My relationship

I have been in my relationship for two years now, we have been living together for about 1 and a half years. I don't know what to do. He is a good guy but he is so controlling, he sometimes yells and curses at me and It upsets me so much. I don't know...

if I still love him. He just does things that upset me and I don't know what to do. I tell him and talk to him about it and he always apologizes to me, but am I suppose to just accept apologies for the rest of my life? Do men change as they get older or do they stay the same. I am 21 and I dont know if I want to be with this guy for the next 80 years. Help??

Im sure you do not want to hear this but I suggest you get out while you can. You're young, you have so much time and finding a better guy sounds like something you should do. You don't deserve to be treated the way he is treating you. When most women get in relationships like you are saying, they never get out because they think their boyfriend or husband will one day grow up and grow out of it. Truth is, some men are just like that. If you have to question your love for him, I would say it's safe to say you don't really love him. Hope this helps you a little bit

I was always told that a female should never put her self in a situation where she just can't get up leave meaning: As long as you're not completly dependent on this guy then it you can leave and do you if it every becomes unbearable Bcuz Verbal mental abuse can sometimes turn into physical abuse

Understand that excessive jealousy, possessiveness and exerting control is NOT a sign of love!! He is not going to change, in fact it will only get worse!

Here are signs of an UNHEALTHY relationship
*Try to control or manipulate the other
*Make the other feel bad about her-/himself
*Ridicule or call names
*Dictate how the other dresses
*Criticize the other's friends
*Are afraid of the other's temper
*Discourage the other from being close with anyone else
*Ignore each other when one is speaking
*Are overly possessive or get jealous about ordinary behavior
*Harm or threaten to harm children, family, pets, or objects of personal value
**Push, grab, hit, punch, or throw objects
Use physical force or threats to prevent the other from leaving

It's a big relationship roadblock when one or both people struggle with self-esteem problems. Your bf isn't there to make you feel good about yourself if you can't do that on your own. Focus on being happy with yourself, and don't take on the responsibility of worrying about someone else's happiness.
If the relationship feels like a burden or a drag instead of a joy, it may be time to think about whether it's a healthy match for you. Someone who's not happy or secure may have trouble being a healthy relationship partner!

if youve been talking to him about it and all he does is apologize than maybe you need to make it more drastic. tell him your going to leave him if things dont change because its really unhealthy for you to deal with that constantly. i know from experience that it wont change no matter how many times he apologizes unless something finally hits him and he realizes what hes doing is wrong. some men never change. better yet why dont you say you need to spend a week at a friends house to clear your head cause you cant handle it anymore, im sure that one week will make him realize what hes doing and he'll be willing to do anything to make you happy. otherwise dear i think you need to get out asap while your still young.. some men just never change.