My girlfriend has sex?

I am a 22 year old male and I would say that I have a high libido. If I could, I would have sex at least once a day. Every partner I have had has kept me satisfied. The problem I am running into now is that my girlfriend doesn’t really want to have sex. She is 19 years old and was virgin. In fact this is her first relationship ever. We have been going out for four months and have been sexually active for almost three.

We constantly make out, mess around, and end up on the brink of having sex every time, in fact sometimes we do for only a second but she makes me stop because we are not using a condom. She stops me when I ask if I can get a condom. This is frustrating because it almost always puts a stop to everything else. She gets off almost every time we mess around and when she puts it to a stop it usually means I am in a constant state of frustration. Most of the times we have had sex, and we have only had sex 8 times, we have had to stop because it hurts her. When we have talked about it she tells me that she doesn’t enjoy sex, she doesn’t even like me fingering her all the time. Is there a reason for this? To my knowledge she has had no traumatic events in her life, and she is definitely not depressed.

When I ask her if it is anything that has to do with me she tells me “No it is not you at all.” This isn’t a relationship threatening problem because I love the girl. It is just physically frustrating and I am just wondering if it is something I am doing.

You two have only been together for four months and have been sexually active for three? That right there is your problem.She was a virgin and ended up giving it up probably only because she knew you wanted it and seeing how your her first boyfriend ever she just wanted to make you happy. A month was no where near long enough to wait to have sex.Of course she complains that it hurts. Imagine the pain if you had to stick something into the tip of your di*k, that's what having sex for her feels like. Don't push her into having sex. If she says she doesn't feel comfortable then don't push her.

Thanks for the advice. After talking things over, I told her that when she is ready again she could tell me.

One question I have to follow that up though is, she just stopped messing around about that same time too, it isn't a problem but I am curious as to why. When we talked about it she just said she wasn't a hormonal person and she just doesn't feel like it. Which was true from the start. She likes to cuddle and kiss / make out more.

We do still mess around but not as frequently; I just attributed it to having different schedules this semester, what do you think?

It could be that maybe she just doesn't like doing that kind of stuff often. Believe it or not but not all girls want to be touchy feely all the time.Don't take it to heart though cause it has nothing to do with you.

Oh yeah, just like you said she's never had a sex before you and your her first boyfriend theres a chance she could not feel comfortable messing around just like she doesn't feel comfortable having sex.

okay, I regret who I had sex first becuase he pushed me to have sex with him and I didnt want to. I think it is just a phase like it was for me. I remeber that I hated sex too becuase it didnt feel right and it hurt. Now I am more comfortable with it and myself and my boyfriend now is more relax about it... I dont know if thats becuase he jerks off or he is just weird... I am hoping its the first one. So my advice is dont push sex on her and hopefully soon for your sake she would be more comfortable with herself and with sex.