My girlfriend wont go down on me.

My girlfriend and a I have been dating for about 6 months. shortly before I met her, she had a fling with this guy, and though she claims to have never had any real feelings for him, she got drunk one night and went down on him twice. early in our...

relationship I mentioned that I would like her to go down on me, I didnt make her or get mad, I just mentioned that it would be nice. I have gone down on her before and she used to hate it, but I told her to give me a chance and that maybe she would like it. she told me that she enjoyed it, and wouldnt mind me doing it again if I wanted to, but if I didnt want to then she would be ok with that and she said that the sex was more than enough for her. im not a big fan of going down on girls but I love my girlfriend and wanted to do something that is solely for her pleasure, and I thought that it might make her less nervous about going down on me. shortly after this she began to tell me that she was working herself up to going down on me. her parents were going to be gone for a week so I was going to spend the weekend at her place, for the 2 weeks leading up to the friday I was going over, she built up that she was ready to go down on me almost excited about it, naturally I was about it too. when the day came all we did was have sex, that night I asked her what happened to her preparedness, she said that she had forgotten but that she would do it the next night, so I dropped the subject. next day was the same, nothing. I asked her again and she said that once again she had forgotten, and that the next time we had a chance she would. this was a couple of months ago. and it was kind of a dead subject until recently, when I mentioned it again. then the other night she was drunk and I was in a meeting, and she sent me a text message reading hurry up I want to give you head. I got out of the meeting picked her up to come spend the night at my place, and when we got there we got into bed and she kissed me and said good night and went to sleep. when I showed her the text message the next day she said that she would have if she hadnt been so tired but that if she got drunk enough at our party that weekend that she would. at the party we were dancing, and she told me that she wanted to give me head, I said I wasnt sure if I would let her do it drunk, because she wouldnt be doing it becuase she wanted to, she would be doing only because she was drunk enough. her reply was I dont care, im going to tie you to the head board so you cant stop me. to me it sounded like she was serious. once again after the party though, we got back to my place, and she fell asleep as soon as we were in bed. I am starting to get mad. she is just teasing me, getting me worked up about it then deciding not to do it. it would be different if she wasnt bringing it up and telling me she will and then not doing it. also I feel like what is different between me and the fling, why was he good enough or hot enough or whatever that she OFFERED to do it and she wont do it for me. she always has an excuse for why she didnt, like I was tired, what if im bad, I forgot, and its gross. I cant remind her because I will feel like im forcing her. I dont care if it isnt great, im willing to work with her, it wont make me love her any less. am I being unreasonable? what should I do, remind her, forget about it or what?

I also didn't like giving blowjobs to my man. However after quite a while together I felt like I needed to He goes down on me quite frequently and I LOVE IT!!! You would think I would do the favor. He has only asked a handful of times and I just kind of blew it off. I don't know why, it's not like I haven't enjoyed it before I just felt uncomfortable doing it. After a bit I just kind of felt like our sex life was very routine and seriously who wants that. He didn't have to pressure me, but was very patient. She unfortunately will do it when she is ready to and you could either wait or move on. She does sound kinda like a tease to me if she is calling you telling you she will do it. I told him once while we were out to dinner and he thought I was kidding. We did do it once we got home and it was wonderful. It was just me pleasuring him as he did so many times for me. I would recommend that you don't get off in her mouth the first time as it could turn her off though. I do hope she realizes that it could be quite wonderful if she is relaxed. And 69 is just fantastic what was I waiting 4 anyway.

Its all about your game bro, just do a better job at getting her horny and she will be down for whatever

I think its madness that she did it to one guy twice and wont go down on you. Lots of females dont like doing it. It usually takes her comfort level to that person to be right to actually want to try and experiment if you will. Also if she likes you that much and would love to see you happy, she would do it to you without asking. So I'm thinking like someone else wrote, she doesnt like you like that. It sucks but man it makes you think.

put on some luther vandross, candles lit, lights off, aroma blasting of sweet almonds and chrismas cakes, kiss her on her lips softly, make sure your hands caress every sensual part of her body, kiss her neck and work your way down. Like a tease, she'll be breathing heavier in a sexual way, her hearbeat is racing, juices flowing and right when youre about to lick that region...clap twice LIGHTS POP ON, MUSIC STOPS, STUFF DRIES UP AND Tell her NOT GOING ANYWHERE FOR A WHILE???

she sounds like a difficult woman to please, either way you lose.
refuse to have sex with her until she commits herself to her promise, or I would consider one of the idea's from above. but she sounds tricky and shes got you right where she wants you, I feel for you.

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Seriously, I kind of have the reverse problem. I go down on my man all the time and he doesn't seem to go down on me. I don't smell and I think I can say this with out being too cocky but I am a very attractive girl and I just don't know why he won't. It starts to hurt your self esteem right? You are asking yourself all these meaningless questions like does she not love me enough? Stuff like that. I am positive my man loves me he is super loyal and hasn't touched another girl in a year and a few months. We have been together off and on and I used to love it when he would stop making love to me and eat me then start again- it was heaven but he just doesn't seem to want to. I have just recently started dating him again but we have only been official for a few days. We have had sex since we met and our intercourse is great but all I can fantasize about is what he won't give me. OH AND...if you are a guy out there reading this please help. For the guy that has the girlfriend that won't go downstairs just continue to love her and maybe suggest if you go down that she could go down... ask her what her deepest fantasy is...then tell her yours. I am seriously such a laid back person about sex very open about it and I think honesty is the best thing you can own in the bedroom as well as confidence. I just don't know why my man won't. I really suck him and get him off like every night and maybe get a fifteen second lick from him every month is about the trade off. REALLY I DON'T KNOW WHAT ELSE TO DO...HELP PLEASE!!!- the girl that gives but never receives...

Mentioning the age of you and your girlfriend would be helpful as many younger girls tend to not be into it until a little later in life. If oral sex is important to you, I would think long and hard over this because this may be a red flag of permanency. If she is always saying no now and it appears that there's no changing her in sight, then you may want to just move on and let her become some other guy's misfortune and look for a girl who actually cares enough for you to please you. We're men and we have needs. If the girl is unwilling to see that, then we shouldn't be willing to continue the waste of time that the relationship has become (in that area). Think of how disappointed with yourself and life in general you will be when you hit 40 years of age and realize all the wonderful blowjobs you missed out on in life. While all your best friends over the years were getting sucked off at least weekly, you were lucky to get one a year, if that. Kick her to the curb if she fails to change her ways. Good luck man.

dont know but my exwife did the same thing to me all the time. she would brag to me and her friends bout all the times she went down on her exs but when I tried to get her to do it to me she wouldnt. she kept telling me that on our honeymoon would be the first time she would go down on me then honeymoon came I spent 2000 on cabin and other stuff and she never did it and she only put out once. finally we got back and I asked her what happened to her going down on me and she said oops I forgot and would do it later. then we bought a house and she kept saying she would go down on me after house signing was over. so we bought the house and yet again she didnt. I started to feel like she was just telling me she would so she could get me to do stuff for her. finally I asked her again why hadnt she gone down on me and she said its because she felt like I was pressuring her and said if I didnt ask for it she would be more inclined to do it. so I stopped asking bout it and 4 months went by nothing so I finally ask her again and she said she just told me that to get me to stop asking. finally our sex life deteriorated to once a month no matter what I did or tried and I finally quit trying to have sex with her at all because it didnt feel like she was the same woman anymore. then after awhile I finally told her I had enough and moved out and filed for divorce

Tbh it took my 6 months too go down on my boyfriend... It can be hard for us girls... my boyfriend was patient with me and understood how I felt... So maybe yu sud do the same be patient with her... just make her feel special.

first of all id like to thank you. im sure the way you see this is how my boyfriend sees it. The reason why I wouldnt go down on him was because I actually have feelings for him and care about how good I am. All I want to do his please him. Im sure its the same for her. My boyfriend tells me hes willing to work with me too. So im sure were in the exact situation. Only on different sides. The first time I gave my boyfriend head, he implied thats all he wanted. He said he wanted me to do it so bad. And he started masterbaiting. He wouldnt stop looking at me and pleading for me to do it while he was. It made me want to do it so I tried it and I kinda liked it. Try the same thing. She might stop after a few seconds but thats just because shes scared and doesnt completely know what to do. Just tell her that made you feel good and keep begging. If she does something wrong like use her teeth try to let it slide a little until she gets more into it. then tell her it would feel better if she did it this way. Soon enough you might not get her to stop.

What is wrong with you pussies? Lay her on the bed, kneel over her, and slide it in! If she bites, slap her. She'll learn how to do it real fast.

You can be polite though. Dont expect her to swallow the first couple of times. Thats ok. Facials were invented for a reason!

I ave never done dis but it can be VERYnerve rackin because she does not know what your thinkin so maybee just tak bout it and see how you both feel !! hope I helped

that sucks for both of you when I started going down I didn't like it it was embaresing I didn't know how to breath or how not to gag it's not somthing you are good at right away. That was 11 years ago my husband and I have been together for 12 years now so I have had a lot of practice and you just have to let her know it's ok don't be embarrest the more you do it the better you get the more you like it. I like it so much now I crave it

maybe she feels bad saying no, but dosnt want to. If you care about her this is what you should do. Talk to her calmly and sincere and caring tell her that you feel a little jelouse of the guy she had a fling with and ask do want to get down on me/? say I dont care the answer I just want to know because im getting the feeling you dont but you keep saying you will. let her know you just want to know her thoughts if she says she dosnt want to let you down or dosnt wanna do it say thats okay I still love you give her a vig hug and kiss her (: if she says she does say are you sure, I dont wanna pressure you or anything if shes suree give her a hug and kiss her (: then hold her hand for a while to let her know you care.

omg dude if you truley do love her then give her time to work up to it! if you rush her then shell just keep playing with you

It sounds like she scared.But she really does want to please you its just that she doesnt know how to do it or is scared to.No offence but it sounds like your pressuring her.Talk to her about it ask her questions about why she wont do it!MAYBE JUST MAYBE youll find out why and I dont know but it could have something to do with the dude she gave head too before hope I helped

Ummm, seriously? You guys go down where another man has been? How's his dick taste? And I can't imagine eating where another woman's woo hoo has been. Another reaso nfor one guy one girl only.

She might just think you'll leave her after she does it. She probably still feels guilty about giving head to a guy she didn't care about. Maybe she just cares about you too much to think you're like that other guy.
Don't get mad, trust me it's hard for girls. We think too much as people, so when it comes to sex there's just no words for how many things go through our mind... usually.
Am I good, will he leave me, will he want me to do it ALL the time, will he force me to do other things, what if it smells, should I spit or swallow, or let it get on my body, if I make a mistake will he care, etc. etc.

There's too many things to count. Be patient. My ex tried to get me to give him head but I didn't want to because I thought penises smelled (I was 13, so was he. Horny little mofo..