Should we take it to the next level?

me and my boyfriend have been going out for 8 months tomarrow and he wants to go down on me and have sex and I told him I wasnt ready and he respected that and said he will wait till im ready. I have givin him a hj and he has fingered me and felt me...

up... my ? is I want to take our relationship to the next level but not as far as oral or sex any suggestions thanx ~kaitlyn~

If you want your relationship to mature physically and emotionally, maybe you could get some counciling at your local planned parenthood or family clinic with your boyfriend. You can exchange some STD's with oral sex. and you should also know your options with birth control. That would be the smart way to take things to a new level.

Why does it have to be on a physical level?

There are a lot of ways to be intimate with people with out having sex. Its good that you told him that you weren't ready..that was really mature.

good choice girl! if he truly loves you he will wait for you

If you are not ready then wait. When you do feel ready, use protection.

to answer angelfire it is because I already know how to strengthen everything else and I just wanted to know

to answer escortgino, It is true that when people think of intimacy, sex is the first thing that comes to mind, and that is a totally reasonable definition because that is my first thought when I hear the word too most of the time..I guess what I meant by saying you can be intimate without having sex is..that for some relationships intimacy isn't just the sex..its about trust and the connection you share with that other person..the ability to feel and understand what that person is feeling. I think when you reach that level, with sex excluded, the bond in a relationship is much more secure. I also think of the movie 40 days and 40 nights. I know that sounds weird but..the main character is supposed to abstain from any sexual contact, whether its with another person or self induced. towards the end of the movie the character played by Shannyn Sossamon and the character played by Josh Hartnett have this intensely intimate moment..involving org**m and they don't even touch each other. It is a movie and maybe it cant happen in everyday real life..but maybe its a possibility

Hey! If your not ready then dont go threw with it. But considering a condom faliure percent it 3, I cant see why not xD

Btw if yournot comferatble just wait. He obviously llikes you because he respects you today your still a virgin because of it.