My guy and i are falling apart...why?

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. Lately it feels like he wants to treat me like just a friend. He says he loves me, but he spends all his extra time with his quot;best friendquot; who is a female...he even stays the night at...

her house. A week ago things were fine, then he started telling me we don#039;t think realistically...I just want thins back to normal! What should I do??

I think that your b/f def. owes you an explanation. There is no reason for him to be spending the night at his female friends house.you need to find out why he is spending so much time with her and not with you.there is obviously something that he isnt telling you.a guy doesnt just go to another girls house and spends the night only if they#039;re quot;goodquot; friends. you need to talk to him and find out what is going through his mind. why should you waste ur time with him if he is with another girl?i know you probably love him but sometimes the best thing to do is let go for a little and see where that takes you. trust me i know.if you spend some time apart it will most likely bring you two closer together.and if it doesnt..then you know what is really going on.try not calling him and see if he calls you.i know it will be hard but it will be the best thing to do in the end.i promise.well i hope this helps you and you know what you need to do now.good luck hun.

Just because he is spending the night there, does not follow that they are sleeping together.

Remember quot;I Love Youquot; means that he probably loves you as a friend.

You have to explicitly ask him where the relationship is going, what are his intentions towards you. Far too often in relationships we dont ask the hard questions.

Don#039;t make a big deal about asking him, just ask him off the cuff. Asking him to sit down and talk about it will probably drive him away.

Your conversation will probably go like this:

You: quot;Nice day today Dan!quot;
Him: quot;Sure, had a ball.quot;
You: quot;Where are you going with our relationship? I#039;m frankly concerned and jealous about you spending so much time over at Sandra.quot; (you say calmly)

You have to be calm and reasonable when you ask him, because after all, it is a reasonable question.

Then let us know how it went!

This is the puppy love effect wearing off. This is where you find if it is love or not. Ask him where it is going and to stop sleeping at other woman#039;s houses. What would he do if you slept at a male friend#039;s house?

Nothing=bad. Ditch him.
Get concerned and talk about it = good. this is where you want to be.
Fly off the handle = Ditch.

Find your conversation in the middle