My husband doesn't want to have sex anymore

my husband doesn't want to have sex with me anymore! since my daughter was born I'm lucky if he wants to have sex more than once every 2 weeks. He's only 22 isn't he in his prime? do you think he could be cheating?

u shuldntve had his baby if you dont trust him...ask him . maybe he is scared of having another child too soon. besides you sound too young and immature to be married and have a baby..especially f you think hes cheating. and it seems like sex is at the top of your list which should change. work on being happy first. confront him and ask if hes cheating

the real question is... did you get really fat and then not lose the weight after your pregnancy? That could be the reason, but you didn't mention your physical attributes in your message.

To be honest, it's really tough on men to be saddled with so much responsibility at such a young age. Although it is possible he's playing around, I think you would have figured that one out at some point during your pregnancy. I think it's more likely the above issue (your physical condition) or that he doesn't want kid #2 right now.

Gee, maybe you ought to use some birth control....

You need to shut up with your advice! How could you tell this obviously sensitive person, who just had a child, she's fat? You are the reason there are eating disorders in this country! The fact of the matter is, some men, just as most women do, after children are born, their lives change so dramatically they are actually traumitized! Be very careful with a new Mom's emotions!

Ok dear, your husband may be cheating, I cannot tell you otherwise. However, some men look at their wives very different after they have children. He could be looking at you in a different light. Kind of like the same spot light he puts his mother in, "the creater of life" light. He is probably more aware now than ever, how amazing and overwhelming it is to have children. If he is cheating, only you can know that. And trust me, you will know! Good Luck my Dear, and CONGRATS on the new baby!

This is a hard one! It could be a number of things, as people get older for one, there sex-drive kinda goes down! But, then again you mentioned he's ONLY 22! So, the other possiblity is that he could be cheating on you. That is one sign of cheating (no more sex).

I think you need to discuss how you feel with your boyfriend and ask him why! Don't accuse him having an afair though. That will ONLY p*ss him off and make him more distant towards you!!

~Heather~

OMG...how shallow can you be????????????????? I agree with the other person that also responded to your response. No wonder there are soooooo many sick people out there that are sick from loosing weight.

Have you ever heard of "True beauty is only skin deep???".

Ok. Some of the comments on here are ridicules and dim-witted and should not be taken seriously. First of all…you husband married you because he loves you ( I’m assuming) and having a baby and creating a family is a beautiful thing. I’m sure you guys had some big changes happen after your pregnancy- like getting used to having a little one in the house. Just because he doesn’t want to have sex with you does not mean that he doesn’t love you or that he is cheating on you. Cheating is a bit extreme …don’t you think? You should always question weather you have legitimate concern (which means hard facts/or reasons to believe that he is cheating) before you jump to conclusions. Did you ever think that maybe he’s afraid to have sex with you because he doesn’t know if he could? I think the best thing to do is to sit down and talk to him about it. It’s probably nothing….all men go through dry spells…no biggie. Anyways hope this helps…congrats on the new baby and GOOD LUCK!!

-Anonymous

Well I have seen some hateful answers and some really great ones but I have to be completely honest with you. If you have gained some baby weight it could possibly be one reason even though I hate to say that, but if he couldnt understand that you are going to have that after having a baby then he is a jerk anyways. Also, the cheating could be possible too but you should have some more signs too. He also could be very stressed out about being a father, or his job or a number of things. Hang in there and talk to him and let him know how you feel. Good luck and congrats!

Don't worry I just got married three months ago and my husband doesn't want sex it isn't that your man is cheating on you he may be stressed or depressed about worrying about you and your daughter and giving you both every thing you need just talk to him about it he may be a little nervous but just make sure he knows that you can work it out. Or it may also be he is scared of getting you pregnant again soon. My husband stopped wanting to have sex with me after I changed birth control and I thought it is was me!

He's tired darlin. I'm going through the same thing with my husband and I didn't gain a lot of weight. I'm back to my normal weight and its only been 7 weeks. Im guessing that he's the bread winner in the fam. Between working full time and helping you with the baby, he's pooped! Just let him know that you're up for sex whenever. He might be waiting on you to make the first move. I surprise my husband with a midnight bl*w j*b or he'll wake up to me riding him...it's been nine months of limited sex ( which sucks). Make it your job to show him that YOU'RE BACK and ready to go! Try something new that will spark an interest. Do things to drive him crazy. You have got to get him to stop thinking of you as mom and make him remember you as woman you were before. Good luck.