My girlfriend wont go down on me.

My girlfriend and a I have been dating for about 6 months. shortly before I met her, she had a fling with this guy, and though she claims to have never had any real feelings for him, she got drunk one night and went down on him twice. early in our...

relationship I mentioned that I would like her to go down on me, I didnt make her or get mad, I just mentioned that it would be nice. I have gone down on her before and she used to hate it, but I told her to give me a chance and that maybe she would like it. she told me that she enjoyed it, and wouldnt mind me doing it again if I wanted to, but if I didnt want to then she would be ok with that and she said that the sex was more than enough for her. im not a big fan of going down on girls but I love my girlfriend and wanted to do something that is solely for her pleasure, and I thought that it might make her less nervous about going down on me. shortly after this she began to tell me that she was working herself up to going down on me. her parents were going to be gone for a week so I was going to spend the weekend at her place, for the 2 weeks leading up to the friday I was going over, she built up that she was ready to go down on me almost excited about it, naturally I was about it too. when the day came all we did was have sex, that night I asked her what happened to her preparedness, she said that she had forgotten but that she would do it the next night, so I dropped the subject. next day was the same, nothing. I asked her again and she said that once again she had forgotten, and that the next time we had a chance she would. this was a couple of months ago. and it was kind of a dead subject until recently, when I mentioned it again. then the other night she was drunk and I was in a meeting, and she sent me a text message reading hurry up I want to give you head. I got out of the meeting picked her up to come spend the night at my place, and when we got there we got into bed and she kissed me and said good night and went to sleep. when I showed her the text message the next day she said that she would have if she hadnt been so tired but that if she got drunk enough at our party that weekend that she would. at the party we were dancing, and she told me that she wanted to give me head, I said I wasnt sure if I would let her do it drunk, because she wouldnt be doing it becuase she wanted to, she would be doing only because she was drunk enough. her reply was I dont care, im going to tie you to the head board so you cant stop me. to me it sounded like she was serious. once again after the party though, we got back to my place, and she fell asleep as soon as we were in bed. I am starting to get mad. she is just teasing me, getting me worked up about it then deciding not to do it. it would be different if she wasnt bringing it up and telling me she will and then not doing it. also I feel like what is different between me and the fling, why was he good enough or hot enough or whatever that she OFFERED to do it and she wont do it for me. she always has an excuse for why she didnt, like I was tired, what if im bad, I forgot, and its gross. I cant remind her because I will feel like im forcing her. I dont care if it isnt great, im willing to work with her, it wont make me love her any less. am I being unreasonable? what should I do, remind her, forget about it or what?

I am going to be the girl talking in this post...
I dated a guy for four months, broke up with him for my best friend after me and my boyfriend f***ed. 3-4 months later, we reunite... I end up giving him head. Here's how he FINALLY got me to do it. He sat down and I kneeled on the floor. He got me really horny before, then would grab me by the throat [DO NOT HURT HER WHEN DOING THIS...] and kiss me and then slowly get my head farther and farther down. eventually, I just DID IT... Best of luck!!!
-And PLEASE dont EVER do it when shes drunk. she'll regret it!! and you might too...

Alrighty. I am a girl and I know these things so listen up.

She wants to because she knows you want her to. And sometimes, she's really in the mood for it and she really wants to. But when it comes right down to it, she's never in the mood when it comes time. Give her time. Stop talking about it. Eventually, she'll come around. Also, I like the whole cutting her off from sex idea. That would work with me. Lol.

my girl wont go down on me either

u dont much like going down on girls so surely you can understand why she might not like going down on you. Girls tend to be more shy and I think taking a penis in your mouth is harder than licking a girls bits so she is probably nervous. She may think that you are expecting it to be wonnderful and she is not going to be able to please you. all of these feelings can put a girl right off. If you are mature enough you will get her into a conmversation about it and ask her if shes worried and what she doesnt like about it. You may be able to reassure her and let her feel more in control to try this with you x

I agree with jesse but ima a girl

okay 2 me it sounds like she really wants 2 go down on yooh but maybe when shes all ready and wants 2 go down on yooh she thinks about that one guy she had the fling with and mite be kinda disgusted with he expierence and is afraid that yooh will be sorta similar 2 him

or maybe she wants you 2 no that yooh are special and that she really does want to go odwn on yooh but when yooh guys are 2gether and everythings about 2 happen she gets scared and backs out and makes up pitty excuses

I did exactly what shes doing with yooh except this was 4 my 1st kiss
I wood always be like ya I want to kiss yooh I do and blah blah blah but when we were 2gether and everything was so real I got scared and backed out.!

hope I helped
xoxo

you're not being unreasonable at all. obviously your girlfriend is uncomfortable with going down on you for whatever reason. maybe the fling was an unpleasant experience she doesn't want to relive? maybe she is uncomfortable because she doesn't know what to do. either way it seems kind of unfair that you'll do for her but she won't return the favor. try asking her if there is a real problem (of course her sudden spells of sleepiness are not the real reason) if she trusts you she will be honest

she's probably realy shy and wants to let you know that she's only naughty when shes drunk and not realising it, just try a lil more to make her feel comfortable around you by being really comfortable and not shy around her...
bonus: if she her zodiac sign is cancer she 's more probably shy. thats one thing I know for sure... hope I helped in a way or another,,

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Getting head is awesome man but it's not the end of the world if you don't get it. Recently I have been getting handjobs from my girl in public places like taco bell or at the library. Try to let her know and maybe an hour later eat her out in the 69 position like the other guy said your junk is in her face and she's getting pleasured you will at least get a lick or two and work from there. Just make sure not to come in her mouth or she will never even try again... And I might recomend trying public sex it's so exciting. Just stay up man it will all play through

Wow... my boyfriend must be asking himself the same Q...I hardly ever go down on him and neither do I expect him to go down on me... Though he does ask me to do it for him.. I find it slightly gross... And we've been together for 2 years now... So I guess it's not the end of the world... If you really want her to do this... Just withhold sex for a while... masturbate in the meanwhile... And let her know that you feel hurt that you do so much for her.. lol and she doesn't return the favor... it's a risk though... don't know if she hates going down on you enough to leave you...!

well mabe she just doesnt like it
and shes trying not to say it straight out to youu
just be patient or drop it
dont be selfish at least your having sex

Did You ever think that maybe she didnt want to give the other guy head? But did it anyways? Maybe she felt pressured that time. I think you should judt let her do it when she is good and ready..

Hope this helped.

Maybe she doesnt like it, but maybe she would do things for you if she really loved you; or wanted you; (you've heard them girls talk) if it involved pleasing you extremely.

LISTEN IF A GIRL DOESNT WANNA GO DOWN ON you SHE BLOODY WELL DOESNT HAVE TO ITS SOUNDS LIKE your GIRL IS TRYNA FIND EVERY EXCUSE NOT TO DO IT you SHUD RESPECT AND ACCEPT THAT SHE JUST DONT WANNA

maybe because the first time she did it there wasnt no pressure now it's like your pressuring her.

My husband and I have been married for over a year and I only just gave him head a few weeks ago. I had a very bad experience when I was younger and didn't like to give him head. It took me this long to get over my past and be able to do it. And I still don't like it very much but I do it for him bc he likes it so much. So she may not be comfortable with it and may need to be drunk to be able to do it comfortably unless she is drunk. If I drank, that would probably be my situation too...but I don't drink so I wouldn't know...

um dude?...maybe she was forced to do that to the guy when she was drunk...ever think of that?...or maybe she just isnt ready and she regrets what she did with that guy?...im sorry but if you keep asking her and pressuring her, shes going to feel like she needs to do it for you to stay with her...I've been forced to do it to someone...and I was ready to do it for my boyfriend after 9 months of dating...because I was ready and he only asked me once...for you to get mad at her is kinda shitty of u...and maybe shes better off with someone else that doesnt pressure people...shell do it when shes ready...and if thats not good enough for u, nothing is...

talk to her calmy about how you feel. you sound like a sincere guy and its obvious you care about her extremely. so maybe talking about it will help ease her into it. and shes a girl, girls love talking about how they feel. lol. just be very understanding of what she is saying and let her know you dont expect her to be perfect, you just want to try something new. and give her encouragement =]

the next time you guys are in bed and not sleeping make a deal with her say if she does it first youll do it to her