Orgasims??

My name is Stephanie and I just found this site. I am extremly frustrated with myself right now but it is to the point now where I think it is affecting my fiance. This is kinda embarassing but if you can help I would be appreciate it.
I know that I can orgasim but they are weak and I have tried everything to find 'the spot' inside and well we know where to touch on the outside! So anyways, my fiance insists that I do not orgasim and he gets frustrated trying to help me get there. I think that maybe becuase of his pryer relationship he thinks he knows everything about it. I know that when he got her off she kinda gushed, like a big wet spot on the bed and then he knew she got off. Well, I do not do that. Is is possible that I am different from her and I do not gush like that when I do orgasim. Ever women is different right? Am I supposed to be really wet when I am done, all over the sheets. It makes me feel like he is not satisfied. He like the way she orgasimed and it really bugs me that just becuase there is not a big wet spot underneath me that he thinks I lie about my orgasims. Please help. It is wreaking what used to be a great sex life.
stephanie

You are right stephanie, every female is different in the way they have an org**m. Your fiance is wrong for comparing you with his ex girlfriend I feel, because that just doesn't seem right, its going to make you feel the rest of your relationship am I being compared to that 'other girl'. I feel you should tell him this, or at least commuicate that you don't like being compared to someone else, because this could cause problems for you down the road. I also understand where he is coming from as far as not being able to make you have that 'huge org**m', its a male ego thing. The reason he liked when the girl ejaculated 'wet spot' is because very few women do this. So it gave him a big 'ego' boost that he was able to do it, but in reality it was just cause the girl had the ability to figure it out. I am also almost certain you will be able to have bigger orgasms, and maybe even ejaculate sometime down the road. I can give you a few pointers in making your orgasms get to where you want them.

First and formost though, your fiance should be more concentrated on your feelings, and not make you feel bad that you are not a super-duper-org**m-o-tron a lot of girls can't even have orgasms doing certain things. The mer fact that he is putting this kind of pressure on you does have something to do with you not having an org**m. You and he should really focus on the sexual moment, and not on org**m, there is many more things in your sex life that is more important than org**m. Orgasms will come later when you fall into that moment of sexual bliss... if you read up on tantric sex, this is where everytime the male and female get close to orgasms they hold out, pause if you will, or switch positions and then after a few hours of doing everything in the book they finally have a mind numming orgasms that you wouldn't believe. One other thing I have to say about orgasms before I move on to another tip, is just remember that you will have many more sexual encounters with your fiance and have many orgasms down the road, but you must have the passion there, thats the most important part... everyone just thinks its about the O.

Another thing you can do to increase your chances of lasting orgasms, and this may even help you to ejaculate. There is a muscle called the PC muscle, men and women both have them. You know that muscle you use to stop the flow of urine? Well you can exercise it! And this muscle will change your orgams into better fullfilling ones. All you have to do is start by doing 20 'short squeezes' everyday for two weeks. Now when I say short squeezes I mean 1-2 seconds. Do NOT over do it to start off. This is a muscle and you can strain it just like you can your arm or leg muscles. After the two weeks, you can start by doing longer holds like 5 seconds, and even try squeezing a tad harder. Continue this everyday until it becomes an everyday thing without thinking about it... the nice thing about this exercise is you can do it at work or in your car! Its that simple. You should notice improvements very rapidly. It works on guys too! I have noticed an improvment in approx 1 week and can now have multiple orgasms (guys can have them).

Another tip I can give you is while you are in the act of oral, sex, fingering etc... you can squeeze during it, and for some reason it kind of builds up to a big one sometimes. But I dont know how that would work for women, you can try it out though and let me know how that works!

I have heard most women ejaculate with a gspot org**m. It sounds to me this is what you were trying to have in your question. Some girls its a totally different ball game when it comes to the gspot. For example, some can't handle it, some feel the urge to pee, which I have come to conclude is possibly the ejaculation about to come out, but they don't realise it (I have yet to find out because she used the bathroom). To do a gspot org**m... I am not sure if your fiance knows how... so ill throw it out there real quick. The gspot is 1-3 inches in the vagina on the upper wall of the vagina. I have found the best technique to hit is, is to use the middle finger and use the pad of the middle finger and do the 'come here' motions rubbing the top of it. What also works well I have found, with his middle finger in still doing that, he can rub your clit with his thumb, while grabing your breasts with his other hand or something, this one ofcourse takes practice, but it seems to work well.

I hope that helps you out hun

Jason

It is really nice if a man and a woman do everything for each other's satisfaction in the bed, but basically everyone has to c*m alone, and be satisfied by his/her own pleasure. So, I would advice your fiance to care less about your orgasim if you are satisfied and he can c*m, and you also should care about mainly YOUR orgasim, and not about his. Well, I cannot not say too much about his demand for that big wet spot, parsonally I do not like it. So you should not feel embarrassment because you do not produce a huge one.

snowboarder is wrong when he says that very few women experience female ejaculation, nearly 70% of women do it, and approx. 97% can do it if they try, www.sexinfo101.com... as some great info that you would probably find helpful.

I don't think your source is very reliable... the below is from a website by Elizabeth G. Stewart, M.D

'Do Women Ejaculate? Amazingly, no one’s sure. Release of fluid from the urethra at org**m occurs in a small percentage of women, who experience it as extremely pleasurable.'

(Scroll down half a page)
http://www.thevbook....

I've been researching female ejaculation for about 4 years now, and the topic is very interesting, and female ejaculation is the discharge of a liquid for the urethra, exactly the same as it is for guys. it usually happens about 10seconds after the woman feels the sudden urge to urinate

I would say doctors say this because most woment havn't figured it out... for instance... I just figured out how to have multiples and there is this thing the people think that guys can't have them... I have had that happen to a girl before (the urination feeling)... but she ended up going to the bathroom... what do you suggest I do to let her get to that point and make her not think its having to pee? Because I want that to happen so bad... :D

u should tell her to hold on a little longer, and then let go... for most girls it makes them feel gross, because it feels like they are peeing, but the flow is cut off from the bladder... and I should be a clear liquid. if she has trouble letting go, try to make her as comfortable as possible, and I like warching porn with my partner, especially if you want to try something new. if you see how it's done, you can do it urself, but most girls find it much easier to let go, and have squirting qorgams, by themselves. it can feel like they are under pressure to perform for a pertner, so sometimes a solo session is the most relaxing. and a towell is always a good idea, b/c there could be anywhere from a couple of teaspoons to a litre of fluid.

u should tell her to hold on a little longer, and then let go... for most girls it makes them feel gross, because it feels like they are peeing, but the flow is cut off from the bladder... and I should be a clear liquid. if she has trouble letting go, try to make her as comfortable as possible, and I like warching poorn with my partner, especially if you want to try something new. if you see how it's done, you can do it urself, but most girls find it much easier to let go, and have squirting qorgams, by themselves. it can feel like they are under pressure to perform for a pertner, so sometimes a solo session is the most relaxing. and a towell is always a good idea, b/c there could be anywhere from a couple of teaspoons to a litre of fluid.

tricky why have you just copied and pasted Someones view?

if you want the 'gushing' orgasim there is one spot (its a ball of nerve endings) located about 2to 4 inches inside the vagina it is on the top side just behind the urethra tube (where you pee)just touch that spot (works best during 'fingering' and when you feel a orgasim coming just push onthis ball of nerves and the 'gushing' will occur and you shud try kegels their a vaginal exersice that you can do while having sex with your guy all you do is tighten your vaginal muscels during sex for a few seconds and your husband or boyfriend can tell you if he feels any tighting of the vaginal and this shud make you tighter and a lot more sensative during sex thus more powerful and frequent orgasims

in my exsperiance only some women are like that I am but talking to my girlfriends ther only like two of us. you might just be luck , there are diffrent vaginas and your might be shaped diffrently so it holds the 'juices' diffrently and she might of been really wet and never actually orgasmed. thats the way I am.

in my exsperiance only some women are like that I am but talking to my girlfriends ther only like two of us. you might just be luck , there are diffrent vaginas and your might be shaped diffrently so it holds the 'juices' diffrently and she might of been really wet and never actually orgasmed. thats the way I am.

get him to give you oral, and when you feel yourself or*asim get him to just keep sucking on your clit (situated just iside the vag) this could help x good luck!x

get him to give you oral, and when you feel yourself or*asim get him to just keep sucking on your clit (situated just iside the vag) this could help x good luck!x

look sweety I had the same problem well there was one point I wasn't getting orgasims at all. I noticed that I was trying to hard then I would start thinking about other things while in the middle of it. if you two would for play before getting into it you'll have a nice orgasim and tell him to stop talking about the other girl that can also mess things up not every woman is the same we all orgasim differently. just relax and have fun, good luck

yeah every girl is different I know my friend ash she orgasims in gushes only because she says so I dotn know from experience but I dont orgasim like that. when I orgasim all my legs want to do is close and I all my muscles get really tight. including the ones below. all girls are different. and nicole88 up there is right she says if he keeps talkin of his ex like that yeah it wont help and forplay is always good f4 he goes in it will help you orgasim