What to do after cheating on my boyfriend?

Well I Love my Boyfriend with all my heart honestly but I Need Help. The other day I was having doubts and I was feeling so vulnerable about my ex and this other guy that I have been talking to over my Msn. So I went out with This Guy on my Msn and We went to his house watched a movie . but then his dad kicked us out.. we then went and parked in a parking lot. And I He ended up giving my shoulders a rub but then He got a little more seiruos he like jumped on my lap in between my legs in his car. and Tho I told him I couldnt Do anything He just kept kissing my neck and sutff like That Rubbing the crotch of my jeans. He put my Hand on his d*ck I took it off but he kept putting it back. I just gave in bc I didnt want to Make him madso I gave him a really crappy hand job. I want to tell my boyfriend. Bc we have been going out for 11 months. But I cant Bc I dont want to break his Heart. what should I do??? Please Help

xxx Dearly appreciated

OMG, you should never do something to a guy because 'you don't want to make him mad'. Thats a big no no. Don't ever let anyone make you do something you don't want to do. But yes, you were very wrong. You have to tell your boyfriend and hope he will give you another chance. I wouldn't blame him if he didn't though. Would you forgive him if he had done that with another girl? Think about it.

Just tell him the honest truth about what happened and apologize sincerely. Honesty is always the right thing to do. Good luck.

Well, you definately shouldn't have done that, lol! I think you should tell your boyfriend and stop all communication with the guy from MSN! He will probably need some space or time, but hopefully that's all and he will still be with you! Good luck!

Yeah, you need to confess... get dumped... and learn from it...

I don't think you should tell him. The act of confessing is to relieve YOUR guilt. not to help him in any way. Why would you want him to know how you behaved? All in the name of honestfy? In my mind its just taking the burden off your shoulders and putting them on his. People are allowed to have secrets.

***I don't think you should tell him. The act of confessing is to relieve YOUR guilt. not to help him in any way. Why would you want him to know how you behaved? All in the name of honestfy? In my mind its just taking the burden off your shoulders and putting them on his. People are allowed to have secrets.***

THAT IS COMPLETE BULLSH*T

Its THAT kind of twisted thinking that has caused so much infidelity to begin with.

' you dont want to make HIM mad '

what about your boyfriend???

I guess you want to break HIS heart.

putting someone else before your boyfriend is shady..clearly you're not ready for relationships. especially if you can't talk to your boyfriend about being doubtful in the first place.

Learn from your mistakes and move on thats the only thing you can reallly do. Don't hide it from your boyfriend becuase you'll just hurt him more. Next time just think about the consquences before doing shady things

stop cheating

Trust me, I know exactly the kind of guilt that you are feeling, and how hard this is for you. People always say its hard for the person that got cheated on, but it's also so hard for the person that does the cheating. You have so many emotions and you are confused about so many things - I can relate. What you need to realize, though, is that though you feel that you love your boyfriend, he obviously is not the 'one' for you if you are letting yourself do things with another guy. And once you have come to that realization, the only fair thing to do is get out of the relationship - it's not fair to either of you to stay in the relationship while you are having these feelings.
Hope I was of some help. good luck girl

LOL, Captain A, repenting your sins doesn't make you into a person who sins less. in fact, if you always have that 'out' you may feel that it's a free license to behave improperly.

I'm just imagining... 'Hmmm, I know, I'll give into temptation one more time but this time my apology will be REALLY REALLY big, at Applebees with some singers. Ooooh. And some applause.'

Maybe if you have to keep carrying around with you a large bag of guilt, you'll eventially get too tired to put any more in. Just a theory. Twisted thinking? Maybe you're right on one count -- it sure is thinking -- But people who don't/can't think, need all the policies put in place ahead of time. Life isn't a big policy manual where you turn to page 37 for the solution. I really believe my answer is about responsibility for one's actions but just from a different standpoint - that of being an individual, rather than part of a team or a group,

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***LOL, Captain A, repenting your sins doesn't make you into a person who sins less. in fact, if you always have that 'out' you may feel that it's a free license to behave improperly.***

Yeah, you are definately nuts... CERTIFIABLE by the convoluted tissue of lies you're using to convince yourself that cheating is okay to keep secret; instead of learning from your mistakes. You have a lousy outlook on love and relationships.

Confessing for infidelity is NOT just to get it off your chest. It's to make your partner aware that you don't love and/or respect them enough, or have the will power to stay faithful. And they should respond by kicking you to the curb... that's how its supposed to work.

***in fact, if you always have that 'out' you may feel that it's a free license to behave improperly.***

If you believe that to be fact, then you're lousy AND stupid.

Cheating is a huge reason why relationships dont last.

I have more respect for someone who confesses their wrongs to their significant other, than someone who lies and covers up their mistakes.

If you care for that person- you can at least give them the respect and tell them to their face, rather than let them find out on their own, or better yet- never find out, and made out to be a fool.

If you can LIE and cover up cheating once, you will lie and cover up other situations and mishaps. Its a CONTINUOUS vicious CYCLE. Good SOLID relationships are built on TRUTH, LOVE, and LOYALTY.

one secret, only leads to another.

***Good SOLID relationships are built on TRUTH, LOVE, and LOYALTY.***

I second that. And just like sjalldayy said... you obviously aren't that interested in your current relationship if you found someone else more interesting and attractive enough to cheat.

To me it sounds like you were looking for a good time and this MSN guy had other plans. If he forced you into giving him a handjob, then it's called sexual assault.

You need to think about your current relationship... why wasn't it important enough to make you not go for this other guy? What is the one factor that you're so unhappy with? You need to communicate that to your guy.

Hopefully he gives you another chance. Put yourself in his shoes.

Goodluck
xox
Sika

Oh and By the way... Im scared if I break up with him or he breaks up with me He will end up suicidal... He talks about it Sumtimez when hes really feeling low.. and He says everylittle Thing that happens pushed him closer to cutting off his life... And I dont want to be that Big push and regardless of what you think I love him and he is 'the One' I know it Bc hes everything The First & last thing I think about... THe one I think about getting Old with... Trust me what happend with That guy wasnt my fault... He just Pushed himself on me... And Weather it happend with another guy I wasnt attractied to and I wsnt falling for this other Guy... It just happend It does sumthimz but I Still Cant tell my boyfriend about it... it would Break his heart... Causing Our relationship to end... Tho I know I deserve that Heart break... He doesnt and I Cant do that to the one I care about so much... It would Be impossible to Forgive myself..

***Trust me what happend with That guy wasnt my fault... He just Pushed himself on me...***

YOU talked to him on MSN
YOU agreed to go out with him
YOU are responsible

I agreed to watch a Movie with him As Friends... I talked with him on Msn Bc he was my friends Old Boyfriend. And We became freidns and We have hung out in a group Before Just neevr together I wanted to get to know him better. .. As a FRIEND!

Captain Crunch, on the surface, what you say appears to be quite harmless, however, underneath, your self-righteous approach to my viewpoint has me a little worried about your character!

While of course I don't believe you would have this woman stoned to death for her infidelity, I do wonder if you can possibly broaden your thinking as I know you're not the bible-thumping type.

Here's what I'm curious about. Are there any conditions at all, under which you WOULD have advised this young woman to not tell? Example (this is a bad exampe) if he only had 6 more days to live?

Now, on the issue of me being lousy and stupid, you know, that was quite uncalled for, and it only goes to show that if you are cornered, you forget to be articulate. Do try and tone down the name calling -- you''re quite a pretty boy so be careful to always promote your intellect as well as your looks.

To the original poster... I'm so sorry that you're in this dreadful position. Maybe after reading all these comments, you can figure out the right thing to do. In all honesty, I find it impossible to judge this situation without really knowing you or your boyfriend. I just know that sometimes there are no easy answers.

***Captain Crunch, on the surface, what you say appears to be quite harmless, however, underneath, your self-righteous approach to my viewpoint has me a little worried about your character!***

It wasn't self-righteous, and you've already proven that you're not the type who'd be considered a good judge of character.

***Now, on the issue of me being lousy and stupid, you know, that was quite uncalled for, and it only goes to show that if you are cornered, you forget to be articulate. Do try and tone down the name calling -- you''re quite a pretty boy so be careful to always promote your intellect as well as your looks.***

It WAS called for, and there was no cornering. Try to at least have good reasons for antagonism.

***I agreed to watch a Movie with him As Friends... I talked with him on Msn Bc he was my friends Old Boyfriend. And We became freidns and We have hung out in a group Before Just neevr together I wanted to get to know him better. .. As a FRIEND!***

IRRELEVANT! You still went out with a guy, behind your boyfriend's back. Oh, and for future reference, most boys in your age bracket, aren't looking to be 'friends'

Well... I didnt go out with him Behind my Bfs backk... He knew I was going over there to watch a movie.. I told my boyfriend I was going over there... Its not irelevant... And I dont Give a F* ck about the judgment you place on the guys in my 'age bracket' There are decent guys out tehre and Frum talking to him on Msn and In groups I thought He was...