Need some help

Me and my boyfriend of 7 1/2 years broke up and we have a 16 month old son. He broke up with me because I went into his phone and saw that he had lied about who he went to have lunch with, he told me it was a guy friend in reality it was a women, I talked to this girl and she told me it was just a lunch nothing else happend and she even regreted it..and he was mad because I did that and broke up with me...now he told me he wants to try to work things out but I have a hard time trusting him and I keep pulling away...we have been sleeping together and I know thats a no no, because I feel thats all he wants, he has not shown me hes changed, he has not takin me out, he shows up at my house late at night, and I recently found out he purchased flowers for someone...I love this guy with all of my heart and he tells me he still loves me to, but I cant seem to get over him...he told me if I started dating he wanted me to give my son to him because he doesnt want anyone else taking care of him...im trying hard to get over him but everything around me, reminds me of him...can you please help me

remember times heals everything just be patient something will work out. my advice would be to leave hiim for good

dont let him take your son! your his mother and he needs you, visitations are okay for him but nothing more...he's the one who is a cheater...hes a liar...u cant trust him if they say nothing happened it could be because he told her to say that...u can never tell if you caught him in a lie, once a liar always a liar and then believe they can get away with anything

I would never ever give him my son...

Very Diffucult situation. I am sorry you are going throught this. Well, here is what I would do - I would give it a set time (tell him he can come back for a trial period). Set a time...12 weeks? If he has not started treating you as a priority or his #1, I would not settle for that. As hard as it will be, you are going to need to come up with a very black and white plan of when he can visit the baby (while you are present) and the stay away from him. You may need to get the courts involved so he has strick guildlines that will be enforced. But do not settle for how he is treating you now.

As I learned in Marraige and Family class in college; a child can grow up without a father. But a child cannot grow up without a mother. Don't let that douche take your son! He needs you. Obviously the father is unstable (not meaning mentally). He just needs to figure things out. With a kid that'll damper his permiscuousness and he won't get laid or whatever it is he is looking for. Don't take him back.