Should I let my friend lose her virginity to this rough guy?

so my friend and I are both 13, and theres this guy who my friend thinks shes in love with but he just broke up with her. I was talking to her on the phone for a while being supportive and trying to be supportive and she wanted me to send him a love letter on myspace. so we are going in to 8th grade in two weeks and like everybody is giving other peole head including me. shes one of the few people who havent yet but he has had it done by someone before her. so in the love letter she was telling me what to write. she made me write that if that if its what he wanted her to do she would give hm head and her virginity.I know it might not sound like a big deal cause we are old enough but this guy is known to be really rough and he like hurts girls when he oges in htem. I already sent the message and im really scared because later this week we are having a sleepover with me her him and im inviting a guy and I know imonly going to go to oral since I dont know him but if she tries to loose her viirginity I don't know if I would let her because shes been httrough a lto and I dont want to see her get hurt. what should I do??also hte parties going to be in this huge tent without supervision and hes bringign condoms. also im kind of scared that the other guy I havent met yet might try and have sex with me. and I know that I dont want to but I wouldnt want to seem like a loser so I probably would anyway. I odnt want to lose my virginity tell highschool at least.

also what if they make it like a foursome, I dont want to go past fingering/oral but how do you say no I mean im not going to just sit in the corner of a tent and watch my friend in pain as she loses her virginity to keep a guy. or is it just selfish and should particpate so she can get the guy? I dont want to be selfish. I think I will partipate now. I knwo she really loves him and your supposed to sacrifice for your friends.

You're 13...you really, really need to wait until you're older. If your parents found out, they'd freak. Have you seen the number of people who say (on this site) OMG, I'm pregnant & I'm only 13!!

If you don't have sex and avoid it till your older, then you'll never have to worry about getting pregnant.

alright well this is my advice for you because I know how the advisors can be sometimes. I know people who have had sex before highschool so its not that bad but MAKE SURE you use the right protection. and make sure that this guy has on protection while hes with your friend. also if you don't want to have sex w/ him you dont just have to be like no you can be like how about I give you head instead. because I'm a guy trust me head feels better than sex w/ a condom which you sure definitly use. just tell him your not ready for sex maybe in a year or so but now all you will give him is head. and if you want ask him to eat you out or something.

Personally I think you should respect yourself enough to not sleep around. Sleeping around never solved nothing except giving yourself a bad reputation. Don’t let your sex organ be the boss of your life. Sluts are for having a good time with, not for marrying. If your ultimate goal is to be used and abused only then start sleeping with as many as you can. the more, the better. The title of slut is only a couple of men away! Looking for a soul mate is a lot like shopping for a car, but remember, most guys try to act cool and they will not tell you the straight of it, but when looking for a true mate NO guy wants a model that has been driven hard enough and by enough guys to receive the title of “slut.”

Whether you hate my opinion or not I could care less but I’ll tell you one simple fact, that is the honest truth :
Whether you realize it or not “ALL” women put out advertisments through their words and actions. Guys are always looking at your advertisments and attemtping to interpret them correctly. BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU ADVERTISE FOR LADIES, FOR YOU JUST MIGHT GET YOUR WISH!! If you advertise a “slut” then do not expect “respect” to answer your ad. Today’s fun is tomorrow’s responsibility!
If you are a teen then wise up and realize that sex and love are 2 different concepts.

hun>giving a boy head, or having sex with him will NOT make him like you or even care about you!! She can give him her heart, and soul and she will not be able to keep him. You said that you are probably going to have sex because you dont want to be a loser? Youd rather disrespect yourself with some boy you dont even know? Where are your morals? These boys dont like you, they dont even care about you. All they want is to have their fun with you, and use you, then move on to the next girl, and you wont ever hear from them again...that is until they want more sex!

Sex is NOT... a way to make somebody love you or make a commitment to you.

I say dont do it! Doesnt make any sense really. If this is truly your best friend I would have said NO, to sending the letter. This tent sleepover should be cancelled and rescheduled in about 5 years. No guy is ever worth what your not ready for. Sex is not something to play with, or to take lightly. You are kinda young to just do oral or anything else that will alter your life at your age. What if hes got sores or an STD? A females body is sacred territory, and to give that away shouldNOT be easy.

Girl Giving Head Is Nasty && Sex Is Sex!!! Sex Will NOt Keep A Boy, Love, or Commitment!!! Im Your Age && At My School If Your Give Head You Will Get Picked On. So Make They Right Choice.

I completely agree with angelfire. No, you are NOT old enough. It's people like you that are labeled as the school sluts, and who have babies before they graduate highschool. Have some SELF RESPECT.

No talk her out of it he might do more than she wants him to since he is so rough take it from someone who know about being pressured