How to get my mom to let me see my boyfriend?

I have the most amazing boyfriend, but he lives about 30 minutes away. I haven'y seen him in 3 weeks, and we are going to go crazy if we can't see each other soon! He doesn't go to school with me, so its not like I get toi see him everyday. My mom says...

that I can't see him until I get my grades above C's. I really suck at school, so its incredibly hard for me. I love my mother soo much, we are usually really close and she usually understands me and I can trust her with almost anything. But what my mother doesn't understand about me, is that I can't succeed if I'm really unhappy. For my birthday, which was two weeks ago, she asked me what I wanted... I said all I really want is to get to see Lee, my boyfriend. If I get to see him for a day, that would make me really happy. Other than that, you don't have to get me anything this year, because theres really not anything I want. She got me a whole bunch of gifts and stuff that I didnt need, and I didnt get to see Lee. I was sooo upset, but I didnt want to be rude, so I just thanked her for the presents and tried to smile. I asked her about seeing lee, and she said your grades are terrible. Not until you bring them up. Lately, I've been so depressed that its hard for me to concentrate in class, and get work done. I try so hard but all I can do is cry, and it seeems like everything reminds me of Lee. There's no way I can do well in school if I stay this sad. Lee is the same way... He called me crying, telling me how much he missed me and needed to see me really soon or he will go crazy. What makes me feel even worse, is that hes being punished for my mistakes as well.

HOW DO I CONVINCE MY MOM INTO LETTING ME SEE MY BOYFRIEND EVEN THOUGH MY GRADES ARENT SO HOT RIGHT NOW?

Parents are hard to get around. Your mum seems pretty dead set on you upping your grades before you get to see Lee again. Personally, I can actually see where she's coming from, because my mum was the same with me- maybe what you can't see it that your mum just wants you to do well, rather than getting yourself worried about guys right now. Your mum loves you, and she doesn't really want to upset or hurt you on purpose.

So, anyways...

Getting your grades up seems like a huge thing to do- so, break it up into little chunks that you can handle. You could start by focussing on the ones you don't like so much, getting the hard stuff out of the way. If you get those up, the rest doesn't seem so daunting.

Negotiate with your mum- discuss the possibility of gradually bringing them up, in conjunction with a few visits to see Lee. Maybe you could agree that if you complete a certain assignment to a reasonable standard by a certain time, you and Lee can go and see a movie together, or he can come over for dinner one night.

If you can't see him, and you have a spare 5 mins, write him a love letter. And I'm not talking about a mushy email, but a piece of paper sprayed perfume and written out by hand, and sent to his letterbox. If you get one back, that's a major bonus. The boost a love letter can give you can help you get through your day like you wouldn't believe.

Surround yourself with friends- if you can't see Lee, you've got to have some social interests outside of him. So, if you can't see him, go visit a friend for an hour or so. Better still, study with a friend- you can have fun together and boost your grades at the same time.

One thing I think you do need to seriously look at though is how dependent Lee and you are on each other. In my experience, codependent relationships are not healthy. If you're going crazy after 3 weeks, you need to reassess where you stand. I know it's hard having to be apart from your boyfriend (my partner and I have had to spend some months apart while he's been training for his current job, and we still have to spend weeks apart sometimes for his training). I'm not suggesting you to end it, merely to take a step back. Your grades are really important, and wouldn't you feel awful if things didn't work out with Lee, and you were stuck with bad grades?

It sounds like your mom is going to stick with her decision until you get your grades up, she wouldn't even let you see him on your birthday! I suggest that you take the time apart from him to get to know each other better by talking on the phone, don't think of it as a punishment cause at least you can still do that! You should definately find a way to get your grades up by studying, tutorials, having a friend help, anything you can think of if you want to see your boyfriend soon. Pay attention in class and get motivated to see him, kinda like a goal. Don't let it ruin your grades even more because of you depression, just deal with it for now, if he loves you that much, then he's not going anywhere! Good luck!

get your grades up.
or just tell him to come visit YOU. meet at the movies, come on now.

Well then bring your grades up that might work.

UgH.. I havn't seen my boyfriend in 5 months AND YOU THINK YOUR CRAZIE? My parents wont let me fly to see him at his school =[

yeah I agree tell mom you going to the mall or to get your nails done and call him to meet you there do you have a cell text him.

The man I always loved was my best friend for 10 years and nothing more. When he finally told me he loved me, he had to go underway for 7 months (navy). It was great to get to know him better on the phone! I got to know every intimate detail that I never would have thought about asking if we had been physically together. He's my husband now and we still talk about those days; now if he has to go away for a week at work it seems like nothing.
If it's a physical thing...well, there are things you can do while on the phone to appease that. And besides, you have internet access and can get web cams for under $20 now a days.
Try joining a study group at school to show your mom how serious you are in trying to improve your grades. Kiss your teachers' butts and watch how your grades will also go up! Every time you get homework, ask your teacher to grade it and initial it, then show it to your mom. Maybe she'll see the hard work and pay off sooner!
You're mom not letting you see him is probably because she wants you to concentrate on school. Set aside two hours each day after school to focus on school, put your boyfriend aside and work hard!
And besides, working hard to be with him will make it so much more worth it when you are with him!

wow you guys!!
thanks soo so much!!
I am definitely going to try meeting up with him somewhere like the mall.
that way ill be happy enough that I can get some schoolwork done so I can see him more.

thanks a bunch.
=]

2 things,1 happy belated birthday,and 2 then tell your mom your unhappy and cant do anything good without him.

well I am in love with a boy...jake...I mean I want to spend the rest of my life with him... my mom is being rude about it... I was on the phone with him and she made a rude comment and he heared her!!! He lost his cell phone because of his bad grades and we used to text and call each other all the time...now we can only talk once or twice a day...and it sucks and with my mom not supporting me its even worse and we don't go to the same school...but the real advice I can give you is to follow your heart and if you are meant to be then you'll be.. it will be extremly hard but just look forward to you guys future...its hard but girl you can get through it... I am..

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