How can I get my son to like my boyfriend?

I have finally met Mr. Right. I love him more than I ever loved any man. My son finally met him and proceeeded to tell him about all the fights he has been in including using drugs in the past. My boyfriend stated that he needs to be straightened out. My son is disobeying since he met him. He liked him until he met him. It is as if he is scared of me having a man in my life and how it will affect him. What shoould I do? I would give my life for this man. I am tired of living alone and have been divorced for 3 years now.

Don't rush things, maybe he is use to being the man of the house!

maybe your son is just scared of having another male in the house . maybe you should sit down and ask your son why he doesnt like your new man and maybe you can work it out.

Your boyfriend needs to let you two deal with this. If he thinks 'your son needs to be straighten out,' then he is creating an alpha-dog situation where both men are going to try to be the boss. You will get caught in the middle, and you WILL be forced to choose.

First, tell your boyfriend that he is not your son's parent until your son says so. (That might be a while, so tell him to butt out. This is about the relationship between you and your son, no matter what. His involvement could destroy both your love and your family. I've definitely seen it happen.

Second, sit down with just you and your son. Tell him that his behavior has changed, and that you think it has to do with this new guy coming into our family. Keep asking him what is really happening, until he's comfortable opening up about his fears. Keep telling him 'I love you.' He's probably afraid that there isn't enough love to go around. So he doesn't want to share you. It's the same thing when a new baby comes into the house. Keep reassuring him and giving him the time and attention so that he knows he is loved. Tell him that when he acts out, it makes you withdraw away from him.

Say, 'If you want more time together, just ask.' And when he asks, give it to him, or give him a time when you can spend that time together. You are teaching him to 'share' you and that's a really important life lesson.

um well you need to talk to your son but dont rush things with your guy erthier and your son is just scared and he thinks your new guy will replace his dad all you need to do is talk to him and then talk to your guy

Dear frognkentucky,
Any discipline or straightening out should always be done by you. This man has no business handling any of this. There could be a few reason why he spoke with your boyfriend this way...one could have been to scare him off the other is that he needs a male in his life to confide in and talk too. He didn't succeed at either and now he probably is acting out. If you are serious about having this man in your life and are fully confident that it will be a committed relationship then it's time for some ground rules. If you are not sure how this relationship will end or not then keep him away from your home and son. It's never a good idea to birng someone home who you haven't established to be a part of your lives for a long time.
Sue...good luck

Tell your boyfriend to spend more time with him. Your boyfriend should take him to a ball game or an event that they both like. It'll give them time to bond and get use to each other. Before your son can see him as a father he needs to see him as a friend. good luck

your boyfriend and son should spend some quailty time 2 geather ! they should go out and do some think your son likes ! include you are son so he dont think his be ing pushed out !

Well thats good that you've found the right guy for YOU, but mabey you should think and see who you would rather see happy. your son, who will love you no matter what , or you and some guy who could possibly leave you

your son thinks your new guy will replace his dad all you need to do is talk to him and then talk to your guy.. just talk to him and dont rush it!! please!! becuase if you rush it that will make him want to fight all the more!!

All right well I wish you the best of luck and I hope that helps

You should never force them together. I should know because im a kid a 13 year old and my mum started dating and I hated it! my mum made a trip out for just me and him and we bonded.
and we had a laugh try that.

I had the same problem with my step dad I new he was bad news the first day I met him . but hw won me over by buying me heaps of stuff . he has now had a child with my mum and they were ingajed but he left her now my mum is a single mum with 3 girls and a lot of debit . if you love this man than show your son how much he means to you and that you would never do anythign to her him ( your son)

You DO NOT show your on the respect her deserves, my mother made the same mistake, and I have not respected her since. How can a mother allow a man to come between that special bond, your 'MR.RIGHT' should NEVER discipline your child in any manner, that is crossing the line, YOU are the mother, and you are the one who he loves, have you not considered there is a reason he does not like him? Give him time, not pressure, if you continue this pressure you will damage thetrust your child has in you.I` ve had to leave my home and live with my father becasue of my mother`s inability to love me enought to listen. When you marry a man, he not only marrys you, but your children ALSO, and vice verssa, your children are married (or 'stuck') with him...do you want to force this apon him? Taking away one of the biggest influneces he has?

u should care for the kid my mom had a boyfriend and I fight with him a lot b/c I was sad I didn't feel like my mom loved me so I got jealous and mad and b/c he was mean too you should listen to your son he is worth more then your boyfriend trut me he is never put your boyfriend in first place u'll regret it in life. I didn't like him b/c my mom was so in love with him his word was right mine didnt count I got hurt my feeling got hurt I hated my mom and how can she bring another man he cant take my fathers place...5 long years with that bester my life was hell everything I did he said it was wrong and my mom change being more strict then the loving mom I knew...now that he is gone im still sad and I havent told my mom I love her b/c thankz to that man I change too.he took my smile and turn my life to hell...but ofc my mom was too blind to see it or care to ask how I felt I wouldn't care but she could at leat said something or spend time with me like we use to only me and her.(good luck but like I said never pick your boyfriend over your son u'll regret it you will regret letting that man rule and leave your son behind...