My friends have found out I'm seeing him again

I have recently started seeing my ex-boyfriend again that was not very nice to me in the past at all. Lots of bad things happened and it ended with my parents and friends never wanting to see or hear of him again. This was two years ago. We have grown up a lot more and realised that all we rele needed is a fresh start and to forget the past completely...since this started again about 3months ago we have been sooo happy together and everything has been great. Acept I only told three of my friends who altho concerned for me believed that this time I was calling the shots and I understood what I was doing. Unfortunatly for me two girls (who I dont even no that well) saw me getting into his car with him and procceeded to tell all of my other friends. One of them was sobbing to another and I got abusive messages from others...its the weekend now and I wont see them again till monday...please tell me what I can do to make things better...

You went out with this ex-boyfriend and gave him a second chance. Second chances can be good.Everyone either needs or wants change at times. I understand that you had a tough past with your boyfriend, but if times changed and he has more respect towards you now, then that's considered a very good thing.

We can never predict what will happen in the future, and you probaly never imagined going out with your ex-boyfriend again. However, when it comes to your friends, they want the best for you. They don't want to see their friend being hurt or disrespected by a guy. My advice for you is to not worry what your friends think. It's not like your friends can make you stop going out with him. It's your choice, not theirs.

If your friends start to have an issue about this, talk to them about how much he's changed for the good, because of course, everyone needs a fresh start time to time. However, if some of them don't accept the fact that you're going out with this kid, then that's their problem.

I wish you the best of luck.

Sincerely,
Danielle

Thankyou for that
second chances...hmm if im completely and utterly honest this guy has had a few more chances than a second...however these chances were in very close times spaces so we didnt have time to spend time apart and see how things turned out...this chance has been after a longer time space but I can see he has grown up a lot more and I have matured and am no longer the naive little girl I used to be...

I think if anything my friends are upset that I didnt tell them and they had to find out the way that they did...and I no you should have told them...

x

I THINK THAT YOU DID GOOD BECAUSE YOU GUYS NEED A NOTHER CHANCE

wow..I think danielle has said it all...tho you and boyfriend had a bad past.. it has been 2 year..and it seems that you're grounded by callin the shots and noein what you're doing!! you've told 3 of your close buds that support you with the relationship...so its all good!! and the rest of em dunt even matter!! ... no matter what your other friends say or do...the choice is yours to be made in the end =)

yeah thankyou...argh its just the friends I havent told seem to be completly gutted that I didnt tell 'my closest friends' and they feel betrayed that I didnt tell them...