My husband cheated on me before i got married

I had been with my friend /boyfriend for five months and when I thought things were going so good it happend a big lie . I went to his house and cought him in bed with someone ele. when I would ask him things he would not go in to to much about it so I...

had to learn things from other people . I have known this man for about fifteen years and he was really happy so I thought but I learn he was talking to this girl for about four month in to are dating , after all of this he asked me to marrie him so I did thinking this would all go away and we would live happyer ever after. Now I struggel with the image in my head how do I get throught that , Now he acts like he is always hiding something He knew it was going to hurt me so why ? Can we bounce back and get back to where we were ? any help would be good . should I stop waisting my time .

When trust is broken it is very hard to make it come back BUT not impossible. Many couple do bounce back from this type of situation but only after a lot of work. Obviously, you have not recovered from this situation and you might still need to talk about it to make peace with it. You also need to be reassured and this can only come with better communication and mutual understanding. I recommend getting couple therapy together. It's the best way to help mend broken hearts and broken trust.

*** after all of this he asked me to marrie him so I did thinking this would all go away and we would live happyer ever after.***

...well that was certainly stupid... ù___ú

***Can we bounce back and get back to where we were ?***

...nope...

***should I stop waisting my time***

...yep...

You'll NEVER fully trust him again, and he doesn't even deserve your trust, either. D-VORCE! D-VORCE! D-VORCE!