My girlfriend had an affair, how can i move forward?

Okay so I'm pretty much going to lay this all out there. About a month ago I found out that my girlfriend had an affair when she went away to florida for a month. It went on for about two months after she got back via emails and a social site. She broke...

it off with him becuase she realized she was happy with me. Now the thing is I found this out after hours of hacking different email accounts and other networks she was apart of. I'm just not sure what I should do. We are still together and for the most part it feels like our relationship has gotten a lot better, but it's really hard to get things out of my head. I love her to death and we're engaged and now she's even wearing the ring on her left hand. So I don't really know what I'm asking for advice towards, but it would be nice if people could give me their two cents and maybe tips on moving forward. If you need to know more just ask

Are you saying that after you got engaged she didn't immedietly wear it on her left hand? To me that says something like maybe she's not completly commited. I would wait to get married until your positive she's in it for the long run. I'm sorry your having relationship troubles. And marriage won't fix your problems.

**She broke it off with him becuase she realized she was happy with me.**

No, she stayed with you because she realized you're a sucker that will always let her walk all over you. You're a doormat. If it was that easy she'll do it again. And she didn't even have the decency to tell you herself, you had to snoop and find out. That's because she wasn't going to tell you. she was planning on stringing you along as long as she could get away with it. Why don't you find someone that actually appreciates you.

I agree with norseteg ... marriage wont help the relationship it will just complicate things more. She should ahve told you straight away and she shouldnt have done it if she was completely sure about you too. Im not sure whether she stayed with you because you were there at the time or if she does actually weanna be with you. well I would be very very cautious with her. She may onli end up hurting you more.

We've had a lot of ups and downs during our relationship and she from the very start always seemed unsure. She'd break up with me then call me up crying saying she made a mistake. We don't plan on getting married anytime soon and she alternates the ring from hand to hand but lately she has worn it on her left. She told me after a few weeks that she was looking for something like a highschool relationship where you get that instant spark. She told me she was afraid we lost ours but she told me that it has changed into something better it's not an intense spark but something that feels natural... something she said scares her a lot. I've been cheated on before and the other girl did cheat again and she really did nothing to change her ways or prove to me that things could get better. My girlfriend now on the other hand is trying, she's opening up a lot more now and calling me to tell me about her day (which she never used to do) and when she says she misses me it seems real. I think I've been stuck on what happen so much that I really couldn't see any of that til right about now.