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Yup I'm a Dad Asked by tvsnow about 1 year ago, 7 answers.

Im usually not one for needing advice, but I just want opinions. I ran into the first girl I ever fooled around with yesterday. she came over to my place and we just talked. I could really tell she wants to date me. she's real pretty but theres a...

couple problems. for one, and I didn't ask this, she just blurted it out. but she's 20 years old and has slept with 15 guys, thats pretty slutty to me. and she screwed one of my best friends about 4 years ago, and I stick to a code that I never fool around with a girl after one of my friends has. and normally I wouldn't consider dating her, but I havn't had a girlfriend in about a year. so im a little lonly and in need of companionship. and she told me she's cheated on almost every boyfriend she's had, but at least she's honest. 15 guys is a lot for a 20 year old. I don't know, I just can't stand being alone anymore, its just depressing. and I can't ever seem to find the right one, but I need someone. what do you think

Not nice to laugh at other's short comings Answered by ethmer on May 08, 2008, 09:13PM
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It doesn't sound like she is trying to establish a relationship with you. She may also be in a situation where she is lonely for sexual companionship. Dating for the purposes of sex is not such a bad idea. It fulfills both of your needs without any long term commitments.

I do have a problem with you terming her as slutty because she happens to enjoy sex and has had 15 partners. Over how long a period of time? 5 years? That is only 3 per year which really isn't much.

Do you consider yourself or other males slutty if they have 3 different relationships per year?

I think you sort of have a double standard.\

In any case, enjoy the dating.

 

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favorite girl Answered by piker187 on May 09, 2008, 09:04AM
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good answers, thanks. pinkpearl, thats awsome. Better than nothing, I didn't even think about it that boldly but thats exactly right. to answer some of your questions I've only sept with 5 women. which aint bad, and I know my friend wouldn't care. and im not afraid about getting hurt, I don't think she could do it. I'd date her but theres no way I would fall in love with her, its never happend. but I don't know, I need somethin. I'll probably just have a quick fling, boost my confidence so I can get back in the game, lol. thanks again guys

Shark Atack Answered by funadvice on May 08, 2008, 09:03AM
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I agree with everyone so far but here is a little bit extra food for thought.

you stated this was the first girl you fooled around with.
sounds like you have a history of fooling around yourself.
sounds as if a bunch of guys fooled around with her also, including your friend.
perhaps your behavior and the behavior of your friends helped contribute to this girls lack of self and need for acceptance. sounds as if she has been putting herself out there to find someone to love her.
don't date her just because you are lonely. that would be even worse than just fooling around with her.

and, how many girls have you been with? honestly.

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Echinacea 'Harvest Moon' Answered by pinkpearl on May 08, 2008, 08:55AM
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Piker, BTN relationships are not usually very good or very fulfilling. IId say if you went forth with this one, you may regret it. Unless as ty says, you just want a casual thing meaning a couple of romps in the hay.

BTN = Better Than Nothing

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summer 2007 Answered by nicole_dawn on May 08, 2008, 12:20PM
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well, if she's cheated on almost every boyfriend there's a chance you could get hurt even more if you get too attatched. and why would you want to date a slut?

me and my Timi at his graduation Answered by your_clebertiy_night_stalker on May 08, 2008, 09:24AM
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hmm ... if she has been with 15 guys and cheated on them I wouldnt put myself out there to get hurt . she does seem a bit trashy (no offense meant) but I would wait until you find that person that takes your breath away and couldnt just live with out

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kitty Answered by ty on May 08, 2008, 08:19AM
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She's honest? How honest could she be if she cheated on every guy she's ever dated? and with that record, what makes you think she wont cheat on you?
I wont pass judgement on the guys she's slept with, if it was a guy it would be fine, so why the double standard?
However, she doesnt sound like dating material... casual fling material maybe, but def not relationship material...

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