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You should think about this from your cousin's point of view. You said she is sleeping your room: why? Have her parents left her? Does she know her parents? Are they away for a while?
Chances are, she hates sharing your room with you, too. She most likely feels she is imposing. Maybe she misses her parents and wishes she was sleeping in her own home with them. If you are semi-close with your cousin, try talking to her. Bring it up casually--maybe try an apology in a joking sort of way. Get her to talk to you. It sounds like she is angry, but maybe she is just defensive and scared. You are in your own bed, but she isn't. Try to talk to her--it might reveal more than you think.
Your cousin and her parents sound pretty nasty, but at the same time maybe they are embarrased at the situation that they had to no choice but to take charity from family. You didn't state why they are staying with your family in the first place. Are they just there for a visit? Are they there cause of financial reasons? If it is just for a visit would you be able to just try to ignore your cousins bad behavor for the short term? If it is cause of financial reasons they may be totally embarrased of the fact that they have to take charity from your family, and as a result are not acting like they normally would. My heart really goes out to you. You must feel like your privacy is being invaded. Most people think of their bedrooms as their private sanctuary where you can escape to when you need time on your own and be away from other family members and to just relax. That has totally been taken away from you. I agree with what bigmuma had to say, but I personally would not tell her that you would get them kicked to the curb. I would wait for a time when you and your cousin are both calm and try to have a frank discussion with her and tell her how the situation is making you feel, and remember to mention that you understand that she may feel bad about the situation as well. Maybe the two of you can come to a compromise. Good luck with everything!
Dear babyangel22,
It is illegal for the two of you to share a bed. Under the children's protective services you are expected to have your own bed. It sounds like your family has taken them in because of some problems. It's time your Aunt takes control and gets her own place even if it means going to social services. There is not need for them to be living with you.
Sue...good luck
My fault?
Uhm.. well this morning, I made my bed [I share a bed with my cousin, which I don't like I got up and went to the bathroom, she was still in bed. When I came back, my covers were all messed up, so I climbed on the bed and lifted my covers, her covers were kinda on mine, so when I did that hers kinda went up too. She got like mad and was like
"You do that again and I'll tell your mom."
I was like "Go right ahead... *silence*.. not like it's your room."
She said after hesitating.. "Fine, then go tell your mom not to tell me sleep here."
We spoke in Chinese, so that's teh best I can translate it to.
I hate her for so many reasons, and I just thought.. "Omg? I didn't even say anything and she starts talking sh*t first?"
She's been pushing over my stuff for the past few weeks and I didn't even do anything.
I don't even go complaining to my mom when all my sisters do.
Am I wrong about this?
What should I do?
I don't even think I'm going to sleep next to her tonight. I think I'm going to go downstairs and sleep on the couch.
I think she even told her mom and her dad.. about what happened this morning because my uncle asked my brother if he hated his daughter. I didn't even say anything to my parents yet.
What should I do?