My mother has the wrong idea about my girlfriend

I have been dating my girlfriend for seven months now and I have been extremely happy with her. We both seem made for each other in a way. My grandmother has even told me that she feels God brought us together. However, with that comes the difficulties....

I am my mother's only son, and while I understand that she wants only the best for me the stuff she says to me about my girlfriend have caused me to become a nervous wreck. Recently she came up to my girlfriend while I was at work and told her basically not to get any ideas of marriage ever. I asked her why she thought that I was planning on getting married she told me that she feels that me and my girlfriend see each other too much which is completely untrue. I'm currently in college, and when I am away I barely get to see her about once or twice a month. I wanted to spend more time with her this summer. I have not seen her every single day either. What also really gets to me is that even while I am with my girlfriend she has literally come up to me and asked me to go on dates with other people which I do not want to do. She has even tried to convince me to date my best friend who is in a relationship. I try to tell her no and explain but it's like talking to a brick wall all the time. Furthermore, my girlfriend says things just to be sarcastic and funny because she wants people to laugh and my mom constantly takes them the wrong way which really hurts. It just really hurts my feelings a lot when my own mother isn't happy for me. She has even told me to that no one likes my girlfriend which I know for a fact is not true because I have had multiple people in my family and friends who have told me how happy they are for me. I just want my mom to be happy for me and let me date who I want to date. My girlfriend is not a bad person and is not trying to be disrespectful because if she was then no one would like her. It's almost like my mother is trying to keep me from being happy and it hurts a lot. I just really need advice on how to get my mom to realize that my girlfriend is not trying to send me down the wrong path. My girlfriend has told me that she has no intention of keeping me away from my dreams. She has encouraged me the whole way to pursue my goals. She has never been possessive or obsessive. If that were the case I would never get to spend time with my friends. I spend equal time with my friends, family, and girlfriend. I am desperate for advice on how to help my mom see that my girlfriend is not a bad person and that I am truly happy with her. I just want her and everyone else to be happy for me so I don't have to be a complete stressed out wreck.

I had a similar problem with my boyfriends mother who just didn't get my sense of humor and hated me for a while.

It seems that your mother feels insecure and that she will be losing you, because she can see that you really love your girlfriend.

Even though it's not your girlfriends fault, I think the best solution would be for her to *tone it done* in front of your mother - for the sake of keeping peace and maybe suck up a little (don't overdo it, but increase the level of *niceness*).

Oh and how about inviting your mother for coffee and telling her you want to speak to her about something really important and telling her how you feel, or alternatively writing a letter...parents tend to listen better when you're not speaking.