you say he is and he hasn't pressured you after five months to do anything at all, then rest assured he's stable with the two of you and would like to take a step further, but only as you become ready. Do NOT do it if you're not ready. No, it does not hurt unless he's applying too much pressure or something and in that case, tell him to do it as you like it.

Dont worry about the darkness of your hair. If you shave, its smooth enough and I can almost completely guarantee you that he does not care at all unless of course it looks too wild down there lol. But really, dont stress over how dark your hair is. As long as its shaven he couldnt care less.