My girlfriends best friend hates me... help

my girlfriends best friend hates me... and she hates me for no reason... before I met my girlfriend.. I met her best friend at lunch... she sat with another girl whom I already knew.. so I sat down and tried to make friends.. I would crakc jokes and try...

to be funny... at the time... I was slightly attrackted to my girfriends best friend.. again this was before I met my girlfriend... I asked her friend if she would like to get to know me and that I was attracktedto her... then I met my girlfriend (whom I believe is the girl I will be spending the rest of my life with) and I fell in love with ehr instantly... however... I didnt know at the rtime that these two were friends... now they fight because of me... my girlfriend's best friend hates me because I took her best friend away from her... and my girlfriend doesnt hang out with her as much anymore.. one becuase they are constantly fighting... in the beginning.. I thought it was just one of those things where best friends fight... but that was 6 monthes ago.. and they are still fighting... throughout these 6 monthes.. I have tried multiple times to try and be her friend.. but she seems to only take it into considerstion.. and then shoves it back in my face...

now my girlfriend and her friends aren't talking to each other.. and her friend still hates me... what should I do??

thnax for the help and putting up with this long ass question...

You never, ever want to come between two best friends- it will only end badly. I'm surprised your girlfriend is choosing you over her best friend, because friends usually outlast relationships, but I suppose if you're thinking she is the One then it could work. However, you have to talk to your girlfriend. Tell her how you don't want to be keeping her from having her own life, you guys both need to have your seperate time with seperate friends sometimes. Her friend is feeling something very normal, of COURSE she's going to be jealous of you because before you, most of her time was spent with your girlfriend, HER best friend! But, you don't have much control over the situation, your girlfriend is the one in between you two and she has the power to make it right. Show her she doesn't have to choose between you two, you need some time with your guy buddies alone as well. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, right? So give her some more time with her best friend, and try your best to tell the best friend you don't want her to feel how she does. But if this continues, it's likely that it will end in a breakup because this kind of tension can't be good for a relationship. Good Luck

the best friend might just be pissed off because you got with her friend insaed of her so just worry about keeping your girlfriend happy after all she is the one that counts isnt she??? Also if it ment to be the friends will come around...I ahve been with my boyfriend for 5 years and my friends were always pissed off because for once I found the man that I loved and wanted to be with it took us almost two years to reconnect with my friends then when I asked what the problem was it was just that we had spent so much time together then he came along and I wanted to spend all my time with him to make our relationship work ... So it just takes time they will come around if they were truly her friends to begin with

the best friend might just be pissed off because you got with her friend insaed of her so just worry about keeping your girlfriend happy after all she is the one that counts isnt she??? Also if it ment to be the friends will come around...I ahve been with my boyfriend for 5 years and my friends were always pissed off because for once i found the man that i loved and wanted to be with it took us almost two years to reconnect with my friends then when i asked what the problem was it was just that we had spent so much time together then he came along and i wanted to spend all my time with him to make our relationship work ... So it just takes time they will come around if they were truly her friends to begin with

my girlfriend chose me over her best friend and there still friends but not best friends so in time it will work.

Well I know how your girlfriends best friend feels because I'm goin through the same thing. You should try and talk to your girls friend and ask her what's wrong maybe she feels left out because you took her best friend away and if you want to make things better invite her friend along when you go places with other friends so she doesn't feel left out and tell your girl she should hang out with her friend more often because you don't want to be the reason that they lost their friendship

Ok well the same situation happened with me and my new b/f.We knew eachother for 12 years and my bst friend moved to new york from CT and she liked my best guy friend.He didnt like her a lot like he liked me.She got jealous of me and fought back.I didnt do anything,he just liked me.She always got mad,but this other new kid,just came this year, and she's in love with him.He likes her too,so eventually she foudn somebody she liked!

My point is that there is no use fighting over you,her ex-bffl will eventually find sumone she likes better than she lieks you.

ok so I dont think any one has said this one yet but, the girl was like o he likes me =D and then you went for her bst frnd after saying you had feelings for her, and its sortof like, um, you said you liked ME???not her so bahha I dunno but all good!!xxx

OMG SAME HERE! All my friends hated my boyfriend and then they hated him even more when he dumped me over the phone!

So if they don't like you, it's their loss. Cause they might miss out on having a good friend in the future!

Hope this helps!

It's not your fault if your girlfriend's friends don't like you. Because first of all, what did you do wrong? Is meeting a girl that you love so much, and want to spend the rest of your days with, so wrong? It's not your fault that you fell in love. This girl is just jealous, and hatin. If that's the way she's going to act around your girlfriend, then they obviously don't deserve to be friends at all. Because friend's should be happy for each other. But she obviously doesn't understand that. So, you shouldn't have to care. If this girl is truly best friend's with your girlfriend, then she should be the one to say sorry.

I would first try to get them back together. if that dosent work (so srry) and you just want your girl friend to be happy then I would break up with her. when I had a boyfriend everything within my friends just fell apart but now sencei broke up with him everything is fine. Or it might be just her friend thinks that sence you liked her first you should be hers not her best friends. try it it all might work. you will gane 2 friends and your girlfriend will gane an old beat friend.

the best friends just being jelous. forget them.
if they were a real best friend they would see that your girlfriend is happy and try be friends wit you even if they thought you were a dick.

not worth it

SHE IS SOOO FEELING YOU!!!

My boyfriend HATES all my friends. I just live with it, so do they.

I think her best friend is jealous of the time you are spending with your girlfriend. If I were you I would tell your girlfriend that when worst comes to worst her girlies should come first and that you love her so much that you want her to be happy. Ask her to set something up where she hangs out with her friends every week, a girls only night. Like every friday or something. That way her friends wont think that she is ditching them for you and she will love you even more for caring so much about her..

you seem like a really good boyfriend, congrats.

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heh. well that sounds like how I was when my best friend started dating her now ex boyfriend. I hated him at first but after a month or two I got used to him and now hes one of my close guy friends. as for your situation, your girlfriend and her friend need to work it out. if her bff is really her bff then she'll eventually calm down, altho 6 months is a really long time! so my advice? maybe try to sit down and ask her why she hates you so much and encourage your girl to hang out with her friends more. show this friend that theres nothing for her to be jealous or fearful of. (fearful that she'll lose her best friend to a boy) this is why I hated my best friends ex when they were dating... so it is probably just an insecurity issue. I hope she comes around for ya! good luck

similar thing happened to me but I was the best friend. I was really protective over her in a sisterly sort of way and when she started spending every waking moment with her I got really angry and pissed at them both. it all came to a head and me and ni**I didnt speak for like 2 months, coulndnt even look at each other. we finally got it sorted and although things can be a bit stressy at times, I've now just accepted that shes happy with him.
the best friend is just jealous. she will realise, no matter how long it takes that nothing is your fault and begin to like you.
the point I began to like my friends boyfriend was after prom when we were both a bit drunk and we just loosened up a bit around each other. but I wouldnt recommmend getting the friend drunk...

The same thing happened to me, except in my case, I was the girlfriend. I got a boyfriend, and liked him soo much, right away, I spent all my free time at school with him, It was right during basketball season also, and none of my friends played, so I made friends with a girl on the team. Suddenly before I could blink, all my time was spent with her, and the other time with my boyfriend. I was missing so much that was happening with my other friends, friends I had been friends with since kindergarden, (This was freshman year) All of them thought that he was cheating on me, was no good for me, and that I shouldn't be ditching them to hang out with my new friend and boyfriend. I ended up choosing my Boyfriend over them. When he dumped me after three weeks, I still had them to go back to, hardly. When one of them found out I still liked him a lot, and would probably take him back, (three or four days after he had dumped me) She got mad at me. So I got annoyed at her, and was doing a survey on Myspace and One of the questions was What's annoying you right now? And I answered My so called friends. and so my other friend, got mad over this. So I ended up defriending both of them. Another was lost also, because I wasn't very close to her anymore anyways. Only one remained Loyal. All of this happened in February, and I was not friends with them again until July.

Sorry about the long story, lol but my point is that if you two really like eachother that much, then go for it, don't worry about the friend. If your girlfriend is happy without her, then everything should be fine.