Overly jealous

well I just wrote a long book lol about me being jealous or worried im going to get cheated on but here is why because I just had my fourth kid when me and my husband first met I weighed 120 now im at 165 from just having my new baby and when we fight...

the first thing he calls me is fat b... and it really hurts and I get jealous when he looks at porn because most of them girls are skinnier then me now so I get very jealous.plus we only have sex like 3 or some times very often do we have sex 4 times out of a month and its not me I would love to have sex 3 times a week but he dont so yes I get mad when he looks at porn he is looking at other naked girls but not trying to do a thing with me thats why I get jealous so what can I do im so lost I need so help

It sounds like your jealousy is coming from you not being happy with yourself or your realationship. You are taking your insecurities out on him, and it's not fair for him. He also has no right to call you names that make you feel worse, even if you are fighting.

You need to sit down and talk to HIM about all of this, and explain how you feel. If you dont open up to your husband and have a serious conversation the relationship is not going to work.

You have to be careful. if you ask him if he is cheating on you and you talk to him, he will lie. (Well not all of it!) A relationship has ups and downs to it that is what it is all about. But there are some good things too. Spend more time with him. find out what he likes about woman. Be what he likes I mean why else would he have married you? There has to be something in that heart of yours that makes him love you! If you are really comitted to this relationship, take some exercise classes. Make him spend time with you and your child or children so that he relizes that he has a loving wife and a loving child. DO NOT MAKE YOURSELF THROW UP!!! It will make you really fat. I am 13 and I weigh 165 too. (Don't think this is bad advice because I am 13 I make really good advice!) I had an emotinal breakdown a while ago about my weight but once I started thinking about the good thing in life, the good things I have, and the fact that I actually have a life even with my downs I felt much better! No matter what you say or hear about yourself, you are beautiful either outside and/or inside. Believe in yourself.