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How do I tell my mom that I dont believe in god?

Asked by fau 4 months ago, 14 answers.
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Im going to ask this, hopefully there wont be a fight, ok how do I tell my mom that I dont believe in god, becasue she is really religious, and when she trys to get me to be religious I dont feel a thing, I dont want ot be converted, I already know what I beleive in so just answer the question, how do I tell my mom that I dont beleive in god?

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Me when I'm busy Answered by arachnid on Jul 02, 2008, 02:20AM
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As others have suggested: Just tell her. If you feel it's necessary, go out of your way to assure her that you're still a "good person", that you simply don't believe there's a god. Explain as much as you feel comfortable with, while making it clear that you're not trying to (de)convert her (yet .

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this be me Answered by jello on Jul 02, 2008, 01:14AM
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tell her what you told us...
and christians are supposed to love everyone so there ya go.

lilee Answered by jaes on Jul 02, 2008, 01:20AM
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my moms not chrisitan, shes got a native way of worshiping god, like she beleives in him really strongly and doesnt worship jhc. I just get really annoyed with her

Answered by kaniz on Jul 02, 2008, 01:22AM
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Why you have to tell her that you dont beleive in God. If you dont want to raise a conflict than just shut your mouth & be your ownself. But I think you should have some reason in not to believe in God. Take care

lilee Answered by jaes on Jul 02, 2008, 01:25AM
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ok, whoa im saying last time I asked this question there was a big fight, and I dont need to list my many reasons for not believing god, and I really need to tell her becasue she keeps thinking I believe, when I dont, and I dont really like lying to my mom.

Answered by gasmanobt3 on Jul 02, 2008, 02:30AM
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If you're upfront and direct with her, ask her to listen to you. You may not see things the way she does. Ask her to respect that as you respect her for believing in God. Generally people would much rather prefer you be honest than to live a lie. If you go along with her and she then finds out you're faking it then she'll be hurt all the more. And, it won't do much good either.

I <3 joseph adam jonas Answered by jjcrzy18 on Jul 02, 2008, 04:35AM
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just confront her and tell her. a lot of people make a really big deal for things like this, but then when they say it the person just says something simple and you're like baffled at what they said. so just tell her. she's going to find out anyways. trust me parents, dads, moms they find out everything.

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listen whatever you believe in will be who you are when you grow older. you believe in whatever makes you happy. according to people "god" loves all, correct ? he/she will love you for who you are no matter what. all the bibble is are words, and if you don't believe them that's just who you are. explain to her that you both have different beliefs and that you prefer to believe your own.

that's all. and don't take offense to what others say. there are just so many people obsessed with god that you can't help but get criticism from. so ignore it.

if you feel a certain way, tell her. that's all.

when she goer to pray with you, tell her "I'd rather not"

-good luck !

this is pretty much mee! Answered by sooitca on Jul 02, 2008, 06:36AM
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hi again jaes. unfortuently =, most people who believe in any religion fail to understand why theirs isn't the all-prevaling.

your mum may well not accept your decision, she probably won't if she's so devote, and sorry there's not much you can do about that. you have to understand that her belief is stronger than your disbelief, if that makes sense? in other words, she may feel that acting determined towards you may intimidate you to back down, and at least apear to believe,,,

don't make a huge point of it or anything, just next time something comes up, like prayers at the table, don't outright cross your arms and start humming 'we will rock you' lol, just lower your head and let them do what they do.
just because you're in the presence of people who activly believe, it doens't mean you have to. as long as when prayers are being said you just lower your head and let them prey, you are not infringing on their beliefs either. then when your mum does retalaiate your can demonstrate that you have had respect for her beliefs, as she should for you.

in reality, she may get a bit uppety and unhappy and generally frustrated that her powers of persuassion arn't working. stick to your guns, believe in who or what you want, thats your right, and as long as it doesn't infringe on anyone elses then you are the innocent party.

tips;
don't be aggresive when you talk to her - this will give her cause to tell you your being influence or something!
don't be angry when she dismisses your opinion.
basically, be assertive, but not aggresiv. and consistant. if you don't want to be part of that faith anymore, thats fine, I'm sure one day you'll find something thats suits you, or maybe you won't. but this experiance with your mum, will be an indespensible lesson for you for life. respect others and have faith in yourself and the choices you make.

Thunder Robot Answered by funadvice on Jul 02, 2008, 07:33AM
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Maybe it's not worth it to tell her how you feel at this time. Maybe you should consider waiting until later in life to have the conversation, or just never have it all and avoid the topic of religion. If you think this is a copout, consider that your religious views are really none of her business. Maybe preserving the relationship is more important than having a massive arguement about religion, possibly with bad fallout.

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dog Answered by amblessed on Jul 02, 2008, 09:20AM
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I doubt you have to tell her, but I'd keep it to myself - why add to her hurt.

Toadaly Answered by toadaly on Jul 02, 2008, 10:01AM
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You just have to be honest with her. The next time she's pushing you. *Gently* let her know you no longer believe.

baloogajessica Answered by jadensmom on Jul 02, 2008, 06:23PM
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just tell you that you dont believe in god what are you so scared off , miss alaska

New hair style. Whattaya think? Answered by cowpunk on Jul 03, 2008, 08:47PM
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Good luck...

It's practically impossible to tell parents, under good circumstances, that you don't believe in the Christian ideal of God.

Tell you what (it worked for me). Go to the store and buy a copy of the Satanic Bible by Anton LaVey, and forget it on your bed. When your parents find it, and confront you, that's when you tell them what you really believe in. Anything's better than that in their eyes... right? lol [True story, that's how I told my dad a long time ago.]

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