I'm having an affair, what should i do?

Im married, and im am very unhappy, so I've been messing around with another person... and that person wants to be with me... but cant make up its mind... what should I do? I know this may sound like a dumb question... but I need so advice.

first make sure you dont love your wife any more... second if you are sure of it than stop making yourself misserable and aboid getting your arsse beaten by your wife. So take one day sit down with her and talk it out. IF it gets out of hand than turn the situation around and point it out, that her behavior is the main reason why you cant be with her. Ta Da .. than divorse and make your new life... perhaps move away leave the place take an adventurous flee to another country. BUt just be very sure that is what you want and it isnt just the males midlife crissis. IT happens .. and if it is than just dont get cough ... becoues there isnt anything worse than a cheating man .

if you are not happ with the person you are with then tlk to her! tell her your real feelings im sure she will understand lets just hope she isnt a physco and stlks you lol. and that way you can be with the person you are happy with, im sure your wife will understand she probably just wants you too be happy.

tell your wife or husband or whoever. its not fair on them.

ask for a divorce

DOnt ask for a divorce!!! please be different and ask and talk about the problem, if you do not love him its hard to say but seriously be the minority people have made the vows a game and stick it out stop being dumb and fooling around and your sin will find you out, if you are unhappy tell him. tell the other guy he has gotta go obviously if he cant make his mind up its for one thing and that is to use and abuse you and then he will forget your name the next year I promise there is a better way to this , this you might not agree with but stay strong talk it out and find ways to connect with your husband

Talk to the person your messing around with. Tell him that what you guys are doing is wrong and it makes you feel guilty. If he cares enough about u, he'll say ok, let's stop messing around until you and your hubby are officially over. If he says anything like fck that, let's have sex again!... your wasting your time..( That kinda proves that once you ask your hubby for a divorce, he'll pretty much lose interest because he'll c your depending on him and not anyone else)

only after that conversation with the guy your having an affair with do you go to your husband and ask him whether he's still happy with this marriage... If he's hesitant to answer that... Tell him your not happy... And that you want a divorce...
If he asks you anything like .. What? Why.. Is everything alright?... and drops everything and looks at you with his full undivided attention... --please don't fck your life up by leaving someone that cares so much about u... Think before you make any drastic decisions. It's life... Only get it once...

stop with the self destructive behavior. don't tell your mate. it'll only destroy them. tell the person you're cheating with that you took wedding vows. live accordingly or be prepared to have what goes around - come around. everything we do in life has consequences, maybe none you can see initially, but whatever you put out in to the universe (good or bad), will return to you multiplied. just like a thrown boomerang- it goes out and returns with a vengeance.how would you like to be walking in your mate's shoes and be on the receiving end of what you're dishing out? figure out how to get your love back for your mate. it's a learned thing and one practices falling and staying in love. the grass always looks greener at the side of some new persons bed. save your marriage. divorce is throwing up your hands and quitting.