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princess Asked by babelicious_x 18 days ago, 6 answers.

I've wrote about this before..
I'm 17 nearly 18 and my parents hit me and kick me for different pathetic reasons some being that the plates are out of line or just something pathetic like that, I managed to cover everything up until I told my tutor at college, everything came out, it was such a relief to get it out in the open... I ended up meetin a housing officer who understood what I was going through and she helped me get into a youth place where there was support on going. I left this youth place to go back home as I thought my mum and dad had changed, they would send me txtes saying how much they cared... but when I got back after only an hour it all started again I gave them a little while, I just thought everything will be alright in the morning, but it never got any better it got worse and worse... I got back in touch with my housing officer and told her what had happened and she got me another place somewhere else where there wasnt any support... I found not having this support really hard and ended up sleeping out most nites and partying to cry and cope in the end my room had to be closed as I wasnt staying there enough... I've now returned back home and I know I shouldnt have but it was a last resort the housing officer couldnt find me anywhere else she was unable to assist me ... the violence is getting worse and I've tried with the housing officer again and again but I dont think she realises how much danger I'm in,I have cuts and bruises ova me and she saying to me we have done all the referrals there isn't anything else ...and im soo scared but too scared of them to goto the police I know I should go and give statements and that but I love my parents despite them hitting me ..I have a social worker who is only short term and she neva contacts me with any news or updates the last time I spoke to her was monday and that was to ask where I was living but I havent told her where I am or the housing officer as they will probz ring the police...
any ideas on what to do I was thinking bout going to see the housing officer in person and show her the bruises and show how much danger im in...x please help im not sure how much I can take..

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Beau (Bo) and Harvey Answered by alicenmonty on Jul 17, 2008, 09:07AM
| 16 answers.

You should show your housing officer your cuts and bruises. Go and live wih another family member if you have one - and talk to your parents - I know you think I'm stupid suggesting that - but talking to your parents could help.

Answered by hope03 on Jul 17, 2008, 09:26AM
| 60 answers.

you need to go to the police right away. You shouldn't be scared because the police will put you in a safe place away from your parents. Show them your cuts and bruises. Also take pictures of all the cuts and bruises you ever get, and write down when you got them. This will help if you ever need to go to court, and when you go to anypne in the future concerning this matter you will already have evidence. I would STRONGLY suggest getting emacipated if you cannot take it anymore. I mean you are nearly 18 so you can move out any way. Honestly if you move in with somebody who can provide proper care for you, and dont tell your parents, the police will not make you come back home because you are being abused. You NEED to go to the police ! Arrange to move in with a friend for a little bit until you are 18 or whenever you can support yourself. Make arrangements, move out without telling your parents, but tell the police that you are mobving with a friend becuase you are being abused and you will be ok at your friend or whoever's house. The police will not make you come back.. O and by the way I would suggest getting a restraining order against yor parents. The judge will grant ti right away because you have evidence( where pics coem in) of domestic violence. YOU SHOULD NOT BE TREATED LIKE THAT!!! If you dont feel comfortable with a final restraining order against them, get a temporary order agaimst them which lasts until you say otherwise. A restraining order would be a good idea just incase your parents decide to go physco and find out where you are. Do what I said, IT WILL WORK, and dont be scared about going to the policce!! you need to tell them.

favorite girl Answered by piker187 on Jul 17, 2008, 10:17AM
| 1071 answers.

im sorry to hear that. you say your in college right, there are quite a few options to get the hell out of there. your almost 18, your an adult now. you shouldn't have to put up with any of that sh*t. its not expensive at all to get your own place with some friends, or even just other girls you don't know but need a roommate. I don't know your financial situation but a student loan and a part time job would take care of all the bills if your splitting it 3 way's. because your situation is extremely unhealthy for you, if no one else will help you you must help yourself. as I said, your an adult now, you can't expect a housing officer or anyone for that matter to help you out if you choose not to go to the police. and I don't know if you have a boyfriend but if you do look intto getting a place with him, if not, find a good boyfriend, im not trying to sound like a d*ck im just laying out some options. I moved right out at 18 to go to college with no help from my parents, just a part time job and two friends. I am sorry to hear about your situation, no one should have to go through that. if you want to talk just send me a funmail. im a good listener, you'd be suprised.

Answered by tsfunad on Jul 17, 2008, 10:35AM
| 6 answers.

definitely go to your housing officer and show him the bruises,see if you could find a live-in job for right now and when your stable then try to get help for your parents there is definitely something wrong with then but for now you need to focus on you and providing a better enviorment for yourself. until your housing officer could find you a place I would definitely check into live-in work there the easiest jobs being a nanny,housekeeper or even taking care of the elderly @ least you will have a place to stay and a steady income

brown hair... Answered by skinnymini22 on Jul 17, 2008, 08:13PM
| 38 answers.

how can you love someone who beats you and physically hurts you any being that hurts you as badly as they ahve doesnt deserve you you have to think about your own safetty go to tha police or go to your worker and tell her more and more but you have to get out!!!

Damn that short attention span... lol Answered by drama_kidd_914 on Jul 18, 2008, 06:10AM
| 30 answers.

you should try to apply for a job, and then you should move somewhere else, because now you are just about old enough... it is illegal for your parents to treat you like that for pretty much no reason at all. or you could move to a relative's house or a friend's house. or you could try and get family counciling. I wish you good luck!!!

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