My mom's boyfriend is no good !!

My mom's boyfriend is a complete A-hole ! He is always drunk or buzzed ! He drinks early in the morning all through out the afternoon and all night...EVEN on days he has to work... And he knows I don't like him ... I just cannot stand him I tried talking to my mother about him and had a complete melt down I cried so hard I started hyperventilating cause he is just mean to me and I tried to let her know my feelings and I really thought she was taking what I was saying into consideration but I guess NOTHING CHANGED OR HAPPENED !!! She lets him talk about me anyway he wants , he calls me selfish a lot and is always making fun of the music I listen too ...I admit I listen to R&B and slow jams stuff of that Genre I mean its just music And he will come up to me saying stuff like how im trying to be a thug and this and that but its just music you know ?? I just like listening to it... And he kicked me out like 4 times If I counted correctly and all them I had no idea why seriously...my mom came into my room and was crying really hard while I watching my favorite movie and she told me that I had to leave and I told her how come...and I guess her douche bag boyfriend was all drunk saying I had to leave and I never got an explanation as to why ... And he is constantly criticizing me!!! Okay so I bought these shorts and there Bermuda shorts you know the kind that go to your knees and there were really cute plaid ones and I went to show MY MOM and he jumped in and said that I looked kinda hoe-ish and I go so upset I even told my mother about it but its like each time I tell her something she always has an excuse for him like...Oh its just drunk talk...or Oh he dosent really mean it... and im sick and tired of all this nonsense ! and my mother is a sick lady... she is disabled & he takes her money... I asked her how come she gives her money to him...and she told ...Well I just spend my money on anything... And my mother NEVER use to be like that I think he put that I her head that spends it on useless things and takes her money...she HAS TO ASK for her OWN MONEY and he will only give her a certain amount...I just don't know what to do...And my father lives 2 states away with his new family : / ...And I go to boarding school so all of my friends are from different states and the friends I do have in state are towns away...and my extend family I don't get along with so much they have there own problems !!! So im like stuck here with no one to go to or talk to really . And each time I try talking to my mom he always buts in !!! Then I get upset and just leave ...I don't know im really at my breaking point you know it's like the one person Who I thought would listen ISN'T! and its like im half Persian and he would call me a terrorist and that im Suddan Hussain's kid or Osama Bid Laddin's kid and he would bring up stuff like well over here in America... And I just look at him like he is really stupid (which he is) and im like dude I am from America born and raised stupid ! and all what he can say is " Well WHATEVER" ...And that just really hurts when he says stuff like ...its like a stab to the heart...If you ever got that feeling . All what my mother usally tell's me is..."You need to learn how to cope better" . Then I just get filled with rage and anger and saddness and I tell her "YOU CHOOSE PEOPLE OVER YOUR OWN KIDS!!!" and she told me... what no I don't . And I stopped her in mid sentence and told her whatever yea you do and she tried to say something else but I quickly said "SHUT UP I don't care I don't want to hear it anymore...what excuse do you have NOW!?" Then I just walked with such rage and went into my room ... thats all what I ever do it go to my room its like my comfort zone but not cause its still in the same household with that devil ...and it can be violated anytime and I can get thrown out for no apparent reason... I just don't know what to do anymore...

...I have no comment couldnt be botherd 2 read it...

I'm so sorry, .

I really don't know what to say to that, other than just keep trying to talk to your mom about it. Find out why she's even with him in the first place. Keep your chin up, everything will get better. I hope everything works out for you. Good Luck.

I wish I could give you some really helpful advice, but I reallly can't think of anything I could say to help. I'm sorry.

frezz13, if you have no comment, dont leave one...
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I know you feel like this is a no win situation.
but I promise- there's always some way out.
you need to talk to your dad, or other relatives-
even though they live away, and your not close you have to.
you also should try talking to your mom again..
it seems like she's not getting it,
but you have to keep stressing it.
if you have a school counselor you could talk to, you should try that as well.

You need to talk to a school guidace conceler or trusted adult that can get you your mom and her boyfriend some advice adn who can get things sorrted out.You mom is being really unfair to you. Honestly I think this is your mom's fault more than anything. You need to tell her to listen to you and stop making excuses. I hope I helped. Good luck

Unless he's beating you or raping you or something like that, I wouldn't be so quick to judge him. He drinks, but you also stated he works... Sometimes when you get to a certain point in your life, and you feel like everything sucks, or maybe you're getting worried you're getting closer to death, or maybe you're depressed you're not as far as you'd like to be in life... Those kinds of things make people drink a lot. Maybe he's mean to you because he senses that you don't like him? and being drunk does help people act stupid too, so that I understand... Maybe he really is an A-hole, I'm not trying to take his side... But before you make a desicion to judge somebody, you should try to look at all angles... There must be a reason your mom stays with him, there may be some good in him you're missing, or maybe you don't get along because you don't understand eachother... And maybe he's not being mean, maybe he's a smart-a$$. and you don't find it funny. I dunno your situation and like I said I'm not judging or taking sides, I'm just sayin look a lil closer, and take a look when you're not angry or pissed off so that you'll have a clear head. If you still can't stand him, I dunno what to tell you, if he's not really harming you and your mom is an adult, then she can choose to be with who she wants, even if you don't like it. Just think about like, if you had a boyfreind and your mom didn't like him so she told you you couldn't date him, and you loved him but she thought he was a a-hole... How would you react to that?

thats sad, I think you need to tell your mom how you feel again, better yet tell your Dad what your Mom and her new boyfriend are doing and hopefully he can figure something out with you, I don't think any Dad wold just stand by and let the mother of his child torment his own child. You will get through this hun, talking to a school guidance councilor is also a good idea. Good Luck.

don't get me wrong, I don't want to make you feel bad, you may have every right to hate him. I went through some messed up stuff as a kid so I do understand, all I'm trying to say is to make sure you always take a really good look at the situation from everyone's standpoint before you make any major desicions, be observant, and know what you can and can't change and work on the things that you can change. I wish you the best of luck getting this resolved, I just didn't want you thinking that I was against you or anything like that, I really hope you work it all out.

I mean yes I have tried putting the effort into trying to get to know him a little bit more I TRIED to be nice and respectful but its like what 's the use if im the only one trying to put effort into making this a better situation. And the first time I very first met him... he was drunk and cussed at my sister saying "your just a P***y , Don't ever come back here !" And since then I just always had this hatered for him ! I mean I do know that I cant change who my mom wants to be with if she wants to be with that douche bag then hey you know she can do whatever she wants she can be with him for the rest of her life I really don't care. But im trying to make my mom understand Hey this is what your boyfriend is doing will you please handle it or talk to him about it... I tried telling him myself and all what he says is well if you don't like it go live with your dad ,im not your dad...And that is like ARGH its frustrating im like what the hell man Im just asking you if you would please not judge me or criticize me or make fun of my nationality ... And like he is not understanding he was making fun of my mom's brother witch is my uncle who had passed away...and I could see that it was really bothering my mother but she didn't say anything so I stood up for her and said "How dare you...How dare you make fun of my uncle! and he said whatever...get out of my house and I forgot what I said but I was really heated and he got up like as if to hit me but stopped and my mother jumped in front of me... his had was balled up like a fist ready to punch me I guess I dunno but my mother jumped in front of me ..But I was just waiting for him to hit me and I was going to just try to fight but I realized im so lucky that didn't happened cause I would have probably end up in bad condition but when your heated its like your adrenalin just come and your just ready if you get what im trying to say ??? I guess there really is no advice for me but just witting this and letting me vent it out ...I read your comments and I feel like hey someone is listening to what I have to say need be to a person or the internet... but I just needed to vent this out... thank you guys a lot truly I do mean it...