Parents who don't let go

My parents do not let me do anything on my own, they rarely let me make decisions and when they do they automatically believe that I will mess up or do something wrong. I am eighteen years old and engaged to be married. They treat me as if I were a 15 or 16 year old. I can't stay out that late and they seem to just be holding me back from doing things with my finacee and his family. My main problem right now is they refuse to let me spend New Years with my fiance's family, my parents respond by saying that I still live with them and I need to follow their rules. Personally, I do not see anything wrong with me spending some holidays with my fiance's family. Our plan is to alternate families for certain holidays such as New Years, but they can't accept the fact of me going to my fiance's house because we are not married, they also believe that we only like to spend time with my fiance's family when in reality we spend more time with my family. I do not know how to handle this problem or even my parents. Please help. Thank you.

I would sit them them and forcefully explain to them that your 18 and you have your own rights as to be able to have more freedoms. Your business is your own and as long as you can do the right thing I think they should let you do most of what you want. Just tell them to step off your back and quit breathing down your neck. I did. And it worked for me.

-Gothik

they are prob just scared you are growing up to fast and are trying to hold you back, 18 these days is really young to be engaged and they are prob scared you are rushing into things without knowing for sure its the right choice for you. if you are truely ready to marry and settle down with this guy already and he feels the exact same and you have a great and loving relationship then you need to speak to your parents and say that they need to let you go, its not like you are being totally unfair and never spend time with them and they need to realise that. maybe they are just scared and trying to protect you if you have made some bad decisions in the past, maybe they are afraid this is just another one and are trying to hold onto you as long as they can, but they arnt realising they are pushing you further away in the process, just talk to them adult to adults and explain how you feel.

If ou are 18 I think you can leave your parent's house and live you own life, I mean the police will not take you back. If there is somethong circumstance that blocks you from having your own life (illness, mental/emotional/financial dependence) then, unfortunately, you have to compromise...OK, this may lead you to make secret steps that you hide from your parents.