Does her purity vow mean we can't do anything?

She has an...obligation...when she was like 9 years old her parents forced her to take this class on purity. Now she can't have sex until the wedding night. We've been together for a year now and I'm very frustrated sexually. Masturb*tion just ain't doing it any more and I don't want to cheat on her. So the question is how do I find out if her purity vow says anything about oral or mutual Mast? And then how do I ask her to do it.

...seriously. If you haven't successfully pressured her into having sex with you, good for her. Staying pure until marriage (meaning no mas*urbat*on or oral either) is her choice. She may be telling you that it's because she took that class, but I'm pretty sure she's not having sex with you because she DOESN'T WANT to.

If you can't respect her beliefs, I suggest you find a new girl. She clearly deserves better than you.

P.S. You know what I think? I think your girlfriend is no older than thirteen... and neither are you, for that matter. You certainly don't sound like you were born in 1989.

acctually Im 18 and shes 19. I do respect her decision thats why I HAVEN'T acted on my feelings so far. I've never tried pressuring her into sex because I DO respect what shes trying to do. The whole reason I came here was to find out exactly what her purity entails. I've never even pushed the issue with any kind of sexual contact, even speaking of sex around her to make her feel more comfortable. In fact she made the move into kissing then making out. What prompted this, in part, was a conversation we had AT WORK, a small scale anti-drug NPO, a week ago. She said that she wished she could do more for me and her primary concern was my own obligation, Clerical Chastity/Celibacy, and didn't want me to loose my Deconship. All I know is neither of us can have sex but for me "sexual contact" is ok. We are of different religions and what is acecptabe is very different im sure. The only reason I've never mentioned anything to her was to avoid her own embaresment.
And BLESS YOU xiigzag I hope most of your other advice is better. Personally attacking someone isn't the proper way of getting their attention. if you knew anything about education you would know that your methods are ineffective. Breaking a person down and dissing there character is only effective 2 out of 10 times outside of the military. Heaven Help anyone you meet pondering suicide.

Am I missing the obvious here, in that the easiest way to ask what her purity vow entails and covers is to ask her yourself, and in doing so you'll also be letting her know that you might like to try some of these things?

thats the thing though. I have year long repore with this girl and dont want to upset her to make her think twice. I'm madly in love with her and know for a fact shes the women I want to spend my life with. I'd hate to mess that up.

Me and my Girlfriend went through something simmiar to this recently...Last night in fact. I Wouldn't worry to much about your Clerical Obligations bro. I am a Chaplain and trust me its no big deal. As long as your not sticking little limp Timmy into her honey jar you're ok. An@l sex and oral are acectable for you. As for her...thats a horse of a different color. My lady and I got on the subject after HE popped out while we were kissing...Well hes always out when we kiss but for some reason she found him. Later she asked me about it and I fessed up. We expressed our thoughts on the idea and she broke down how purity works...Well how HER purity works. they set up these rules and you try not to break them...Which include talking about, thinking about, wondering, and performing sexual acts on oneself ..Something she does quite often I guess, YEAH THAT RIGHT I GOT ME A FREAKY GIRL YESSS. So she set up her own rules and alters them if need be...Long story short I'm getting a JB and shes gets have the pink canoe serviced my a pro.. I don't see the harm in asking her about it...If shes that big a prude that she wont talk about it chances are she wont even do it after your married. I mean for all you know shes could be unclogging the jar as we speak.

WTF is this guy talking about. Me and my ex both had purity vows and we broke them. Unfoutunatlym due to issuse out side of my control, we broke up and now I regret getting into bed with her. SOmething I hed important is now gone. Think twice before you go doning anything.