Should I deny that this one-night stand ever happened?

A friend and I got together, he had asked me out a lot of times I could tell he really liked me and I had always turned him down, but this time I said yes, we had a lot to drink and we ended up having sex on our first "date" (if you can call it that). Before he left we made a promise that we wouldn't talk about this, since we have a lot of friends in common, he also said he would call me the next day but he never did, not that I blame him he must think I'm a slut... I SWEAR that I have never done anything like this, I'm worried he wont keep his promise and tell our friends since guys usually brag about that sort of stuff, If that happens how should I act?? should I call him a liar and deny it ever happened or just avoid him and the friends we have in common??? and how do I deal with this guilt its killing me I feel so dirty , cheap, trashy and I wish it had never happened, I messed up really bad........PLEASE HELP ME...

talk to the guy. thats all you need to do. if hes bragging to his friends about you two hooking up, then hes just a pig, but he sounds alright.. so talk to him.

Greetings,
Maybe, if your soo worried about it getting out, you wouldn't have had sex on your first day. Maybe, the person your going out with and you are not mature enough to have sex if you don't want it for a child. And maybe...You should rethink past actions, because sex is a wonderfull thing when it's used properly. And maybe, he has a right to talk about something you guys did?
And that thing that guys like to brag about as you stated, is a bunch of baloney, stop trying to make yourself feel like a victim.

-Dear funadvisor participents and workers,
I may have sounded harsh in this advice, but I felt it wasn't a question she was asking, but I felt perhaps teh best advice would be for her to think over her actions, and stop feeling like a victim.
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I don't udnerstand why you would have sex with somone then expect it to not be spread. And saying thigns like "Guys liek to talk about that kind of stuff" Wasn't necessary and isn't true.
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For those who criticize my advice remember that people should think of their actions before doing them.

ok phil2611, yes people should think about their actions before, but you have to realize in this case that this was a first date, they got exceptionally drunk and one thing led to another and bada bing bada boom SEX!!! and a lot of guys do talk a lot about sex, who they did, who they want to do. whos good, and such., so yeah.. lost my train of thought...

Phil2611, Im not trying to look like the victim, I take responsibility for my actions, and rethinking what I did wont erase the fact that it happened. But understand that its very different for women and men, a guy can sleep with lots of girls and be considered "The Man" and if a girl sleeps with the guy on a first date is she will be considered a slut, so its not baloney as you call it, we girls also talk about stuff like that but not the same way you guys do and if you are willing to state that you have never bragged to a friend about having a sex with a girl well youre just a liar period. I am and always have been a relationship kinda of girl, so I know that sex is a beautiful experience cause thank god I've been lucky and love has always been involved but in this case we were really drunk and I know its not an excuse, I just want some advice on how to deal with the feelings that I have and not be considered a slut for one mistake, im not looking for someone to tell me "oh poor thing"....please have that in mind, or have you never done anything you regret??... Id rather you as a guy tell me how could I talk to him and make him understand that im not like that and that I care about him, and that I would like a second chance or to start over.
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Frootloop_67 thank you for your advice, he is an allright guy luckily, as far as I can tell he hasnt said anything, I will talk to him, I just dont really know what to say..... but thank you for your help I really appreciate it.

ok ill help you here and you can help me I've never had sex but I plan on it im only 13 but im 100% think im ready for sex and I mean how many ways can a female doctor tell that uve had sex other than poping of the cherry do you knwo

and now for your qwestion im only 13 and I've made out beofore and I mean like
it was with this guy he had a girlfriend tho and I snuk him over my house when my parents were gone and we made out and held each other prude stuff like that I thoguth it would stay safe with my friend so I told her she went to my school and told eveyone and ti was pretty messed up dont denie it becuase thats what happend to me he denied it and everone belived him and they called me a lair and no one would trust me take up for what you did at the end it wont be so bad take up for what you did dont hid in the coner like a pussy or an upset child take up for it

Alexia, congradulations on your maturity shown by your willingness to accept your responsibility for this act of drunken behavior. One of the main problems with booze is that it takes away the common sense factor. Regardless, it happned. Perhaps, since you are feeling remorseful about it you could talk with the guy and ask him to forgive you for your part of the seduction. And forgive him for his. Then forgive yourself and go on with life. We cant't live in the world of what if's. Just live in the what is. not the what was. - - - good luck - - - Gino