My girlfriend doesn't want to get physical

My girlfriend and I are 19 years old and have been dating for a year and 3 months. We spend a lot of time together, usually trying to hang out at least every other day (as much as the parents can handle). We have a great time together and do lots of fun things during the day, but later on in the day things tend to get a little bumpy. I want to have sex somewhat, but she is very strong in her religious and moral views about sex and wants to wait until marriage. We have talked about it and decided that we can wait. We have been making out for probably over a year now, but she recently decided that she didnt want to engage in anything more than making out. (We had been engaging in foreplay-type activities and stimulating each other with our hands, but no oral sex either). She says that she is just not comfortable with it and she is not ready. We also have to hang out at our parents houses where we live and she is petrified of being caught doing things. I asked her if she was not attracted to me physically anymore, but she said she is. She is very shy and didnt know anything about being physically intimate so I usually have to initiate things. She is self-concious about her body, but I tell her all the time how beautiful and sexy she is and she even admits that she feels comfortable around me because she knows that I like her the way she is. We share a very close, mature bond and are similar in many ways. This is both of our first relationships and I dont know what to do. I love her more than anything and I think she is just an amazing girl and we have a great time together, except in bed. What can I do to make her more comfortable and want to get physical with me?

You have been with your girlfriend for about a year now, which shows that her and you are doing very well. However, you can't make her have sex with you. Accept the fact that she goes by her religious and moral standards. You and her are not on the same page when it comes to your beliefs in sex. If you truly respect her morals, then let her wait for marriage. You can't convince her to not follow her religious views. Even if you two cannot have sex, it does not mean you and your girlfriend still can't be together.

Considering that your girlfriend is very self-consious about herself, the only and best thing you can do is make her feel good about herself. Tell her everyday that she's beautiful and that she means a lot to you. Show her how much you really love her.

You can't pressure her into having sex with you man, you should be accepting her beliefs and her moral standards. I know how you feel, you're starting to get that horny feeling and wanting to get 'physical' but respect her beliefs or else you may end up losing her by trying to pressure her. She doesn't sound ready at all to be ready to do that. Just trust me respect and accept her beliefs and wait for her, if you truely love each other then the wait will be worth it!

Hope I helped

You can't make her do anything she doesn't want to do. You should just accept that she's not ready and her religous beliefs. If she's not ready, she's not ready. If she ends up doing something she didn't want to do, then you guys might end up falling apart because of the guilt she might feel afterwards. Then, if you wait for her, she'll see that and end up loving you more and more each day. If she doesn't want to do anything, you love her enough right? then accept that and continue being happy in other ways besides the physical stuff.

You can't pressure her to or she'll resist. Also, if your morals and values, wants, and needs in a relationship differ, it is time that you step back and reevaluate the strength of it [your relationship]. It shows that she is willing to compromise, the fast that you guys have had some 'hands- on' time. This is good. You guys are only 19. Your not going to get married and settle down any time soon with success following. The question you should ask yourself is, 'Can I wait another ___ years?'

Just would like to add a metaphor for entertainment value: Waiting for sex until marriage makes no sense. Sex is a huge part of a married couple's relationship, and how do you know how the sex is going to be until you have it? And by that time it's too late to back out. It's like getting a dog at the pound and trying it out before you get it a license and start calling it Fluffy.

^That was uncalled for, but I read it somewhere and felt the urge to quote it.

I semi- agree with modernwinterbreeze. Although she might be feeling self conscious and it is good for you to compliment your girlfriend and boost her self esteem, there's nothing worse than a guy who tells some one's she's beautiful everyday. That's as bad as saying nothing. The words lose their meaning and become hollow. Also, don't say these things when your making out with her. Then she'll feel like your using them to get somewhere. Tell her at a quiet time when your relaxed, like watching a movie or sometime non- physical esque. Look at her for five seconds and when she says 'What?' tell her 'You look really beautiful tonight.' In a casual but meaningful way. To be cliche, 'SAY IT LIKE YOU MEAN IT, MAN!'

I want to make clear that I DO NOT want to pressure her into having sex. Just a little something would be nice. Something more than just kissing.

I read that if a guy TRULY loves a girl, he will wait forever if needed for sex. You need to respect her feelings, and if you cant, maybe she isnt the girl for you!