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Asked by fau 26 days ago, 2 answers.

Well I recently broke up with my g/f of over 3 years. She just wasn't happy in our relationship. While trying to get my life back together I was trying to get a hold of some friends that I hadn't talked to much while dating my now ex. One of which was...

a girl that I had some history with and my g/f just wasn't comfortable with me being around the other girl.

Anyways, I would like to be friends with this other girl now, but she has a b/f now and is afraid that she will be tempted to cheat on your b/f with me. (Didn't know I was so appealing :P).

Unfortunately, I have almost no respect for her boyfriend. He is lazy, not very bright, and as far as I know has been 'looking for a job' for over a year, and has been mooching off my friend. Also, I wouldn't mind getting back into a romantic relationship with her.

So I'm confused as to whether I should just try to be friends with her, and if so convince her I wont let her cheat on her b/f with me.

Or should I try to get her to break up with her b/f and go with me...

I have trouble asking my friends about this b/c everyone that knows her her b/f don't like her b/f and are all for getting rid of him.

Whore. Answered by spartan512 on Oct 28, 2009, 08:32AM
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Alrighty broskii.
There's a bit of caution you gotta use here for one.
Look at it like this, if she's willing/would cheat on her boyfriend with you if she got the chance then what is to say she wouldn't say the same to another guy while dating you?
You've gotta think out all the options here before you take that leap. I'd go with being friends for now. Wait till things play out with her boyfriend and go from there.

As for the respect for the boyfriend, you don't have to have respect for him. But there's no need to be rude to him :P

Good luck! :D

Answered by isitmeaes256 on Oct 28, 2009, 08:36AM
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You have to take a step back and ask yourself, why would she be in a relationship with someone for a year if he doesn't have good qualities. Women tend to tell guy friends all the bad qualities of a boyfriend because what guy wants to hear all the good stuff? And if she's willing to cheat on him for you, what's to stop her from doing the same to you in the future? It's best to let her deal with her relationship without you influencing it so if she decides to leave it's because she wants to and not because you enticed her. I would recomment staying friends and not getting too close as it could cause a big mess. If you care about her as much as you say you do, you'll let her decide for herself if she wants to stay in her relationship or move on without you swaying her either way.

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