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my parents are fighting and fighting all night long every night their fighting about how they never have time together and that they are drifting apart i want to do something to help it but i cant even though their not saying it they are forcing me to take sides if i want to read with my dad upstairs and my mom is downstairs watching tv i have to read for 5 min with my dad then tell him something like .. hold on i just heard my name i am back i can't take this i want to ignore it but i can't it's like it is my falt i am scared and just want to do something with either of them or both of them without the other one getting angry at me it is sooo hard
have any advice???
Your parents need to focus on the positive things in their relationship and not dwell on the negative things since that just brings more negative thoughts and feelings. If they think about things they are greatful for more such as having a home to live in, having good health, having their own family, having food on the table, having eachother, even though right now they are upset inside because they want to be together more and on and on, they will see that things will all work out one way or another if they just stay focused more on the positive things in their life and visualize how things would be if they did have all the time they are wanting together. If it's because they work hours which limits them being together as much, maybe it would be good for them to have thoughts and feelings of if they worked hours which would allow them to be together more and if they focus on that strongly enough the things they are wanting will somehow come about for them. Maybe one of them would be offered a new job or have something really good come about that will completely change the issue they are having now. I would highly recommend that you and your parents watch the movie called "The Secret". You should be able to find links online that will allow you to watch the first 20 minutes of the movie which is some really good information. I had bought the dvd of it and watched it a few times and was quite impressed with what you learn from watching it. I really think it will help. Also, with them fighting all night long a lot, that's time that they are actually together. They should appreciate that time more together instead of fighting with eachother. I feel sorry for you having to listen to them argue, it's not fair to you. I hope everything gets better soon and I hope my advice helps.
Know this: It is not your fault - they do need to know how you feel - I would consider a note to each: I'm scared because I can sense the tension between the two of you - it seems as if I'm being sometimes forced to take sides - I try hard to please both of you but it seems like you end up being angry with me - I hope the fighting can stop and we be a family again, Love...
I hope this helps !!
Hmm, Why dont you just tell them how this is effecting you. Once parents know what's going on, they will pry fight alot less. Them, to get the the point where that say that they dont have much time for one another, suggest a weekend get away from the two, or tell them to go to dinner. Everything will work out, trust me.
