Need some advice with this problem please...(long...)

I will try to not make it so long but well here it is...

I'm 20 and I didn't finish high school because of some personal problems... (no it wasn't pregnancy). I quit school like more than 3 years ago, tried to get my GED but I didn't pass the examn...

cause of two classes, since then I've been about to go with my mother to see when they give the next exam so I can take it again, but I just need to take the 2 classes I didn't pass. But my mother always says we are going and whatever, that she just needs to take a day free from work then we go, but she never does and months pass and we never go...I don't have another way to go cause there's no one else that can take me there, plus I need her to she can take some documents I don't know about...

So anyways, aside from that, I've been having an internet relationship for around 2 years, and we haven't been able to meet because he needs a visa to come to USA, plus the ticket for me to go visit him there is expensive...otherwise we would have met already. but I'm still trying. So well one time I was about to go, cause my boyfriend got me the money I needed for the ticket, my mom was going to let me go but then my dad came to my house (he doesn't live here) and started crying because he was worried that something would happen to me since I would be going there so far and alone...so because of that I decided to stay and wait more. But now I'm decided to go cause I'm tired of waiting already and like I just feel too lonely and empty here so I just want to be with him and make a new life...but we don't have the money anymore, so need to work for it again. But the problem is that, I wanted to go there before May 8 that is my boyfriend's birthday, but my mother is planning to buy tickets next month to go to florida around May or Jun, but I don't want to go cause like I said I want to go visit my boyfriend in May or before, plus I'm already sick of going to Florida so many times... but then I don't know how to tell my mother that I don't want to go because of that, cause everytime I talk about the topic she seems annoyed, so I really don't know how to talk about it anymore but I need a way to tell her and make her understand me. Like I want her to understand that I'm 20 years old already and practically I haven't done anything with my life so I'm tired of it and I think it's about time that I move and do something, and I want her to understand that my happiness is not here, I don't want to go get another guy from here just because he's closer, I'm already tired of relationships that don't last because the guys are not mature enough to be committed and have a long term relationship...so if my real happiness is at the other side of the world I will go there, I won't settle for something that doesn't make me happy just because it's close. So I really don't know how to talk to my mother about all this and make her understand and be OK with what I want... It's like she doesn't care if I turn 40 and I'm still in my house in front of my computer doing nothing, I think she still thinks that I'm 15 and that I don't need to do anything with my life like get a serious relationship and get married in the future and etc... So basically I need some advices on how to talk to her and make her understand me cause I think about how to talk to her about it but in the end I don't do it cause I don't know how to start...so please if anyone could help =/ and sorry for the uber long story but I think it was needed.

One of the things you said was so mature that it would fit perfectly into what you have to say to your mother. If my real happiness is at the other side of the world I will go there. You need to tell your mother that you trust this person and that you are convinced he can support you and will make you happy. You must explain to her that the 'same old same old' just isn't enough anymore and that you are seeking fulfillment in life.

You need to tell her that when you find someone who values you and enjoys talking to you (and understands you), it's a special thing. Good people don't come running to you; they are hard to find and you need to tell her that there is a good person waiting for you overseas.

Ultimately you need to remind her that you're a grown woman (this isn't her decision), but you simply need to tell her that you still want her permission and her approval because of how much you treasure her as a mother.

I hope that helps!

I agree with the previous. Although, leaving everyone and everything you know to go across the world to meet a guy that you've never met before is a huge deal. I'm not saying don't do it but think about it long and hard. Do you truly know this guy? There are a lot of weird people on the internet these days, but also I've known a few people that have met people off the internet and I myself have also done it. I think the thing that is of worry is it being so far away.

But, if you truly beleive that this is a way for you to be happy then go for it. Talk to your mother about it and list out all the positives as well as the negatives that way your parents know you've thought of everything. Good luck!

I know everyone would think it's a bad idea but I do really know him enough even if we haven't been face to face before. I know I can trust him and I know he will make me happy.

thanks though, I will see what I can do...

my honest opinion is that you ahve too many people controlling your life you didnt go becaue your father guilted you out of it and you couldnt get your ged becasue of your mother... here it is when you ahve to take your ged drop your mom off at work and find out what those documents are your twenty years old you should know what you need. so drop her off and go take your test and get a job I also recommend going to an online college like strayer university or something to get a better education and get a job or two if needed but continue doing the online thing... you have to make your life better so you can feel good enough to take control of it if you really really trust that guy then go to him but dont go on whim have a plan when you get there dont just wander around a strange country with a guy you never met and other that ... that's my advice take control of your life move on empower your self well hope I helped

thx all