Once a cheater, always a cheater?

once a cheater always a cheater?? I broke up with ma boyfriend yesterday and now I am under this depression mode. I found out he was going out with ma 'friend.' I forgave him the same day and now we are still friends. then I found out that he might ask me out again. the thing is that I still really care for this dude. second chances? what shud I do?

Cheating is a selfish act, that has no reguard for the other persons feelings. If you stay with someone who has cheated on you, you've essentially taught them that they can sleep with somebody else and you'll take them back. Wow, that's pretty great news for him! Why torture yourself with feelings of self-doubt and insecurity? Tell the cheater to hit the road.

Dear karolrowqz,
Well for the first part 'once a cheater always a cheater'... I dont believe this saying... cause I think people can really change... If they want to... I mean they can stop their selfs from cheating they only are doing it cause they want to...and you do not need someone like that.. you can do better then that... But if you really think he can change for you... then he could do it... but can you trust him again? Thats the hard part.. once someone messes up its hard to have trust for that person again.. He will have to prove to you that he can be trusted again otherwise... its not going to go anywhere,and for the second part... how you dont really care for this dude... well if you truley dont care for him and in your heart you dont.. then don't try this relationship again cause obvisouly your heart is telling you something.. but if you want to try again... then like I said make him prove to you that he is better and that he can change. hope this helps. good luck!!!

thnx for the advice but... I said that I STILL care for him.

Always a cheater in this case, I mean dude you only broke up with him the other day, gee I bet he's really changed, you've got to give it time and make him prove himself worthy of your love and trust. And the fact that you still care for your ex is pretty normal but your selling yourself short if you just go back and he ain't earned it.

Your a glutten for punishment arent you? Guess your just going to learn things the hard way!!

Well, Most of the time the saying is true... They do it once they will do it again... BUT in some cases they can change but you can never be able to trust that person again for a long time. And I dont think you should take him back because if he REALLY loved you he wouldnt have done it in the first place. And why would you want him back when he had his stick in someone elses hole... ewww =( find someone you can trust better =)