Embarrassed that he thinks I'm not a virgin but I am

okay, me and my boyfriend been datin 11 months!
and, we finally had sex tonight.
and, he said I wasnt tight! but, ima virgin. and he thinks im not, and I don't know what to tell him.
he is pretty big, but not that big, and I dont want to tell him hes small and that may be why, but he keeps sayin I wasn't reall tight.
I don't know what to say to him, and I don't know if this is a problem?
it really embaressed me when he said I wasn't reall tight, hes pretty much saying im loose.. I dont want him thinking im loose! so is there any way I can make it seem like im tighter! I've never been more embaressed in my life..
I don't know what to do now =(

Every woman's vagina is different. He is being very insensative. It is a big step for you and he should just be happy to be with you. Tell him about your feelings and how it hurt you when he said that. Communication is sooo important in any adult relationship. If you can't talk about it and you have been together for 11 months I would put off any more physical encounters for now. If you do want to be tighter you can do kegals. Look them up, it's a exercise for your vaginal muscles. I am sure you are just fine though. Most likely you were wet and think of it as a good thing, you were warm and relaxed for him to enter you. Nothing wrong with a little love juice!

it might be a good thing to tell him that was your first time ... and it could be that you just weren't tight some people aren't

your not tight because your hymen was broken before BUT THIS IS NOT ALWAYS THROUGH SEX IT CAN BE THROUGH MAST*RBATION OR DANCE OR SPORTS IT CAN BREAK SO EASILY

maybe you just have a big vaginia?

wow he definately sounds like a bit of a jerk. ...Ask him how many vaginas he has to compare yours too. He really sounds like he knows how to make the big moment special *sarcasm.* He has no right to criticize your body. I would definately say something like 'hey maybe its not me. Ever think of that?' but I also can be a bit too honest like that so you should definately talk it over with him about how hearing him say that made you feel. And if he still acts like a jerk tell him that if doesn't like it he can stick his little man-bit somewhere else!! ;D don't take anyone's b.s. You deserve someone who would be honored for you to accept him into you no matter how tight you are. I would definately talk to him about how he made you feel and explain to him that comments like that don't really make you want to lay down with him again.

You can exercise the Pubococcygeus Muscles... just google it...
However, maybe he's just small?

well..you know not everyone is tight or tiny...some girls just have a slightly larger opening...

tell him you don't like that he was critizing you at a very personal time and perhaps he should be more thoughtful...tell him if he is so concerned about the size perhaps he wouldn't like to have access to it anymore?

see what happens then.

that was very insensitve of him and you need to tell him he was your first, and that a hymen can break from any number of things, including but not limited to...bike riding, horse back riding, dancing, masteerebaring or hell...even motercycle riding...

You need to talk to this guy and tell him how you're feeling...