My life sucks

Ok my life sucks im 20 and try and help people out and I always get screwed in the end I do my best on jobs never good enough. I try and do all I can for girlfriends they always leave me I can never have anything good. Everytime I get something good in the end it always messed up any help from anyone would be appreciated. I have even spoke to god and so far nothing from even him. So I guess my question is what if anything am I doing wrong with this thing called life? Because so far nothing is going right. And what advice can anyone give that could possibly help me? I just want a better life is all for myself and to help other people better.

sounds like a personal problem to me... lolz

Gee, dude. I think a lot of guys 20 years old feel that way. Thank God you don't live in Gulfport. You wouldn't even be home right now. You might be in a shelter some place or something.

Sometimes when I do something good for someone I feel screwed afterwards because they didn't do what I wanted them to do. Now I know that if I do something good and expect something back it isn't really doing something good. I get an attitude and feel like I work for them and am not getting paid. But if I do a good deed and don't expect anything in return then whatever comes my way is a bonus.

Last week I went to the store to get a cable for a friend. He gave me more money than I needed to buy the cable and I though maybe he would let me keep the change. I didn't ask for anything though. I gave him the change and he put it in his wallet. Then he handed me a bill I thought was a 10. When I looked at it it was a $100.

He said, "Take it. God told me you need this."

I said, "You have no idea."

He said "Of course I do. God told me and He is never wrong."

I don't know if this is helping, but God speaks through other people so maybe He is giving you an answer.

I hope so. God bless you.

I know it seems like the "good guy" always comes in last..it sounds like you are a great person who just has had bad luck. "Life" happens to all of us and sometimes things work out and sometimes they don't and sometimes when they don't it isn't always fair. The biggest thing is the attitude we have and in bouncing back and getting back on track. Do the jobs you have ones you are qualified for or really enjoy to begin with? that makes a big difference. As far as the girls, sounds like you just haven't found the right one. you sound like a giver, am I right? Those who are givers a lot of times neglect their own needs and wants in just trying to please others. Not saying to stop being a person who likes to help others and give, but at the same time, you have to allow others to use you as a doormat either.
Maybe for a job you can look into a service type job in where you can still help others and feel like you are doing something you like and enjoy.
I wish you the best!

I understand the thought of wanting to help someone that you care about. Thats a common thought, wanting to help your loved ones and not wanting to see them upset. However, sometimes the best thing you can do is nothing. Let there problems simmer and try listning to them. Expecially when the persone is a women. Comming from one we just loved to be heard. Me personally, when I have a problem I turn to someone that will listen to my thoughts and not try to change them. Someone how will not try and solve my problem, because that is something that I NEED to do for myself. This is just one of the thousands of reasons why people (not knowningly) push away the people that we care so much about. So to put it shortly I would try not doing anything at all, just let it come to you. The last thing you need is to place the blame on your self, if it wasnt ment to be than it wasnt ment to be. You cant change that, but I am sure that the right person is out there for you. You just havent found them yet. Maybe you are so afraid of being alone that every time you get a date you are over obsessing, and making the situation akward for your date. Or, your just plain trying to hard. RELAX and let fate come to you!!!

Nice guys finish last. It's no secret there. I used to be a 'nice guy' and it never worked out. So I became a nice guy who wasn't overtly 'nice' to dates, etc. Most girls, for some dumb reason, need to feel expendable in order to stay put. I don't get it, but that seems to always be the case. And for God's sake, don't get into the whole "I love you--I love you, too" routine. The first time you tell a girl you love her, it's over for you, because then that's all you're going to hear about. And THEN, when you get ready to hang up and she says, "talk to you later, I love you" and you don't answer back, they go nuts! "Aren't you going to say you love me, too?" And then you say, "Yeah, I told you like 10 minutes ago! Do you have memory loss? WRITE IT DOWN!"

Just enjoy your 20's. I am 40 and I wish I had my 20's back because it was an excellent decade for me. Just don't go catching any diseases.

go to therapy or counseling! god dosen't just make things better like magic, it takes time ussually! maybe he is giveing you a clue or something

I know exactly what you're talking about.. I'm the same way. But I figure that in the end we are the type of people who are going to come out on the very top. And even though you are having girlfriend issues now, you will end up with a winner in the end. I'm sure your problem is is that most girls around your age are looking for all of the wrong things in a guy, we are good at that when we aren't sure exactly what we want. But once you find a good, mature woman who knows what she wants and can recognize what a good man is... you're golden.