How should I react and treat him?

hey thanks for the advice. um I am in my middle but kinda early 20s still. so yes im still a young buck.I really do care about him an weve been together every since last april.okay its awkward now. but after all thats happen I still is going to be there for him. an although he that kind of guy thats so up an down but really believe if we start putting more effort in this relationship it can work. although he has a lot of homegirls an he pays them attention to them a lot it bothers me a little bit because we toghether an I dont know if he shy or ashame of us or he just dont want all his homegirls to know he is involve with me. or I dont if its just what he is use to playin in actin really cool with them. because a lot of these girls he grew up with. lie for exaple when we on church grounds when I try an talk to him he wont stand there 2 seconds to let me get out what im going to say to him. so how should I play this let him come to me for change an I play it cool? or tell his homegirl stop being rude an disrespectful when they see us talking or say to them you know we in a relationship this my ol man right? also like a month or two ago in church I was cool with this girl an um her an my boyfriend are homeys. so I found out how she really was her true colors came because I can see straight threw her she is messy and drama like girl. so I had been noticin she was up in my ol mans face to much an on 2 occasions I was went up to him to talk to him an one of those time in church I gave him his valentines day card so his homegirl was actually just standing there smilin down being disrepectful instead of tellig my ol man okay im let ya an ya girfriend get yall talk in so she was standing up there looking al in me an our conversating so he know it was a valentines day card so he was putting on a front like oh I was giving him a birthday card. um like for instance I walked up to my olman an his homegirl was standing there an I wasnt studyin bout I was shame I say here babe heres your valentines day card an he front an said oh my birthday pass already an he know dare well I wasnt givin him a birthday card it was a valentines day card with 20 dollars in it but he didnt open it up until he gotten home which was a good thing he did cause she was all in his face. anyways um so she click a nerve so around this time I had been stop talking to her for a minute cause she started actin shady towards me anyway an she was in my olmans face to much so before I before I left out of church I ran right up up to her an told her stany out of my boyfriends face so much cause she dont mean him no right an she messy. so she got mad an my boyfriend was standing there close where the band was playin at talking to his homeyboys. so she didnt like that but I was right an I told her an she got so mad sat me an she lied to my boyfriend an told him a lie that I said for her to stop talking to him an I really got angry cause she told my boyfriend that an it was a lie and I try to tell my boyfriend the truth an what really happen an he got so angry at me an cursed me out kinda an he blame me for it an believed her an sided with her. how did he that made me feel when he stuck up for an im his girlfriend an thats only hes homegirl and she lied twisted it up and he sided with her wrong an I really never got a chance to get fully explain myself to my boyfriend. but in the process of this happening he kept sittin by her church for a good 4wks the girl that I told her to stay away from my boyfriend. an that sunday when I told her that now that later I was talking to my boyfriend aon the phone an like I said he was so upset with me but I thought he was going to go for the right an I was the one gettin cursed out an I told him I was so sorry I didnt know he wasnt going to get thta upset about it an that his homegirl wasnt worth coming between us because I was gettin the feelin she was all in his face tryna come inbetween me an him an she was all in his face and its like he was right along with her tryna make me feel jealous. and I had went a minute not taling to his homegirl. but ask me do he be in her face now nope not none an he dont sit by her no more whenever he do be in church. and she dont be runnin in his face at all. now she be gatin out that church. an now she dont hardly be coming,she misses a lot. an guess what you know that sunday when he talk to I try to tell him the real her ya know his homegirl an that 4 wk when he gon go an sit by her an she an my boyfriend was over there all giggly an he glance over there where I was. an he know what he doing tryna make me jealous an she was over there she um kept looking back over at me an smilin down soi was so fired up that following sunday so at the end of church he know I was frustratin with him an I went up there to say by to one of my sisters in church an I really didnt look his way an he was looking foolish so instead of him walking up to me teling me hiself was I gon call him,he told another one of his homegirls to ask me was I gon call him . so I was stunned I realy didnt know what to say back cause I thought my boyfriend was mad kinda at me so he really wasnt. but I was realy edgy but I was playin it off so he kept glancing at me so I told his homegirl to tell him that I guess so. I really didnt give him a ye or no answer because he acted like he was so into his homegirl so during churchtime. so I left out frustrated. so what do you think did I make a mistake by saying something to his homegirl ? an this was back in february now. so as of now thats why I am the way I am cause I dont trust his homegirls. how I know if they mean him well. an yes I am being honest and when time suits his homegirls at church an I be noticin them now. when his homegirls at church had they little ways on them they treat my boyfriend like a mistreatin neckbone an yes they do him wrong an when they in a shady with him they will walk right pass him as if he dont exist then when they do that he be looking foolish an im sure he be wondering whats wrong with them cause those his homegirls. but thats whats up and but a few times my boyfriend know I sometimes be standing right an his homegirls be standing right there an hell walk up to them put his arms around they waist an say oh these my my homegirls here an I be standing right in front of him an he did that to me quite a few times so I play it off an walked away. so I know he was tryna make me jealous. I said to myself I didnt care but I did an it bothrer me. an to be honest im bother about this whole situation. because I get the feelin his always going to have this thing with his homegirls an hes going to be all in they face to much an I understand he grew wup with a lot of these girls an he been knowing them for a long time but theres a limit an a lot of his girls outside of church are like these fass,ghetto an hoodrat type an tacky girls. and a few of are either sometiming an have they ways on them an some are messy an drama.so to be honest outta all this I stil care for him deeply an I want to keep being patience but at the same time im on the edge an he is about to lose a goodgirl like me if he grows up an stop playin games? and it was told to me by a good friend of mines that he did the other past girlfriends like this like just him being constantly up an down. so now he has a goodgirl like in his life an I dont understand why he treats me the way he. dont he know he dont have to do me like this because I dont have the the heart to do him like that and I still dont. and im his girfriend and his homegirls treat him so shady sometimes an he still be all in they face treated them so nice an cool an be actin like as if they never treat him shady sometimes.what is it dang? what ya think whats up with that? so it so much I want to to talk to him about an I wont feel right if I say something to him an its like this ssituation can work I believe if we put worth effort an start back communicating an start back talking to each other on the phone. I know one time I told him I really miss him calling an I do an I feel like now he actin distance from me an I feel like I want to let him know that can he open up to more. an one time I told him why he stop calling an he gave me the oddest answer,he said he didnt know. anther time he left me hanginan another time he told me to call him. an a few times when I tell him to call hell say something like if I dont forget or you call me or something like imma be sleep or if I dont be sleepin. so what ya think up with that? an one time I express my feelings out to him on paper well I didnt know if can read my writin so I typed it in simple but pretty cursive writin. an it was I think a 5 page letter an I told him how I felt about certain things an some of was basically about that no matter how he treat me im going to have his back an I gona be there for him through thick an thin an I mean that. anyways I told one of his folkz to make sure he get the letter an he had gotten the letter an in the letter I put to different numbers of where to reach me . he never call me to let me know what where his thoughts on the letter. so like in the middle part of may I call an finally he was at home chillin by himself it was kinda quit in the background he was listening to some rap song on tv. so anyways then I was tryna example to him that why he act so funny towards me an how he think that made me feel how he treat me an he be shady towards my folks when they be tryna talk to him an show him love.and when I try to tell him im tryna be a girlfriend to him an I am an still am outta all this going on an still goig on. an he kept saying he didnt want to talk about it, an he didnt want to hear it an I say babe let me get my point out then he said well you need to shut f..k up an I said that aint when ya want to get ya point across I let you talk an I dont talk over you then he kept saying well shut up and he said lets talk about something else. then I was so furious and heated an I got quite on him for a second then he said you know what you pissin me the off or you pissin me the hell off an I was tryna explain something else to him so he was ignorin what I was saying an he was or actin like he singin in the background . so I guess some one was on the other so he said wait hold on so I said babe okay so he said okay so ihe said it again to hold on so I said yeah and he said oh ill call you back. an he never did and he still never calls me.what ya think bout this? so how should I do him? how should react? how should I do him when he be sittin by his homegirls in church? should I ignore him sittin by an play it off. should I go up to all his homegirl that he sit with each sunday an say to them them in a nice way who are you to my boyfriend? because he be so lovey-dovey with all his homegirls how I know if he in they face for a reason? or if he foolin with them. if so far all his homegirls at church is just his homeygirls. so should I ignore him,im not saying on purpose to be mean but should I break him up a little to let him know he cant and dont have to make me jealous. because I dont do him like that I dont care if have 2,000 homeboys I would never ever go an sit by to make him jealous. an I never sat with nobody but my brother sisters in church and my family folks. whta ya think I should do any advice?
ps: peaceout

wow. This was really long to read and really hard to understand in some places lol.

Anyway I'm sorry you are having so much drama with your man. But thats where I have to disagree... is he your man really? Because he is not acting like it. It seems his homegirls are full of drama but HE IS ALSO FULL OF DRAMA.

He has allowed this situation to continue which means that he is very comfortable with the drama its creating.

There is no point in going to his homegirls to tell them to leave him alone. They never will. It would be nice if people would respect other people's relationships but not everybody has that decency.

The sad truth is his homegirls (as bad as their attitude is), they don't owe you anything. They don't owe you loyalty. They don't owe you respect. They are NOT DATING YOU. He is.

So it is up to HIM to treat you better. It is up to him to set the standard so that his homegirls know what line not to cross when it comes to his girl-you. But they've crossed that line many times, which says that while he may care about you, you obviously love and value him much much more than he loves and values you.

This happens to everyone (girl or boy) at some point in life where you love someone more than they do you.

You sound like you want to save him.Why should you keep trying to save him when he always chooses them? As hard as this may be for you to hear, some guys just love having all these women fighting over them. They love the attention and are not willing to change. You think that he needs rescuing from these girls but maybe he loves it!

You are only going to get hurt over and over again and you are going to end up developing bitter feelings and hate both towards him and those girls. And they'll all be fine. They'll all be having a good night sleep while you'll be the one angry.

Don't let this happen to you. Let him go. One of the hardest things to do in life is let go of someone you love. I won't lie and tell you that it won't hurt like hell. It will hurt not being with him for a while. But you need to let him go. I would advice you to change churches too for awhile and attend a different one if you split up. Going to the same church where everyone knows your business will make it too hard for you. All those homegirls will be most likely be gossiping about you two breaking up so I'd advise you should go to a different church for a long while.

There is nothing wrong with you. But there is something very wrong with you accepting that it is ok for you to keep going through all this stress and drama over this person. And that is the thing that you are going to need to PRAY for strength so that you can make peace with it all and let him go. There is another person out there waiting for you who wants to show you off and wants to hang out with you and call you from 8:30 to 2 o' clock in the morning, who'll you'll be cool with and he will adore and love you HEAPS! He can't do that if you're still chasing this 'dream' of happiness with your current boyfriend. Good luck! :-)